The Food Is Destroying Masculinity

7 Years ago I became a vegan. I did it cold turkey the moment I read a research paper that detailed the link between the food we ate and how it affected the way we behave, the way we think, and how we feel. There’s an old cliche that you literary are what you eat, but many don’t understand how deep that statement actually goes. The number of people being diagnosed with both anxiety and depression are continuing to sky rocket, and most of us aren’t taken into account the depression and anxiety experienced by the animals that we’re eating right before they’re slaughtered. If we take the statement literal, that we are what we eat, can it not also be said that if we eat depression and anxiety that we can experience depression and anxiety? If we all had to watch a video showing exactly how the food sitting still in our supermarket actually got there, most of us would choose another option.

As I continued my research through the years I was led to plethora of information that was detailing exactly how the food we were eating, and it’s additives were turning the male dominant hormone Testosterone into the female dominant hormone Estrogen. Thus, it was affecting the way both men and women thought, behaved, and felt. We’ve all heard how irrational pregnant woman can behave when their bodies are producing the “pregnancy hormones”, but why haven’t we heard about how irrational all us can behave when the food we’re eating is literary altering and changing our hormones as well?

It’s no surprise that we have gang of women complaining that “men aren’t men anymore” just as we have a gang of men complaining that “women aren’t women anymore”. The food the majority of us are eating and the water we’re drinking is literary reengineering our hormones every hour of every day. It’s reengineering the way we think, the way we feel, and the way we respond to every day life.

We seem to think that our thoughts are us, but this isn’t true. The way we “feel” isn’t always genuine to who we are. Advertisers spending billions of dollars in research every year learning new ways to use visual stimuli to make us “feel” what they want us to feel so that we can buy their products. And they’re incredibly effective at this. The western worlds culture is consumption; we buy things we don’t need more than anyone else in the world.  We even go so far as to go into debt, just so that we can buy things we don’t need.  Are these truly our desires? Or are we being advertised to, and marketed to so effectively, that our subconscious is being supplanted with desires deep enough that they feel like they’re our own? The detergent you buy isn’t necessarily the one you like the most, it’s largely the one that’s been supplanted into your subconscious the most through advertisement. These companies aren’t spending billions of dollars on these things for no reason, they spend the money because they know it works.

The videos games on your phone, Netflix, and your favorite commercials all understand this process. They use a continuum loop that keeps your interest. This loop makes it almost impossible to not enjoy it, and to just want to see the next episode. When we’re up all night binging, our bodies actually want to go to sleep, but our “feelings” tell us to keep on watching.

The food industry is having the most success at this, and I write this to reiterate that our feelings aren’t us. Nor should we listen to our feelings just because we feel them. Many people wouldn’t be able to enjoy freedom today if they listened to their anger at times when it was high just because they felt it.

I believe this is the main reason societies were always given a moral compass in literature form. Whether that be the bible, the Koran, the 42 laws of MA’AT etc. Man always had the option to ask himself, “is what I FEEL like doing in alignment with this “divine” scripture?” If the answer was no, man would have to be strong enough to be better than how he felt. If the answer is yes, man was free to indulge. If all man ever did was go off of the way that he felt, society would be in complete chaos.  Feel like stealing? Steal. Feeling like running the red light? Run it. Laws have always been in place and will always need to be in place to help society be better than just the way they feel.

So i’m writing this, because I intend to tell you a few ways that this is directly being done through the food. Lets start with Atrazine.

Atrazine

In short, Atrazine is pesticide that is currently sprayed on over 80% of your crops across America. A chemical that is currently banned in over 75 countries around the world, but yet we still use it here in one of the worlds most dominate super powers. The first time I heard about Atrazine it was from a Harvard Graduate Biologist that is now a Biology professor at the University California named Tyrone Hayes. He brought forth information that suggested, that the chemical atrazine causes a dramatic reduction of Male Chromosomes at levels which are three times lower than what is currently appearing in our drinking water. Tyrone Hayes has been at war with Syngenta(the company that produces the chemical) ever since he was silenced after presenting what he found. Even though Syngenta themselves were the company that hired him to research it. Atrazine affects men negatively, by literally shrinking their gonads, or causing them to hormonally become women, but it also affects women, causing low estrogen levels and irregular menstruation. After Tyrone had given this chemical to frogs he noticed that it literary turned one in ten frogs male frogs into females. Tyrone B. Hayes, the Professor Of Integrative Biology states:

““These male frogs are missing testosterone and all the things that testosterone controls, including sperm. So their fertility is as low as 10 percent in some cases, and that is only if we isolate those animals and pair them with females,” he said. “In an environment where they are competing with unexposed animals, they have zero chance of reproducing.”

“The 10 percent or more that turn from males into females – something not known to occur under natural conditions in amphibians – can successfully mate with male frogs but, because these females are genetically male, all their offspring are male.”

Now are we to say that a chemical that literary converts Male frogs into Female frogs, and causes the male frogs to begin engaging in sexual activity with other male frogs has no effect on us? This is a chemical that we use 80 million pounds of a year here in the USA. A chemical banned in over 75 countries. Its in all of your water, and in the majority of you non-organic food. Heres his video below if you would like more info, but lets move on.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mP-6Gp5RbjQ

Soy

The first time I heard about the ill effects of Soy I was listening to an radio show featuring Dick Gregory in which he was the discussing the suspicions that begin to arise in him when he noticed that soy was suddenly popping up all over the ingredients list on the majority of conventional food products. In turn, he hired a woman that he paid a million dollars to spend a year researching the product and its effects on humans. Dick stated that after the three weeks he had gotten a phone call from the researcher who was in tears; weeping, and sobbing barely able to formulate a sentence. In a fit of depression and sadness she said to him “ I had been wondering why my daughter was a lesbian this entire time. And I am started to learn it was because I was feeding her soy milk since she was a child. “

Soy infant formula puts your baby’s health at risk. Nearly 20 percent of U.S. infants are now fed soy formula, but the estrogens in soy can irreversibly harm your baby’s sexual development and reproductive health. Infants fed soy formula take in an estimated five birth control pills’ worth of estrogen every day. Infants fed soy formula also have up to 20,000 times the amount of estrogen in circulation as those fed other formulas! Let the alone the direct links between soy and Brain Damage and Breast Cancer.

The consumption of Soy literary triggers the Aromatase Enzymes in the body to begin converting the male dominate hormone Testosterone into the female dominate hormone Estrogen. And as I already stated, a persons chemical and hormonal make up will affect their behavior. Just look at commercials for many pharmaceuticals that state that “ If you begin developing thoughts of suicide, stop taking immediately and contact your doctor”. In other words ” This medication can change your thoughts.” And had it not been for that fore warning, most would think those thoughts were genuine. What other thoughts are produced from many of the chemical laced GMO foods we eat everyday that no one is talking about?

Give a child processed sugar and chemically laced candy and watch their behavior immediately become affected. I’ve seen parents feed their children candy and then punish them for being overly hyper and not being able to sit down or be still. How backwards is that?

Here a few more chemicals with links to further research that we all consume daily that are literary turning male testosterone into estrogen, and female estrogen into testosterone.

BPA Plastic(Bisphenol A) – Anything you Consume that comes in plastic has BPA. BPA is an endocrine disruptor that mimics the effects of estrogen and interferes will all hormone levels, cell signaling systems, and genetic messages. 6 billion pounds of this is used a year.

Fluoride – Fluoride is found heavily in all of our tap water, tooth paste, salts, and almost 90% of our bottled water as well. Tooth Paste states that if you swallow a piece sized amount of fluoride you should call a doctor, yet we put it into our mouths to brush our teeth with it. Almost as if the mouth doesn’t absorb what we put into it through the walls of our skin into our blood stream. Ingesting fluoride does create hormone dysfunction, low testosterone, cardiovascular diseases, and cancer.

DioxinDioxins are a toxic byproduct of various industrial processes that are ingested in the fat of meats and dairy products. All of our conventional meat products and dairy products contain this chemical Dioxin, that decreases the sperm count, lowers testosterone levels, and raises estrogen levels in the body.

Lead, Mercury, Phthalates, Perchlorate, PFCs, Arsenic, and Glycol ethers are just a few more chemicals that we are willingly putting into our bodies each and every day that are literary reengineering our hormones – altering the way that we behave and think. I would advise anyone reading to do further research on these chemicals. Everyone has different levels of immunity, therefore some are much more susceptible to the effects of these chemicals than others, but we ALL are affected by them one way or another.

Which only leads me to finally ask.. What effect do you think these chemicals have on a developing fetus still growing in its mothers womb that has yet to fully develop its immune and endocrine systems? If a mother pregnant with a male child is consuming chemicals that are directly converting his testosterone into estrogen every single day that he is in the womb, what effect does this then have on the male child that is born? That’s a conversation that our society of today is probably too sensitive to have, but it’s something I want the readers to think about.

In closing, I don’t care if you’re a man or a woman we should all be protecting ourselves from things that chemically alter our minds and bodies. I’m not saying go vegetarian or vegan, I’m just saying that we should care about what we’re eating. If you’re going to eat meat, make sure you get it free ranged; free of the antibiotics and the hormones these animals are being pumped with that allow them survive in conditions unfit for anything to live in. Read your “ingredients” labels on everything you buy. If you can’t pronounce it, or if you don’t know what it is without doing a google search don’t eat it. Filter your water as well. All of these additives that you can’t pronounce or that you don’t know without a google search will alter thought, feeling, and behavior in some way.

I’ve noticed dramatic changes in both myself an many of my friends that applied this information. Before this journey I remember times when I would get “sad” at random – a random wave of depression if you will. Come to find out it wasn’t random at all; I just wasn’t as hormonally balanced as I am now. Nowadays I couldn’t tell you the last time I wasn’t happy. I’ve been emotionally consistent ever since I fully detoxed myself of the build up of these listed chemicals.

This is something we all can do. With the rise of the mental health conversations today we need to do more talking about the way the food we’re eating is directly affecting our mental health. The body, mind, and the spirit are all connected. The things that affect our bodies affect our minds, the things that affect our minds affect our spirits. There is no “spirituality” without physical health. Protect yourself.

Eddie Fews


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The Testosterone Secret You Haven’t Been Told

I was reading an article about avoiding the common estrogen mocking chemical BPA(Bisphenol A) that 90% of us ingest daily in attempt to preserve testosterone, when I encountered a comment from a guy questioning why it appeared that people in poorer communities had more testosterone than he, when they are exposed to many more testosterone inhibiting chemicals due to poverty than he does. That was when I began to think on this myself because I agreed with his comment. All the testosterone inhibiting chemicals in the world that people from less wealthy circumstances encounter still wasn’t enough to keep them from having higher testosterone than people in upper class communities. But why?

In short.. it’s because they’re uncomfortable.

When one does the research on increasing testosterone levels what they’ll find is, the majority of non-diet related steps to increase the testosterone hormone involve getting uncomfortable. Things like high intense exercises, cold showering/ice baths, giving up porn/masturbation etc. All these things require one to give up “Pleasure” and comfort for testosterone. I personally take a freezing cold shower every single day and for the first few months it was one of the most uncomfortable experiences I had encountered in my life at the time. Now, I don’t even feel it. I’ve adapted and developed a natural edge in which I’m connected to the cold water. The thought of taking a warm shower is completely unappealing to me. I’ve tried and I immediately turn the water back to cold. The benefits of the cold shower far outweigh the pleasure and comfort of the warm shower. And this is kind of how it is for people in lower income communities.

Just as men who traditionally lived in the wild and had to learn how to hunt, maintain awareness, and defend themselves for survival; people in lower income communities have a similar experience . Too many mistakes in the wild could lead one to be mistaken a “prey” and potential “food” for a predator. In that same light, too many mistakes in “the hood” could give one the appearance of a free meal as well. There is an edge that has to be maintained, there is a certain vibe one has to adapt, and a level of getting “comfortable” with the “uncomfortable” that one must learn to stay alive.

The subconscious mind is programmed for survival. Its only job is to provide you with the motivation and desire necessary to keep you alive. Anything extra must be consciously chosen, ardently desired, and then persistent in by your conscious mind. You would have to make your own personal choice to make decisions to create and develop an edge that will assist in building testosterone. When you first jump into a cold shower the subconscious will SCREAM loudly for you to turn the water back warm, because you don’t need cold water on your skin to survive. So unless you have the discipline or a conscious desire greater than the influence of your subconscious you will indeed back out and turn the water back warm.

When one lives in a wealthy suburban area what subconscious need is there to motivate you to develop an edge outside of a conscious choice? The community knows one another, there’s little to no crime, the neighbors wave as your walking by, and so forth? If a person that has only known this type of community were to be thrown in the center of “The hood” the subconscious would scream loudly by giving you fear and anxiety as to say “ Get back to the suburbs!” Just as it would tell you to turn the water back warm after throwing yourself into a cold shower. But if you were to consciously choose to stay in the cold water and/or adapt to your new environment you would develop the edge that would generate the survival induced testosterone that the people in these areas tend to have.

Now, I don’t write this to say “ Go get comfortable in the hood to get more testosterone”. I write this for you to ask yourself – what comforts are normal for you that you get uncomfortable without could you give up to develop an edge that will lead to an increase in testosterone if desired? To gain anything most understand that we must give something up. If we want fire, we must give up some of our wood. What are you willing to give up for this?

I remember when I wasn’t as comfortable approaching women. I remember when I didn’t have the razor sharp edge that made it is as easy then as it is now. I remember when I had to plow through discomfort and mild anxiety and consciously choose to do it despite the emotions coming from the subconscious that said ” you don’t need to approach women to survive”. Just as I had to consciously choose to cold shower, and subconsciously adapt to a rougher neighborhood growing up. All these things were the building blocks that developed the edge that lead to the increased testosterone that I have today.

That edge will give you a swagger, a confidence and a self awareness that will make you happy, make women attracted to you, and make men respect you. Those that choose a life of comfort never quite experience the level respect that these others do.

Why do you think Conor McGregor is such a huge superstar? He grew up rough, that roughness gave him an edge, that edge triggered a generating of more testosterone, and all of that properly directed into a field he could succeed in ( UFC – Mixed Martial Arts) is the reasons millions of children and men all over the world want to emulate him today. You can’t find me a man without an edge that people directly want to emulate. They may want to emulate an edge-less mans work, but they’re never trying to emulate him. This is what the Alpha Males that all men tend to think they are today are made of.

You can try all the dietary tricks and take all the supplements you like to build testosterone, but it can also build on its own without these things when you consciously give up comforts and live your life on the edge.

Thanks for reading.

Eddie Fews


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Should Men Be Allowed A Cheat Day In Relationships?

This one will probably be met with several screw faces from the female supporters, but I’m going to be optimistic and offer a perspective that should speak to a few of you. The few with a mind that is open to at least discussing masculine ideas without becoming angry. The few who’ll find it easiest to get a man to want to commit to them long term in the first place. I’ve found in my personal life that the most attractive and confident women have a spirit of seeking to understand. They may not agree right away, but they don’t go touting their opinion easily. They understand that there is a difference within the psychology of a man and a woman and thus, they seek to understand the males way of thinking to better help them function in a union with one. The majority of these women just so happen to be in functional relationships, but perhaps that’s just a coincidence.

Today it’s very easy for a woman to say, “Well this is what I want and if he doesn’t like it then its on to the next one”, but how long does this mentality survive until you’ve worn yourself out through failed relationship after failed relationship and one finds themselves alone? It is the very “on to the next one” mentality that results in a man not feeling attracted to a woman anyway. I’ve wrote about this before. A man thrives off of feeling needed, so if you’re mentality is “On to the next one, I can do fine without a man, My feelings or the highway etc…” you will produce a vibe that  will subconsciously be a repellent to the opposite sex. He may stick around to enjoy the sex, the affection, and good times, but his eyes will continue to wander to a place in which he can feel that he is “needed”.

Women want to feel “wanted” and men want to feel “needed”. It is a thin line, but there is a difference between the two. Before I get into the topic let me also say that there are always exceptions to every rule. Every time I write something like this I get an email from a woman saying,“ Well I knew this guy that this didn’t apply to”. Of course you do. I’m speaking to the majority. If I wrote an article saying, “Men have ten toes” would you email me saying, “ Well I disagree. I knew someone who had 11 toes?”.

No.

So lets not do that here.

It is also true that men are being emasculated today. We’re dealing with some of the most emotional, not knowing what they want, tipping toeing men of all time. This is happening for several reasons that I will be tackling in my next article,“Why Have Men Become So Effeminate?”. Women are also being a lot more masculine, and consequently we’re dealing with some of the most aggressive, detached, and combative women of all time. So I understand that these two types will be the first to write this content off before they even try comprehend it. But my intent is only to speak to the true nature of masculinity, and not what masculinity has been marginalized into during the 21st century.

Now with that being said, this article is not written to encourage women to give their man a cheat day, its more so written to get women to understand a male’s way of thinking, his nature, and his emotions more than anything. You can do whatever you want with the information after that, but understanding one another should be pivotal. So I’m going to go into several aspects arguing my case, and if you can keep an open mind and put away what YOU think, and your opinions for a moment please continue. If you’re already turning up your nose and waiting to disagree, you can stop here and leave a comment disagreeing as if you read the entire thing and understand what I’m trying to say.

I’ll start by presenting this one fact: ‘A single human male produces enough sperm in two weeks to impregnate every fertile woman on the planet.

Would you or would you not agree that a creatures genetic make up has some impact an influence on what that creature does and that creature’s way of thinking? Surely a lion being born with claws and sharp teeth feels compelled to hunt animals for meat. Its teeth and digestive system aren’t made to digest grass, and so it hunts because of its biological make up . This isn’t some social construct. No one has to tell the lion that it’s suppose to hunt other animals. The lion knows instinctively that its job is to hunt because of the cards that it has been dealt. So, what would possessing enough sperm cells to impregnate every fertile woman on the planet every two weeks do to a man on an instinctual level when our bodies naturally  produce hormones that trigger us to want to reproduce? Nothing happens for no reason in nature. It is our hormones and our emotions that trigger our actions.

For example, when a man or woman becomes angry it is because their bodies are producing a chemical called catecholamine, and it is this chemical that triggers the motivation to act out in anger. Its not just a mental thing.  It’s a hormonal cause for the emotion that proceeds before the action. So in that same light, how does a woman only being able to have one child a year influence her instinctual behavior? Her traditional nature would encourage her to find one suitable partner with strong genes so that she could give birth and maintain the population of the planet. Nature didn’t create sex so that we could have pleasure, nature made sex pleasurable so that we would reproduce. If sex were painful our subconscious would instinctively shy us away from the act.

So what does a man and woman’s biological nature tell you about the way that we feel compelled to act instinctively? A man’s nature – producing enough sperm to impregnate every female on the planet; a woman’s nature – only being able to produce one child per year? Which would be the one that would be more concerned with finding a commitment with one person? And before anyone says humans have free will… sure we do, but nature still plays its role. This is why you consistently hear women saying, “All men are the same” and men saying ,“ All women are the same”. Surely we each have our own personality and things that makes us unique, but we all possess the same nature. Just as all lions are the same, and all dolphins are the same. They each have unique attributes, but when you boil them down to their nature they each do the same exact things.

And this brings me to my next point:

When a male and female copulate,hug, kiss or touch, a chemical called oxytocin is produced. Oxytocin is a bonding chemical, and this is what creates the romantic feelings we feel for one another. The body begins to crave the feel good chemical oxytocin and this creates the emotion which is responsible for attachment. The most oxytocin is produce when a woman breast is being sucked on, so if any ladies out there are with a no good man that you can’t seem to get away from; keep the guy away from your breast. This is the same chemical produced when a woman is breast feeding that intensifies the bond and connection between a mother and her child. Now, did you that know oxytocin is produced by both man and woman, but testosterone nullifies oxytocin? And the more testosterone a man has the more difficult it will be for him to be attached to any one person. The chemical responsible for attachments begins to be nullified within him. You don’t just love someone dearly because you love them, you love them because they’ve succeeded at producing a sufficient amount of feel good chemicals in your body that created the attachment. This can’t be forced and/or manufactured. A man can’t just love you the way you love him because you want him to. You have to succeed at producing high enough levels of oxytocin within him that can’t be all nullified because of his testosterone. And the more testosterone he has, the more difficult this will be. Which is why the most alpha males(men with the highest testosterone counts) sleep with the most women and have the most difficult time with commitment. He just doesn’t feel it the way that you do. So a mans ability to want to stick around with you after sex isn’t just based on how soon or how late you have sex with him. It is based on how much oxytocin you’ve succeeded at getting him to produce before, and during the act. You wait too long and see him too infrequently, and he will have produced enough testosterone to get rid of it- and the attachment. Too soon, and there simply just isn’t enough yet.

Now let me just say that it is possible to make a man produce enough oxytocin in one day if you’re skilled, and if things line up with the other factors in play, but that’s another article altogether. I will elaborate more on this in my book for woman on how to successful seduce the man they want, but what I will say is that the less sperm a man is carrying over an extended period of time the less testosterone he will have. So if he has masturbated or had sex several days before meeting you and you’re skilled, he won’t have the testosterone available to nullify the oxytocin. Hence why older men are more willing to enter a commitment because a mans testosterone count lowers as he gets older. This is not something men are aware of. For the most part we’re just on autopilot responding to our nature. So my question is, why must men be held to the same commitment standards as women when we’re not even capable of feeling the same things that women are feeling for us biologically? Should a man born without sight  be forced to pass an eye exam lest he be cast away?

Why is it that the majority of mammals on the planet exist within a system that contains few males and many females? In a cow pen there is one bull, and a bunch of cows. Lion prides contain one lion and several lioness. In a herd of deer there is usually one alpha male deer that is responsible for impregnating 90% of the females in the herd. Even in a chicken coop there is usually one or two roosters( if the coop is big enough) and a bunch of hens and the one rooster is responsible for fertilizing all the eggs. What is that telling us about the nature of male creatures? Perhaps just more coincidences.

Lets dive into commitment from a male point of view:

When a woman meets a confidant alpha male who naturally attracts a lot of women what is the usual dynamic? Typically the Alpha male will not be looking to settle down with any one particular girl in the early years of his life, and so he will be developing  non-exclusive relationships with multiple women. Because the women like him, they will put up with it for a short time before pressuring him to commit to them exclusively over all of the other girls that he’s seeing. He’ll do one of two things: If he likes her he’ll do his best to comfort her and assure her that he does have feelings for her but he’s still not ready. In other words, he hasn’t been worn down enough.  Now if he doesn’t like her, he’ll just cut her off and/or make it clear to her that it’s not going to happen and she’ll walk away or stay until she finds someone willing.

All men who have high levels of success with women have been confronted with this dynamic multiple times. Often from two or three women all at once. We know that we chase women initially to lock in their interest and to win their compliance, and then she chases us after that to maintain our investment in her and to win our commitment. Commitment is almost never actually something that WE as alpha males want. Its something that we give to our women if we value them enough over time. If we had it our way, we would have several women who commit to us that we don’t actually commit to. And this is usually what’s going on. The majority of quality women that I know tell me they don’t feel comfortable sleeping with more than one man at a time. And so they’ll be committing to men in non- committed relationships anyway. This is all just due to their nature if their nature is intact; since a woman  can only carry the child of one man at a time. Men on the other hand are able to create thousands of children a year if we have the availability. And so a man’s natural and biological feelings will be in alignment with what his biological potential is. Because most women don’t feel this desire to their core, they can’t accept the fact that we legitimately do. The majority of quality men I know are all sleeping with multiple women until they find one suitable enough to build something with.

Ask a woman why hasn’t she had sex with a thousand attractive men yet? And she’ll say something like “  That’s gross, or I respect myself and I won’t just sleep with anyone”. Ask a guy why he hasn’t had sex with a thousand women yet and he’ll tell you that he just hasn’t had the time to, or hasn’t found  that amount of attractive women willing to sleep with him.

So if commitment to monogamy is something that we didn’t even want, but we gave to the woman we love as a reward for putting up with enough of our nonsense, should we not be allowed a cheat day as a reward to us for going against our nature by entering a committed relationship once every blue moon?

What women have to understand is that entering a committed relationship is a lot more simple for them. Women are turning down dozens of men every single day that are trying to sleep with them. So once they enter a relationship they don’t have to do anything new. They only have to continue turning down men same way they were doing before entering the commitment. Every day of a man’s life he is trying to get women to sleep with him either directly or indirectly. That’s our life. So once we enter a commitment we have to perform an action that is the complete opposite of the reality that we live every single day. We’re the only ones that have to struggle with taking up a new practice and a new behavior. The women, for the most part, get to remain the same, because after all, the commitment was something that she wanted. So she’s getting something that she wants, that is congruent with her daily behavior anyway. Its like getting paid to brush your teeth, take a shower, and then commute to work. You’ll do it whether you get paid or not, so to get paid for it is a double and unrealistic bonus. Imagine your boss saying “I’ll give you a two hundred dollar bonus on every check if you eat dinner when you get off work.”. Now of course you don’t have to, but you’re likely to do it anyway, so its easy money.

When people go on a diet, they reward themselves with a cheat day because they’ve successfully been able to commit to a new lifestyle that went against what they were used to every day of there life prior. So in that same light, why shouldn’t men be allowed a cheat day because we’ve successfully been able to commit to a new lifestyle that went against what we were used to everyday of our life prior? Why can’t our women say “ Wow.. You’ve successfully went against your biological nature and motivation to populate the earth and remained with one woman for a year. Go have a cheat day baby. “  Hell, if a woman would do something as simple as saying, ” Thank you for being faithful” it would make a world of difference in how her man felt about staying strong and honoring the commitment.

The modern day, new age feminist will tell you that monogamy is a social construct, and that is a lie. Monogamy for women is a biological construct. It’s embedded in their nature and their biological potential. Once again, sex wasn’t created for us to have pleasure, pleasure is just the emotional impetus so that we will have sex and procreate. Third wave feminism is atheism. You can’t believe in a higher power and think that our biological natures weren’t created with a purpose. But shout out to all of my feminists. Pardon me. This article isn’t for you.

So I want to wrap this up by reiterating that I am not encouraging women to run and tell their boyfriend “ go have a cheat day”, your feelings should matter as well. But what we’re not going to do is coddle childish emotions that aren’t validated by anything other than more emotion, and make decisions based off of that. The discussion can be had, perhaps your man is over that stage of his life, perhaps his T count isn’t where it used to be, and he’s had his fun already. I just think that we should all strive to understand one another a lot more.

In the eleventh chapter of Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill said “ The woman who understand a man’s nature and tactfully caters to it, need have no fear of competition from other women. Men may be “giants” with indomitable will-power when dealing with other men, but they are easily managed by the women of their choice.” And I completely agree with this statement. Its easy to say “only an insecure woman would go for something like this” and while an insecure woman may go for this out of necessity, a woman with the ultimate confidence may be willing to allow it because she understands.

I always tell women that men rule on the front end, we are the conscious mind and women are the subconscious mind. The subconscious is responsible for 80% of our thoughts and activity, but the thing is, the conscious mind doesn’t even know the subconscious mind is operating. A woman that understands her man and seeks to provide him with what he needs will rule her man. And the beauty of it all is, he won’t even have the slightest idea of whats going on. The insecure woman is controlled by her man, because she is trying to control him on the front end. The conscious end. Leave that to him, let him think he’s ruling.  He will feel a lot more comfortable with opening up and revealing his true feelings to you that way. The truly confident woman allows her man to have that 20% front end; the small battle, because she knows that ultimately she is ruling from behind the scenes; responsible for 80% of his activity. The women that get a thorough grasp on this, will never be short on a man that’s willing to commit to her and give her his everything.

For anyone further interested in an example of this topic you can check out this couple from Brooklyn, New York who have allowed two additional women into the relationship and are sharing one man between them three. The man and his first wife have been together for 17 years, the two other women have been with him and his wife for 11 years. How many of you have been with one person consistently for 5 years? And i’m not talking about breaking up and getting back together years later. I’m talking about a strong consistent five years. They’re all attractive women who could easily have a man to themselves if they truly wanted to. The women don’t sleep with each other, they don’t do threesomes, and there is not a sign of low self esteem insight. You can check that out here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9XaRjpjdui8

Thanks for reading.

Eddie Fews


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