The 3 Factors That Impact Your Ability To Attract Women

Recently I was listening to an old Patrice O’Neal clip that I hadn’t heard in a while in which he was talking about the scale he and his friends decided to use to rate women to allow a more accurate rating of their physical beauty. His theory was that when using the 1-10 rating system no one really uses numbers 1-3. The lowest most will give a woman is a four and so this throws off the accuracy of the system; it becomes a 4-10 scale. As a result, he came up with the 1-30 scale. Basically women get broken down into three categories 1-10 is below average women, 11-20 is average women, 21-30 is beautiful women. So once you see a woman you put her in one of those categories and then you rate her amongst all women that would fit into the category. Once you get that number you divide it by three and that will give you  the accurate 1-10 rating for a woman. For example: Angelina Jolie would be in the beautiful women category, but when you measure her against ALL the beautiful women in the world where would she fit? A 22 or 23 maybe? Divide that by three and she is about a seven an a half at best.

Now whether you agree with the scale or not, it led to the inspiration for this article. I started thinking about how we as men could rate ourselves. What factors would contribute to our 1-30 rating? I came up with what I’ve found to be the three most important factors when it comes to attracting women. Three categories, rate yourself from 1-10 in each category, add the numbers up, divide it by three, and that will be your overall attractiveness rating.

It’s commonly said that you can attract someone 2 points higher of your 1-10 rating. Example: A Man thats an 8 can attract 10’s but it will require some effort. A man thats an 9 can attract 10’s with light effort, and a man thats a 10 can attract 10’s with little to no effort. But as I’ve commonly taught; a lot more goes into the quality of women you can attract that just what you look like. I know my share of average looking out of shape guys that consistently pull 8’s 9’s and 10’s, and thats because, they have a high rating due to the factors i’m going to touch on in just a second. 

Personal honesty is key here. All these factors can be improved. So when you are honest in the assessment of your rating, you’ll understand where to direct your energy to improve yourself, thus improving the quality of women you attract.

 

Category 1: Your Physical Attractiveness (Score yourself 1-10)

Now although a lot more goes into attracting women than your physical appearance it does play its role. None of us can help how we’re born,but there are many things we can do to improve our appearance. Things like properly grooming, developing our physique, dressing well, and taking care of our skin. A man with average facial features that’s well groomed, an in great physical shape is still pretty high on the scale. I’d go so far as to say a man with unattractive features that dresses well, smells good, is well groomed, and is in great physical shape can be as high as a seven on the 1-10 scale for physical attractiveness alone. Throw some good looks in the mixture and that guy can easily give himself a 9 or 10.

If you want to improve physical appearance it’s going to take sacrifice like everything else. What are you willing to give up to get the things you want? Processed fatty foods? Warm Water? Getting to bed early and getting more sleep? Getting a gym member and regularly making time in your schedule to go. We all intellectually know how to improve ourselves physically, but how many put aside instant gratification to do it?

Now let me say, I do believe this is the least important of the three categories that I’m listing here, but in no means should it be disregarded. It does play its role, and even if it played no role we should all be maximizing our potential. Do not make this a woman thing, make this a you thing. Desire to be the best you that you can be in all areas of your life.

Where do you score 1-10? Hold that number and add it up with the rest below.

 

Category 2: Mindset, Inner Game, Self Confidence (Score Yourself 1-10)

I’ve always taught guys three things about self confidence when it came to women.

1. A woman cares more about what you think of you, than she does about what she thinks of you.

2. A woman cares more about what you think of her, than she does about she thinks of you.

As men we often make the mistake of thinking that women are perfect. We put all the focus and energy on ourselves without taking into account the full spectrum of the person we’re interacting with. When a man approaches a woman he tends to ignorantly think that she’s not prone to the same anxiety, nervousness, and lack of conversational ability that he’s prone to. And so he thinks that if he is not successful in his approach than something must not be right with him. This is far from the truth. I’ve known women who’ve rejected men that they have liked simply because they got nervous, didn’t know what to say, and didn’t want to feel unhappy about having an unsuccessful social interaction. She cared more about what “he thought of her” than she cared about what she thought of him. I have also had several women tell me about men they didn’t find attractive as the man was approaching , that admittedly were won over after the approach by the mans swagger and confidence. If this was Tinder she would of swiped left on him immediately, but this was real life and in real life other factors play a role in a mans ability to attract women.

When you look in the mirror what do you see? Do you see what they think, or do you see what you think? Have you accepted yourself. Are you aware of what makes you great? What distinguishes you? What your potential is? Do you stand tall and erect with your head up? Do you believe in your ability to achieve all things? Do you see the Power in you?

I’ll tell you like a old school player that will still dating young attractive women told me “ I’m going to walk like a God, talk like a God, and a woman is going to respond to me in the only way a woman can respond to a God” It was that mindset and the power of his self-belief that led to his continuous success.

Your mindset is the character you play in this movie of life. It can be developed and it can be changed. Just as an actor becomes the character of the script through repetition of his lines and convincing himself over and over that he is the character in the film until it becomes real, you can do the same.

Our thoughts become our words, our words become our actions, our actions become our habits, our habits become our character and our character becomes our destiny.

Take control of your thoughts, tell yourself what you want to be as if you already are it. Tell yourself over and over, billions of times for months/years if it takes and you WILL become that thing.

On a scale of 1-10 how strong is your self belief and inner confidence? How confident are you when walking into a room? Rate yourself an add it to the number from category above and below.

 

Category 3: The Quality Of Your Intent (Score Yourself 1-10)

I had a friend named Alex who had moved here to New York City suddenly one day with the clothes on his back and two hundred dollars to his name. I wrote about him in one of my books “The Player Handbook”. All he knew was that he wanted to be an Actor and the place he lived wasn’t the proper environment for him to reach his goal. To make a long story short he lived with about fifteen different highly attractive women over the course of his 3 year stay here before finally getting the right gig and moving to Los Angeles. I remember when we were all hanging out with our group and one of my other friends asked him “ How do you do it? How do you get all these beautiful women to let you move in rent free?” Alex’s response was “ Women only like me because i’m good looking and I’m going for my shit. Well they really only like me because I’m going for my shit, Im just good looking and so I had to say it” We all laughed, but what he said was the raw truth. Alex had a 10 on quality of Intent scale. So even if he was a six on the looks scale, and an eight on the confidence scale, that would give him a twenty-four which would be an eight when divided by three. Meaning, he could he could attract 10’s with some effort.

So what is quality of intent you may think? It’s the energy at which you live your life with. It’s the how it’s not the “what”. As I’ve always taught, it’s not about what you do, it’s about how you do it. It’s not about what you say to women, it’s about how you say it. And the how will always come from your intent. How much intention are you living your life with? How many of your daily activities are done with true intention? It doesn’t matter if you’re playing video games all day, the question is why are you playing them? Are you playing them to kill time or because you have some goal in mind you’re trying to actualize? Are you practicing to become a Professional Gamer or Twitch Streamer like Fortnite player Ninja who’s intent led to him making $500,000 a month from playing a video game. I saw an interview with him in which he said “ I always just wanted to be the best. Every time I played it was because I wanted to be better than every one. I didn’t sleep. I stayed up all night playing because I wanted to be the best”. That was the quality of his intent and look where it got him? The quality of Alex’s intent caused him to leave home without much money and go to an unknown place to fulfill his dream.

How much of your time are you dedicating to fulfilling your desires with focused thought and intention? There should be no leisure time, unless it is pre decided with intent to allow yourself room to rest and recharge. If you’re hanging out with a girl, why are you doing it? And how does doing it serve your overall purpose and fulfillment? Are you in school without intent because you think that’s what you’re suppose to do? Are you working a Job just because it pays without an overall reason or goal in mind? That is wasted intention.

You should ONLY be thinking about or focusing on women when it’s time to pursue women through action. Anything outside of that is wasted thought and reduces value. The less I thought about women, the more women I had thinking about me. The more of your time that you spend in focused thought with full intention on being who you desire to be, the higher your quality of intent. The mind should never be wandering. If you are spending time thinking, it should be done with purpose, focus, and intent (visualizations, planning, setting goals etc). When not thinking you should be actively in pursuit of your desires with intent and discipline. The path of success in anything is narrow; so narrow, that most won’t make it, and this is why I feel this is the most important factor of the three.

How would you rate your current quality of intent on a scale of 1-10? How focused are you on creating the life for yourself that you desire? What percentage of your time is devoted to this? 10% gives you a 1 on the intent scale, 50% gives you a 5, 80% an 8 and so forth. Whats yours?

Conclusion

There it is.. Take each other your three numbers from each category, add them up, and divide that number by three. Thats your current rating on whats truly valuable on what makes a man attractive. Are you satisfied with it? Regardless of what it is may you not be satisfied. Maximize your potential. I teach about women a lot because the pursuit to reproduce is a driving force for success, but there is a lot more to life than attracting women. It is usually only when we are personally fulfilled that we will find ourselves in fulfilling relationships with the opposite sex. Take care of your physical(Category 1), master your mental (Category 2), and grow in your spiritual ( Category 3) and you will have fulfillment in both your love life and your personal life.

Thanks for Reading.

Eddie Fews


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You Get What You Give

So you want to become a Player? Good decision.

One of the most popular quotes to date has got to be; ” You reap what you sow” and this is just as true now as it has always been.

One thing I noticed is the things that people have the least of are the very things they hold onto the tightest and refuse to share with others. For example; you will notice that people who have very little money never tend to share anything they have. They seem to have this ” I only have a little so I need to keep this all for myself mentality.” Even when they come up on a little extra money they still horde all of the money for themselves.

I like to think that everything in life is either a test or a celebration and a man thats broke suddenly coming up on money is certainly a test. Now if he keeps all the money to himself, he will certainly find himself broke all over again. Now if he decides to share the money he has, he may begin to find himself in situations to make more money.

This very same concept applies to beautiful women as well. The men while out at bars that try to absorb every ounce of female attention and try and hit it off with every girl, even though they know that the current girl they’re talking to would be perfect for their buddy that they came to the bar with.

Instead of calling over their friend and introducing him to the current girl, he’ll continue pushing with the girl until he find himself getting blown out. Now, had he called over his buddy, and hooked him up with the girl he was talking to, I can assure you that he would find himself in a state that would be extremely attractive to the rest of the women in the bar.

As a matter of fact, he may even find many beautiful women coming up to him, leaving him as the prize and the selector. This is a mentality of abundance; the mind state that says “there are a lot of beautiful women that are attracted to me, I don’t have to have sex with every single woman that shows the slightest interest in me” is the most attractive thing a man can do for himself.

This is the same mentality that attractive women share; mainly because they have attractive men trying to hit on them all the time. I was stuck in this rut for longer then I should have when I was just a teenager. I was in a position in which I was fortunate enough to have friend that saw past my selfish nature and saw other things in me; because as a teen  I was always selfish.

I would never share anything with anyone; when I would get lunch money, I would buy myself food without having any regard for those around me and what I began to notice was that I was always broke; my friends on the other hand seemed to always have money and not only that, they always shared their money.

One of my closest friends received  the same amount of allowance as me every week and he always bought me things when I didn’t have the money and he did the same for  others; and ironically enough, he would always have money. Wether he would find money on the side walk or meet some guy that would want him to mow his lawn for a few bucks; situations to make more money would always seem to find him.

On the other hand, I would just always assume that he was lucky, without realizing at the time that people that give are always given to. It wasn’t until later on in my life that I decided to begin to be more generous with my money that I began to make more money. I remember it like it was yesterday, a good friend of mine had owed me 20 bucks for some bet we had made, so we agreed that he would just take me out to the movies instead.

The day that we were suppose to go to the movies, my Grandma had randomly just given me 50 bucks. A little voice inside of me said (this is a test), so when I got to the  theater, I told my friend that he didn’t have to owe me any money.

Not only that, I used the 50 bucks to pay for both of our movie tickets and I bought us both snacks. My buddy was ecstatic and praised me on the miraculous change I had just made. I enjoyed that movie more than any other movie I had ever seen in my life and I returned home to a message from Kieran telling me he would like me to be a part of Way Of The Player; which would also get me started with my new career as a dating coach; and I have been generous with anything I have ever since.

You see, people that are “giving” are often “getting” and more often than not they are given more than they had gave in the first place. When you think about it, if you plant a seed( something small and pretty worthless), it can grown into a tree (something with a lot more value and with a lot more mass). This all goes to say, be giving and free with anything that you have, if you hoard it all for yourself you will find that you will have little of what ever it is you are hoarding.

With women, always seek to set your friends up with girls as well as yourself. Even the random guy at the bar you had a quick conversation with; try and set him up with a few girls and you will find that you have so much abundance that you have no choice but to continue giving it away.

By Eddie Fews


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