The Testosterone Secret You Haven’t Been Told

I was reading an article about avoiding the common estrogen mocking chemical BPA(Bisphenol A) that 90% of us ingest daily in attempt to preserve testosterone, when I encountered a comment from a guy questioning why it appeared that people in poorer communities had more testosterone than he, when they are exposed to many more testosterone inhibiting chemicals due to poverty than he does. That was when I began to think on this myself because I agreed with his comment. All the testosterone inhibiting chemicals in the world that people from less wealthy circumstances encounter still wasn’t enough to keep them from having higher testosterone than people in upper class communities. But why?

In short.. it’s because they’re uncomfortable.

When one does the research on increasing testosterone levels what they’ll find is, the majority of non-diet related steps to increase the testosterone hormone involve getting uncomfortable. Things like high intense exercises, cold showering/ice baths, giving up porn/masturbation etc. All these things require one to give up “Pleasure” and comfort for testosterone. I personally take a freezing cold shower every single day and for the first few months it was one of the most uncomfortable experiences I had encountered in my life at the time. Now, I don’t even feel it. I’ve adapted and developed a natural edge in which I’m connected to the cold water. The thought of taking a warm shower is completely unappealing to me. I’ve tried and I immediately turn the water back to cold. The benefits of the cold shower far outweigh the pleasure and comfort of the warm shower. And this is kind of how it is for people in lower income communities.

Just as men who traditionally lived in the wild and had to learn how to hunt, maintain awareness, and defend themselves for survival; people in lower income communities have a similar experience . Too many mistakes in the wild could lead one to be mistaken a “prey” and potential “food” for a predator. In that same light, too many mistakes in “the hood” could give one the appearance of a free meal as well. There is an edge that has to be maintained, there is a certain vibe one has to adapt, and a level of getting “comfortable” with the “uncomfortable” that one must learn to stay alive.

The subconscious mind is programmed for survival. Its only job is to provide you with the motivation and desire necessary to keep you alive. Anything extra must be consciously chosen, ardently desired, and then persistent in by your conscious mind. You would have to make your own personal choice to make decisions to create and develop an edge that will assist in building testosterone. When you first jump into a cold shower the subconscious will SCREAM loudly for you to turn the water back warm, because you don’t need cold water on your skin to survive. So unless you have the discipline or a conscious desire greater than the influence of your subconscious you will indeed back out and turn the water back warm.

When one lives in a wealthy suburban area what subconscious need is there to motivate you to develop an edge outside of a conscious choice? The community knows one another, there’s little to no crime, the neighbors wave as your walking by, and so forth? If a person that has only known this type of community were to be thrown in the center of “The hood” the subconscious would scream loudly by giving you fear and anxiety as to say “ Get back to the suburbs!” Just as it would tell you to turn the water back warm after throwing yourself into a cold shower. But if you were to consciously choose to stay in the cold water and/or adapt to your new environment you would develop the edge that would generate the survival induced testosterone that the people in these areas tend to have.

Now, I don’t write this to say “ Go get comfortable in the hood to get more testosterone”. I write this for you to ask yourself – what comforts are normal for you that you get uncomfortable without could you give up to develop an edge that will lead to an increase in testosterone if desired? To gain anything most understand that we must give something up. If we want fire, we must give up some of our wood. What are you willing to give up for this?

I remember when I wasn’t as comfortable approaching women. I remember when I didn’t have the razor sharp edge that made it is as easy then as it is now. I remember when I had to plow through discomfort and mild anxiety and consciously choose to do it despite the emotions coming from the subconscious that said ” you don’t need to approach women to survive”. Just as I had to consciously choose to cold shower, and subconsciously adapt to a rougher neighborhood growing up. All these things were the building blocks that developed the edge that lead to the increased testosterone that I have today.

That edge will give you a swagger, a confidence and a self awareness that will make you happy, make women attracted to you, and make men respect you. Those that choose a life of comfort never quite experience the level respect that these others do.

Why do you think Conor McGregor is such a huge superstar? He grew up rough, that roughness gave him an edge, that edge triggered a generating of more testosterone, and all of that properly directed into a field he could succeed in ( UFC – Mixed Martial Arts) is the reasons millions of children and men all over the world want to emulate him today. You can’t find me a man without an edge that people directly want to emulate. They may want to emulate an edge-less mans work, but they’re never trying to emulate him. This is what the Alpha Males that all men tend to think they are today are made of.

You can try all the dietary tricks and take all the supplements you like to build testosterone, but it can also build on its own without these things when you consciously give up comforts and live your life on the edge.

Thanks for reading.

Eddie Fews


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Was Jesus Christ An Alpha Male?

What is An Alpha Male?

This is one of the most common topics within the Pick Up Artist community that I find when I’m on boards and forums dishing out advice. Every guy is trying to figure out how to behave like or how to become an alpha male. The latest post just happened to be “ Was Jesus Christ an Alpha Male ?”. I chuckled and began reading a few of the responses on the board. The poster that the majority of the board agreed with said something along the lines of “ Would an Alpha Male ‘Turn the other cheek?” which is a reference to – Mathew Chapter 5 Verse 39: but I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. I’m guessing the murderous action hero from the latest terminator film didn’t fit what was thought to be their ideal alpha male. And while I am not here to defend christianity, I will go in and bring further understanding into exactly what an alpha male is. But to answer to initial board question; yes, Jesus was most certainly an alpha male.

You see, an alpha male isn’t something anyone is ever going to read a book or article about and just become. You can buy a thousand books on how to ride a bike, but until you actually climb on one and try it out you won’t know how to ride a bike. The even bigger difference here is, being an alpha male isn’t something that is technical. It isn’t something thats going to be “learned”, its more so something one will naturally become upon engaging within the proper circumstance/s.

Some see it as Alpha males are born, not created, but I disagree with that theory. Sure a young child who has an alpha male role model for a father through imitation and practice can be stimulated into being an alpha male. But was he born that way or was he learned that way? It was learned and I also know that every man out there has the potential to become one upon being confronted with the right stimulus.There is an alpha male hidden inside every one of us, however most will never become it because they’ve chosen to be victims of fear.

An alpha male is not something that can be defined by a set of behaviors. There are too many articles encouraging men to sit with their legs wide-open, and to take up lots of space wherever they go, because “thats what alpha males naturally do”.  And while almost anything can have its own bit of truth, the taking up space theory and behaving like Don Draper in Californication is nonsense. If you think that sitting with your legs wide open is going to increase your chances of getting women enough to make a difference in your love life, you my friend are not in no way an alpha male. I can get a woman with my legs crossed and both of my hands in my pockets, just as effectively as I can get a woman with my legs and arms completely spaced out. It is not my body placement that a woman is attracted to, it is the spirit that is in me. It is the presence that emanates from that spirit. It is my life experiences and courage that have given me my aura. Its is the rough times, the poverty, the being made fun of, the being forced to be different that has created what has made me an alpha male.

As I said before, you’ll never read a book and learn how to be an alpha male. You either are it or you are not. You’re either going to toss yourself into the fire to become one or you’re going to ride out safely in the comfort zones given to you by society. You’ll either be the leader, or you’ll follow the guy who wasn’t as much of a wuss and did all he could to ensure that he possessed something that no one else did.

An Alpha male isn’t rich, and alpha male isn’t poor, and alpha male isn’t fat, and alpha male isn’t skinny, an alpha male isn’t handsome, and an alpha male isn’t ugly, an alpha male doesn’t take up large amounts of space, and a alph… yeah yeah I know. You get the point.

Alpha-ness is a spirit.  Alpha-ness is taking risk and getting uncomfortable. Not using google to become something that someone else has. Every alpha male has his own opinion and set of behaviors that what might compile into why he is an alpha male, but the one thing we all can agree on, is that an alpha male isn’t ever asking questions about what a alpha male is. An alpha male is too focused on being himself.

If you are an alpha male, salute to you and thanks for reading, but if you’re looking to become an alpha male, you need to stop reading and asking questions about alpha males. It’s time to start living. As Jay-z said about some of his peers in the corporate world that he’s surpassed; “they’ve read a lot of books, I’ve lived a lot of life”. When will you stop reading and start putting into action the material that you read?

If you want to become an alpha male you have to get up, get out, and go live. You have to be prepared to experience pain. Just as exercise is pain that causes one to build the body that they want; living life to your highest convictions despite how you feel in the moment will give you the emotional body(alpha-ness) you desire.  You’ll become one naturally after enough experience doing so. You won’t have to try to become it, you’ll just be it, and how to be it won’t even be something you think about.

So yeah, while I have my own reservations about the religion and some of the theologies, Jesus was an alpha male, because he understood that he was on a mission. He stood by his beliefs, did what he felt was best, and wasn’t going to let the opinions of anyone stop him from accomplishing that. He lived his truth, and in layman’s terms, he didn’t give a fuck what anyone in opposition thought about it.

Wanna be Alpha? Get up and go Live.

Peace & Love


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