The Secret Laws Of Social Wisdom

My new Ebook ” The Secret Laws Of Social Wisdom” is now available. Each has law been designed in such a way that when followed a man will add to his overall level of social intelligence,magnetism, and presence. Below is a sample of five of the fifty laws you will receive once you purchase the book. click here to go to LuLu and download your own personal copy and if you are currently not in position finically to purchase the book email me at EddieFews@WayOfThePlayer.com I will send you a copy of the book free of charge. 

Law 7

The World Is Always Watching

All things done in the dark eventually have to come to the light and a leader follows the mantra that, “character is what you do while no one is watching you”. And by “no one” the law means “no one”. While following the law it is important to understand that every single action taken by a man every single day has an effect on his aura, body language and presence. Therefore one is never able to hide anything; and the follower of the law must live his life with the understanding that this is true. Law number seven requires that the follower of the law lives their life as if there was a camera crew following them every step of the way and all of the footage was being sent to all the women and men one eventually wanted to have some level of opportunity with. Whether that be a business opportunity or a romantic type of opportunity. If a man sits in his house all day long doing nothing, when he knows that he has responsibilities to be taking care of, the people in his life will know it. It is likely that they will not know directly, but they will know on an energetic level. Women will feel less attracted to him that day, men will be less friendly with him that day, and if it perpetuates, so will the effects that follow. If a man wouldn’t sit on his sofa watching tell-lie-vision and eating potato chips all day long if the girl of his dreams was watching him he is not permitted to do it without her around. Because the fact of the matter is, when a man finally does run into that girl everything he has ever done will be attached to his body language, presence, and aura. We cannot hide anything; this world was not designed this way. We must own up to our words, actions and habits one way or another. Men will notice that they will attract a lot more women when they begin to live their life as if the women were already there. Follow the law and live a life filled with more integrity, because all will know on some level all of the things that every man has done.

“Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody’s going to know whether you did it or not.”

—Oprah Winfrey

Law 16 

The Pedestal Is For All Or None

A man’s status is never determined by how much money he has made or by the level of fame he has achieved. A man’s status is determined by the character he exhibits. There are bad people who are rich and famous, just as there are good people who are rich and famous. Any man that has ever spent personal time in a room with someone who is admired or of high levels of wealth becomes aware that this man or woman is just as flawed as themselves. Usually all the greatness they are said to have is reserved and just channeled in the moments that count. They are the same people,  with a different direction of focus. This comparison can also be applied to beautiful women. If one had the opportunity to follow a highly attractive women for a week and see all she thought, and did they will find that she isn’t nearly as beautiful as their minds made her out to be.  She’s flawed, and many times more flawed than oneself because the world has allowed her to live a lie most of her life. In many cases no one has rejected her, she’s constantly offered things for free, and no one has criticized her. So is it any surprise that the majority of beautiful women are lacking in personality? What did they need a personality for? They were already fully accepted into society for being beautiful; for being something that they didn’t even choose to be. Law number 16 requires that the follower of the law comes to an understanding that no one is above oneself; no one gets put on a pedestal, unless everyone is put on a pedestal. There is a very thin line between what separates the people we admire from ourselves. And often times we find that the things we wanted weren’t what we thought when we got them. The new car or house only made one feel differently momentarily;  the true peace is found within. And the rich and famous have usually figured that out because they have acquired the tangibles that people dream about and its done nothing for them internally. Follow the law and understand that the only people that can have power over us are the people we give it to.

“He thinks too highly of me, places me on a pedestal i’ve never deserved.” 

— Tahereh Mafi 

Law 19

Always Tell The Truth

Few men have the confidence to look a woman square in the eyes when he is tested by her and tell her the truth. And it is usually the women of the highest quality that are going to put forth the most challenging test because they are mastered at questioning a man on the things he may be insecure about. A woman isn’t concerned with what a man has or what a man does as much is she concerned with how he feels about what he has and what he does. She’s looking to the man to see how she should feel about him based SOLEY upon how he feels about himself. Now a low quality superficial woman may be looking toward a man for what he has acquired, but a high quality woman is only looking into the man. A quality woman doesn’t reject an impoverished man because he is in poverty; she is rejecting him because of how he feels about his poverty. A poor man with a dream that he is actively working toward has no problem getting a woman. There are men like this everywhere. This is why a man must always tell the truth and be confident about his truth. A truthful man is truthful because he has accepted himself for who he is and is confident that if is he is in an unfortunate situation he is capable enough to get himself out of the situation. He also believes that the people around him will be able to pick up that he can get himself out of anything he is in. So he is honest. And because he is confidently honest, people believe in him and his ability. Law number 19 requires that every man is honest with everyone that he comes across. A lie only makes one feel momentarily content with an unsatisfactory situation. It’s almost like taking a drug to escape from the current reality. Eventually one will have to confront reality, and the more it has been pushed to the side the more difficult it will be to live with when it is forced to the surface. Follow the law and always tell the truth. An honest man radiates with a light that draws people toward him.

“The secret of life is honesty and fair dealing. If you can fake that, you’ve got it made.” 

— Groucho Marx

 

Law 27

Rebalance Your Sensitivity 

To utilize the teachings of this book to their full potential; you must begin to fight against some of the numbing that is occurring to our generation. The greatest seducers are sensitive. They can feel what’s going on in their bodies, the person they’re withs body and what’s happening in the world around them. Increasing sensitivity is a challenging way to live, but once it’s mastered it allows the bearer of sensitivity to excel far beyond all who are desensitized. If you have ever increased your computer mouse sensitivity, you’ll notice that it is a lot more difficult to maneuver at first but when mastered it allows you to control your computer at speeds you couldn’t before. Below are a collective group of steps that can be taken to increase ones level of sensitivity.

The Numbing Of The Senses

Anyone that lives in a big city understand that they are constantly bombarded with loud noises from every angle. Whether it be from the music coming from the cars driving by or the screeching sounds coming from the steel train cars stopping along the tracks. Most will notice that the first few times they are confronted with these noises they’ll have to cover their ears because of the pain felt. After a while the loud noises no longer hurt the ears; one becomes used to them – one has become numb to them. This same process takes place with the blasting of music into the ears. The music goes from being too loud, to not being loud enough. We are living in a world that is constantly numbing us and that takes place with bright LED lights to the eyes – going from too bright to bearable. Foul smells coming from a polluted environment which go from being stinky to the point where one can no longer smell them. Chemical preservatives and salts on the food that go from being too salty to enjoyable. etc. etc.

The number of the senses causes one to be incapable of picking up on the subtle cues that would make a man an effective with social wisdom. If a man hearing has been so numbed that he isn’t able to pick up on the small little sounds  and tones generated from a women at different moments he won’t be aware of all he needs to know to effectively lead her.  Numbed eyes will prevent one from efficiently making eye contact, numbed touch prevents one from being able to feel oneself feeling another which is imperative for a seductive touch(Law 4), and so on.

Law number six requires that the follower of the law practices rebalancing their sensitivity. Stop taking in preservatives and harmful food additives that numb the senses. While listening to music keep the music volume lower than 75% and cover the ears when fronted with loud sounds. When met with a foul smell, focus on the smell and see it for what it is. No one should let oneself get so comfortable with a foul smell that they forget it’s there… and so on. Rebalance your sensitivity in every way possible so that you begin to embody the ability to deal with and pick up on needs for social wisdom faster than before.

“The most important innovators often don’t need any technologies – just imagination and acute sensitivity to people’s needs. “

Geoff Mulgan

 

Law 39

Never Be Ashamed

Women are likely to be more upset about your reaction to a performance problem than the problem itself. Women are always looking to us to validate how they should feel about a situation. So if a mans feelings are neutral showing that he is unaffected by his woman’s feelings she will then question whether the emotion she feels is valid in the first place. Lets say a woman does not feel content with her relationship and because of this she goes to her man attempting to break up with him. If the man reacts emotionally in an “ how could you do this? “ type of manner she will feel as if  she must have some validity behind her feelings because it was the source of her partners momentary passion. Now, if the man says “ No honey. Lets just talk later on when our feelings settle. I think we have something great here” from a neutral point of few, she will begin to wonder if she was making the right decision at all. Her decision didn’t bring about any emotion in her partner; and because he was unaffected she must wonder whether or not the things she said were even effective. And so it is the law to never show shame, because a woman will only respond negatively to mans short coming in any given situation if he first expresses a negative reaction to his own short coming. Men who learn this will find that women that attempt to reject them after an approach suddenly begin to be more receptive to the male if they see that he wasn’t swayed positively or negatively by her reaction. She must question whether or not she had any reason to reject the guy because it meant absolutely nothing to him. So does it mean anything at all? The first rejections are almost always a test of a mans character and strength – the two primary things a woman looks for in a man. Even if a man has a overly positive reaction she will question whether she made the right choice. She will begin to feel as if she did him a favor. And if she did him a favor, by natural law he owes her one. This will instantly put him in a subservient position. So Follow the law and embrace all aspects of who you are; the world must first need to see you ashamed before they can become ashamed of you.

“With integrity, you have nothing to fear, since you have nothing to hide. With integrity, you will do the right thing, so you will have no guilt.”<

— Zig Ziglar


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Are You The Creator or The Consumer?

Peace guys,

I know its been a while, I’ve been too busy “consuming” which brought about the inspiration for this article. I had been asked a question through an email which brought about the epiphany that I’m about to elaborate on in a second. So pardon me while i shake the rust off in this first piece.

The question was: Is watching porn good or detrimental for my dealings with women?

The inquirer went on to say that he believes if someone is already a douche bag, then porn will make them more of a douche man; if someone is already insecure then porn will make them more insecure; but what if that person is strong willed and confident?

So I went on to address his logic first to help him answer his own question:

Cocky douche bag + porn = More of a cocky douche bag

Insecurity + Porn = More insecurity.

So..

Strong mind & Confidence + Porn = More confidence and a stronger mind?

I then went on to make him aware that we do enough watching other people live their lives with television and youtube; do we need to watch people have sex as well? I told him to be the content creator, not the content consumer; That if he must have porn, i’d advise him to go out and make his own.

And thats when I became aware of just how my consumption rate as of late, was far out weighing my creation rate.

I began to ask myself whether or not I was being a consumer or a creator, whether or not I was being a sheep or a shepherd. You see ,the leaders of the world are the creators, they make the material for the followers to indulge in. Its brings me back to and old drake line on his song “Light Up” that went “ And while most of my friends are out partying, I’m just hear making all the music that they party to. So party on, party on, all night..”. I even find it a bit ironic that someone could be at a club or social gathering listening to someone tell them why they aren’t as successful as they could be and its because they’re out listening to this song, and they just continue to dance and sing along. I’m just as guilty and thats sheep behavior at its finest. I’d like to think that line would wake the sleeping shepherds right up and they would exit the club immediately, but nah. We just keep on shaking it.

It brings me back to a conversation I was having with a group of women the led to why men don’t respect them… Every night women are out dancing to a song that was created to degrade and disrespect them. How is a man going to respect you if you’re out dancing to a song that disrespects you? None of our strong women of ancient time would be out jumping up and down and dancing to a song calling them hoes and disloyal. But its 2015, so I guess we just go with it? Cool.

Now while there is nothing completely wrong with consumption, if we’re going to be leaders in society it is imperative that the rate at which we consume is at least equal with the rate at which we create.

If you’re a musician, do you spend more time listening to music or creating music?

If you’re a chef, do you spend more time eating food, or cooking food?

If you’re a writer, do you spend more time reading books or writing books?

Most of us wake up, shower(consume water), brush our teeth(consume tooth paste), eat(consume food), drive to work (consume oil), and work at a job that is more than likely consuming more resources. We then get home, consume tell-lie-vision, eat, and the repeat the process all over again. Anyone with the slightest bit of foresight can see where this type of behavior is going to drive us as a society. So what do we do about it?

Now of course someone has to be a consumer, if we were all creators there would be no one around to enjoy the material that we create. This is just a direct shot to the core readers of my material. Those I’ve found to be the current shepherds and the shepherds at heart.

So I’d like encourage all of the readers to form a new habit. Let that habit be creation. I’m going to start a new consumption versus creation journal and I recommend everyone reading to do the same. Every night before bed write down everything you consumed on one side of the paper, and everything you created on another side of the paper and then see how much you’re really worth. See how much you are actually contributing to society. See whether or not you’re making the world a better place or whether or not you’re just taking up space.

If our planet continues at this rate of consumption, we won’t have one.

Be the creator.


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Cold Showers Will Increase Your Success

Attract Beautiful Women By Taking Cold Showers

Cold showers have been scientifically proven to improve multiple aspects of our physical and mental health. The ancient samurai warriors used to pour buckets of cold river water on their heads every morning in a Shinto practice called Misogi. This was a purification ritual on a spiritual level. They believed that it cleansed their spirit and helped them start a new day & new adventure fresh. The Spartans You know those Ripped up scarlet cape wearing soldiers from the movie 300) felt warm water was for the weak and unmasculine. The original James Bond stories noted that he would begin his showers warm and end them with a few minutes of cold water.

In the 1820s, a German farmer named Vincenz Priessnitz started touting a new medical treatment called “hydrotherapy,” which used cold water to cure everything from broken bones to erectile dysfunction. He turned his family’s homestead into a sanitarium, and patients flocked to it in the hope that his cold water cure could help them. Among his clientele were dukes, duchesses, counts, countesses, and a few princesses to boot.

Many cultures throughout history have used cold showers to improve multiple aspects of their lives. Here in this new aged lifestyle, we’ve become to comfortable with the luxury of Hot Showers that we have forgot some of our ancient practices that have provided great overall benefits to our well-being.

Benefits of Cold Showers

Weight Loss/ Brown Fat:

People who take cold showers experience an increase in brown fat cells, which protect from aging; fight obesity, diabetes, and heart disease

Brown fat = special fat cells that have, unlike white fat cells, high concentrations of mitochondria and, therefore, are able to generate heat without any muscular activity. Brown fat concentrations are very high in new borns and infants, but gradually decline with age due to an absence of cold stimulation in the general population.

Brown fat cells burn glucose in an attempt to create as much heat energy as possible. A higher ammount of these cells within the body will lead to more energy being burned per second, meaning more unnecessary weight being released from the body. Many people within our culture today have been seeking to improve that rate of their metabolism because it means that every process within the body will become more efficient  causing more weight to be released and more growth/restoration of muscle tissue to occur.

Strengthens Immunity

Cold showers are sometimes touted as a preventative tonic for colds, flu, and infections. An experiment in Prague studied the effect of cold water immersions on athletic young men. They immersed themselves in water at 14°C (57°F), three times a week for six weeks. Among many changes, they saw increased levels of two types of white blood cells: monocytes and lymphocytes. While certain lymphocytes are instrumental in eliminating bacteria, viruses, and toxins; monocytes are indirectly responsible for the engulfing and consuming of pathogens and foreign materials. Researchers believe that the increased metabolic rate, which results from the body’s attempt to warm itself up, activates the immune system and releases more white blood cells in response. Therefore, it is reasonable to assume that people who take regular cold showers are less likely to develop colds, flu’s, and even some forms of cancer.

Clear Radiant Skin

When you shower with warm water, it opens up your pores. Then you wash and this cleans up your pores. That’s all good. When you end, it would be best to close your pores and cold water does just that. It’s good to close your pores after you are all cleaned up because it will prevent the pores from being easily clogged by dirt and oil, which causes skin imperfections such as acne for example. Another benefit is that cold water makes your blood vessels constrict which reduces swelling and the appearance of dark circles under your eyes (where skin is at its thinnest). This provides you with a young, healthy glow.

Shiny healthy Hair

Cold water makes your hair look healthier and shinier. As a matter of fact, cool air makes your hair shinier too (that’s why there is a cool air button on your hair dryer). What the cold water does is that it closes the cuticle which makes the hair stronger and prevents dirt from easily accumulating within your scalp. Basically, the same principle with how it closes the pores of your skin as mentioned above. Stronger hair, of course, prevents hair from being easily pulled out when you are combing, and it helps in slowing down overall hair loss.

Kills Depression

Cold showers release chemicals into the body to decrease stress, anxiety, and genuinely just make you feel happier. A cold shower will wake up the body, mind, spirit, and you will be fully prepared to take on whatever challenges the day will set before you.

Increase Of Testosterone

With male testosterone at an all time low (which could be due to all the soy intake that’s going today. Soy turns male testosterone into estrogen; which is why many men who drink and eat soy often experience a flabby woman like chest. Check underneath the ingredients label on your favorite foods, you’ll be surprised how many of them say Contains: Soy Ingredients) cold showers are a great way to give your body a natural boost of testosterone without using those new testosterone injects and creams. Cold water will increase testosterone and the libido; not only does one’s sex increase, but so does one’s overall strength and energy levels.

Save You Time/Money

As we are all aware of, the price of oil is on the rise and by taking cold showers you are not only saving yourself money but you are preserving one of the earths most valuable resources. Also if you take a cold shower you won’t be spending unnecessary time standing under warm water in comfort, inhaling toxic fumes from the evaporated chlorine and fluoride in the water. So if you won’t take colder showers for yourself, at least do it for humanitarian reasons.

More Benefits

Cure For Insomnia.

Cold showers calm the mind and body so intensely that one will often find himself sleeping like a baby after taking a cold shower at night.

Regulates temperature (Meaning there will be no more chronically cold hands or feet, or excessive sweating).

Improves kidney function.

Strengthens the parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous systems.

Contracts the muscles to eliminate toxins and poisonous wastes.

Strengthens the mucous membranes, which help resist hay fever, allergies, colds, coughs.

Brings blood to the capillaries, therefore increasing circulation throughout the body.

Improves hormonal activity.

I have personally been taking cold showers for a little over a year now and I honestly have to say I’ve never looked or felt better in my entire life. I have this theory that if I can wake up every morning and jump into a cold shower, the toughest part of my day will already be out of the way – the rest is a breeze. Cold showers have also effected the way I deal with my nerves; being able to ignore all the mental resistance/anxiety about jumping into a cold shower is not very different to ignoring the anxiety you feel before approaching a woman. Which is why I want to invite all of you Players and Playerettes to be out there to take on the 21 Day Cold Shower Challenge  You can even track your progress and relate to others who are during the same challenge within the Player Chronicle section of the forums. I would also advise taking before and after pictures so you can see the significant changes within your hair, skin and body; not to mention you will feel absolutely amazing.

The 21 Day Cold Shower Challenge invites you on a course that can permanently change your life for the better. All that is required is for you to take two cold showers a day – One in the morning and one before bed. The first three days are always the toughest, but after that you’ll be singing tunes and dancing around in the cold water like a true champ.

I’m looking forward to reading about your results…Peace & Love

By Eddie Fews


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