My new Ebook ” The Secret Laws Of Social Wisdom” is now available. Each has law been designed in such a way that when followed a man will add to his overall level of social intelligence,magnetism, and presence. Below is a sample of five of the fifty laws you will receive once you purchase the book. click here to go to LuLu and download your own personal copy and if you are currently not in position finically to purchase the book email me at EddieFews@WayOfThePlayer.com I will send you a copy of the book free of charge.
The World Is Always Watching
All things done in the dark eventually have to come to the light and a leader follows the mantra that, “character is what you do while no one is watching you”. And by “no one” the law means “no one”. While following the law it is important to understand that every single action taken by a man every single day has an effect on his aura, body language and presence. Therefore one is never able to hide anything; and the follower of the law must live his life with the understanding that this is true. Law number seven requires that the follower of the law lives their life as if there was a camera crew following them every step of the way and all of the footage was being sent to all the women and men one eventually wanted to have some level of opportunity with. Whether that be a business opportunity or a romantic type of opportunity. If a man sits in his house all day long doing nothing, when he knows that he has responsibilities to be taking care of, the people in his life will know it. It is likely that they will not know directly, but they will know on an energetic level. Women will feel less attracted to him that day, men will be less friendly with him that day, and if it perpetuates, so will the effects that follow. If a man wouldn’t sit on his sofa watching tell-lie-vision and eating potato chips all day long if the girl of his dreams was watching him he is not permitted to do it without her around. Because the fact of the matter is, when a man finally does run into that girl everything he has ever done will be attached to his body language, presence, and aura. We cannot hide anything; this world was not designed this way. We must own up to our words, actions and habits one way or another. Men will notice that they will attract a lot more women when they begin to live their life as if the women were already there. Follow the law and live a life filled with more integrity, because all will know on some level all of the things that every man has done.
“Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody’s going to know whether you did it or not.”
The Pedestal Is For All Or None
A man’s status is never determined by how much money he has made or by the level of fame he has achieved. A man’s status is determined by the character he exhibits. There are bad people who are rich and famous, just as there are good people who are rich and famous. Any man that has ever spent personal time in a room with someone who is admired or of high levels of wealth becomes aware that this man or woman is just as flawed as themselves. Usually all the greatness they are said to have is reserved and just channeled in the moments that count. They are the same people, with a different direction of focus. This comparison can also be applied to beautiful women. If one had the opportunity to follow a highly attractive women for a week and see all she thought, and did they will find that she isn’t nearly as beautiful as their minds made her out to be. She’s flawed, and many times more flawed than oneself because the world has allowed her to live a lie most of her life. In many cases no one has rejected her, she’s constantly offered things for free, and no one has criticized her. So is it any surprise that the majority of beautiful women are lacking in personality? What did they need a personality for? They were already fully accepted into society for being beautiful; for being something that they didn’t even choose to be. Law number 16 requires that the follower of the law comes to an understanding that no one is above oneself; no one gets put on a pedestal, unless everyone is put on a pedestal. There is a very thin line between what separates the people we admire from ourselves. And often times we find that the things we wanted weren’t what we thought when we got them. The new car or house only made one feel differently momentarily; the true peace is found within. And the rich and famous have usually figured that out because they have acquired the tangibles that people dream about and its done nothing for them internally. Follow the law and understand that the only people that can have power over us are the people we give it to.
“He thinks too highly of me, places me on a pedestal i’ve never deserved.”
— Tahereh Mafi
Always Tell The Truth
Few men have the confidence to look a woman square in the eyes when he is tested by her and tell her the truth. And it is usually the women of the highest quality that are going to put forth the most challenging test because they are mastered at questioning a man on the things he may be insecure about. A woman isn’t concerned with what a man has or what a man does as much is she concerned with how he feels about what he has and what he does. She’s looking to the man to see how she should feel about him based SOLEY upon how he feels about himself. Now a low quality superficial woman may be looking toward a man for what he has acquired, but a high quality woman is only looking into the man. A quality woman doesn’t reject an impoverished man because he is in poverty; she is rejecting him because of how he feels about his poverty. A poor man with a dream that he is actively working toward has no problem getting a woman. There are men like this everywhere. This is why a man must always tell the truth and be confident about his truth. A truthful man is truthful because he has accepted himself for who he is and is confident that if is he is in an unfortunate situation he is capable enough to get himself out of the situation. He also believes that the people around him will be able to pick up that he can get himself out of anything he is in. So he is honest. And because he is confidently honest, people believe in him and his ability. Law number 19 requires that every man is honest with everyone that he comes across. A lie only makes one feel momentarily content with an unsatisfactory situation. It’s almost like taking a drug to escape from the current reality. Eventually one will have to confront reality, and the more it has been pushed to the side the more difficult it will be to live with when it is forced to the surface. Follow the law and always tell the truth. An honest man radiates with a light that draws people toward him.
“The secret of life is honesty and fair dealing. If you can fake that, you’ve got it made.”
— Groucho Marx
Rebalance Your Sensitivity
To utilize the teachings of this book to their full potential; you must begin to fight against some of the numbing that is occurring to our generation. The greatest seducers are sensitive. They can feel what’s going on in their bodies, the person they’re withs body and what’s happening in the world around them. Increasing sensitivity is a challenging way to live, but once it’s mastered it allows the bearer of sensitivity to excel far beyond all who are desensitized. If you have ever increased your computer mouse sensitivity, you’ll notice that it is a lot more difficult to maneuver at first but when mastered it allows you to control your computer at speeds you couldn’t before. Below are a collective group of steps that can be taken to increase ones level of sensitivity.
The Numbing Of The Senses
Anyone that lives in a big city understand that they are constantly bombarded with loud noises from every angle. Whether it be from the music coming from the cars driving by or the screeching sounds coming from the steel train cars stopping along the tracks. Most will notice that the first few times they are confronted with these noises they’ll have to cover their ears because of the pain felt. After a while the loud noises no longer hurt the ears; one becomes used to them – one has become numb to them. This same process takes place with the blasting of music into the ears. The music goes from being too loud, to not being loud enough. We are living in a world that is constantly numbing us and that takes place with bright LED lights to the eyes – going from too bright to bearable. Foul smells coming from a polluted environment which go from being stinky to the point where one can no longer smell them. Chemical preservatives and salts on the food that go from being too salty to enjoyable. etc. etc.
The number of the senses causes one to be incapable of picking up on the subtle cues that would make a man an effective with social wisdom. If a man hearing has been so numbed that he isn’t able to pick up on the small little sounds and tones generated from a women at different moments he won’t be aware of all he needs to know to effectively lead her. Numbed eyes will prevent one from efficiently making eye contact, numbed touch prevents one from being able to feel oneself feeling another which is imperative for a seductive touch(Law 4), and so on.
Law number six requires that the follower of the law practices rebalancing their sensitivity. Stop taking in preservatives and harmful food additives that numb the senses. While listening to music keep the music volume lower than 75% and cover the ears when fronted with loud sounds. When met with a foul smell, focus on the smell and see it for what it is. No one should let oneself get so comfortable with a foul smell that they forget it’s there… and so on. Rebalance your sensitivity in every way possible so that you begin to embody the ability to deal with and pick up on needs for social wisdom faster than before.
“The most important innovators often don’t need any technologies – just imagination and acute sensitivity to people’s needs. “
Never Be Ashamed
Women are likely to be more upset about your reaction to a performance problem than the problem itself. Women are always looking to us to validate how they should feel about a situation. So if a mans feelings are neutral showing that he is unaffected by his woman’s feelings she will then question whether the emotion she feels is valid in the first place. Lets say a woman does not feel content with her relationship and because of this she goes to her man attempting to break up with him. If the man reacts emotionally in an “ how could you do this? “ type of manner she will feel as if she must have some validity behind her feelings because it was the source of her partners momentary passion. Now, if the man says “ No honey. Lets just talk later on when our feelings settle. I think we have something great here” from a neutral point of few, she will begin to wonder if she was making the right decision at all. Her decision didn’t bring about any emotion in her partner; and because he was unaffected she must wonder whether or not the things she said were even effective. And so it is the law to never show shame, because a woman will only respond negatively to mans short coming in any given situation if he first expresses a negative reaction to his own short coming. Men who learn this will find that women that attempt to reject them after an approach suddenly begin to be more receptive to the male if they see that he wasn’t swayed positively or negatively by her reaction. She must question whether or not she had any reason to reject the guy because it meant absolutely nothing to him. So does it mean anything at all? The first rejections are almost always a test of a mans character and strength – the two primary things a woman looks for in a man. Even if a man has a overly positive reaction she will question whether she made the right choice. She will begin to feel as if she did him a favor. And if she did him a favor, by natural law he owes her one. This will instantly put him in a subservient position. So Follow the law and embrace all aspects of who you are; the world must first need to see you ashamed before they can become ashamed of you.
“With integrity, you have nothing to fear, since you have nothing to hide. With integrity, you will do the right thing, so you will have no guilt.”<
— Zig Ziglar
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