Humans with fully functioning minds make thousands of small decisions every day; some that happen on the subconscious level and others that we decisively have to make. Have you ever been on public transportation and wanted to sit down but the only empty seats were being either guarded or directly in between two other people?
Many people would rather stand up regardless of how tired they are than make someone else uncomfortable by asking them to make room. Small decisions like this fall under the category of Micro-Avoidance and every time you let micro avoidance conquer you, your self-esteem lowers a bit.
What about that paper clip that has been sitting on the floor in your house for God knows how long, that you just don’t pick up? Something in you is nudging you to take a ten second break from the television or the internet and tidy up the place a bit, but you forget about it and carry on with your life. All of these small and almost insignificant choices we avoid every day add small bits of stress into our lives; and as you know, any added stress adds to the brain fog, and depression that seems to be plaguing the world today.
Mirco-avoidance even ties in to meeting, dating and approaching beautiful women. How often have you been standing in line behind an attractive girl in Starbucks that you would say hello to if you could just muster up the courage?
Maybe you figured you waited too long, and she would think you were weird for opening her after all this time. A pick up artist would tell you that you only have “3 seconds” upon seeing a girl to open her or else its too late. We at Way Of The Player personally find it hard to believe that every guy that has ever gotten laid opened the girl within the first three seconds. Sure it may optimize you chances of over thinking and saying something stupid but when you have enough value, there is always a window of opportunity.
Players are natural masters at conquering micro-avoidance; if there is something we want to say we say it; if there is something we want to do we do it. We live on the edge and following our hunches because we believe it will add to our character and grow our self-esteem. If we like a guys shirt, shoes, or tie, we don’t mind tapping him on the shoulder to let him know how awesome his sense of style is. This keeps us in the habit of becoming doers more so than being thinkers. If our buddy tells us he has this new wacky opener that girls have been going crazy for, we don’t analyze why or why not it may work, we walk up to the next attractive girl we see and try it out for ourselves.
Conquering micro-avoidance will pumps up your self esteem, builds your social momentum, and adds to your character. Right now; is there something you have been meaning to do that your avoiding? Maybe its to call your grandmother or father just to say hello; pick up the phone and do it now. You’ll feel a lot better. Have you been thinking about signing up for a gym to get in shape? Shut down your computer and go take a few tours of the gyms in your area. Conquering micro avoidance is a key element in becoming a player; you’ll be happier and feel more liberated that you ever have your entire life.
By Eddie Fews
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