My First Date With A Self Made Millionaire

So I had started a conversation with this lady that was sitting next to me on the train. At that moment she appeared to be in her early thirties, but what really got my attention was her big curly hair – I’ve always had a thing for curls. We get to chatting about god knows what and to my surprise, her dialect isn’t matching her age. She speaks like a young girl in her early twenties, but I ignore my urge to call her out on it for trying to relate to me; we exchange numbers, and I exit at my stop shortly after.

A day later she began texting me asking, me when we would be meeting up for a “first date”. I politely decline her offer because I wasn’t all that into her aesthetically. Besides, I had a few other girls that I can hang out with if I wanted to so she wasn’t the primary thing on my mind. Although she did follow up; she would send me a text every other day asking if I wanted to hang out. This carried on for about two weeks, and I’d politely decline all her offers.

Then one evening a girl who I had scheduled to hang out with cancelled on me at the last minute. I began going through my contacts searching for alternatives and she popped up in my mind. ” The Lady From The Train ” – I knew she was into me and would gladly hang out with me any chance she had gotten. So I text her ” Hey, if you’re free come join me at my place for a few glasses of wine. What time can you get here? “. I’m thinking I would just hang with her at home, get laid and call it a day.

She replies that she would rather not travel, but that I could come meet her at her apartment for the same experience. I ignored it and just reached out to a few other women to see if they would want to hang out.

It was getting late and after no one I knew was available I picked up my cell to give her a call. I figured I could charm her into coming on over to mine in a couple minutes on the phone. She answered with that young girl voice vibrating with excitement. We talked a bit, but my charming efforts weren’t as successful as I had hoped. Turns out she has to wake up early, so leaving home is out of the question.  Although she still extended her offer to have me over. I was about to decline and then she said ” Come on over, I’ll pay someone to cook for us”. ” Pay someone to cook for us?” I said to myself. I then replied to her ” Ok I’ll come , give me a hour “.

She texts me her address, I get dressed, and jump on the train to head to the city. When I arrived I just couldn’t seem to find her building, I’m pacing up in down the block its said to be located on, but I just didn’t see it. I reach in my pocket for my phone, call her, and she instructs me to where her place is. Its this small door that looks like a fire exit door to a big building. I ring the door bell she , three bright lights instantly flash, one even appears to scan my face from the top to bottom before I could blink. After I am buzzed in, I hop into button-less elevator and it just begins taking me up to hers. When the elevator opens she’s standing there smiling, in a beautiful tortoise dress, and without any shoes on . She greets me with a warm hug, hands me a glass of wine, and tells me to make myself at home.

At this point my bloods rushing, I look around an notice that she is living in a luxury three story pent house apartment. There is a set of swivel stairs in the center of the pent house that takes you from one floor to the next. I instantly wipe the “Shock & Awed” look from my eyes and throw my game face on. I repeat to myself ” Millionaire shmillionaire.. she’s no different than any other”.

At this point she wandered off to I’m not sure where. So I begin giving myself a tour of the place. I grab ahold of this electronic record player on the second floor that appears to be playing music throughout the whole house, and put on one of my favorite songs. I hear her yell something out from downstairs, so I make my way to the bathroom, and head down to her to finally get to know her. When I get to the first floor I see her with her back turned, rinsing something in the sink. Now its time to bring her into the present moment – I slowly step up behind her, place one hand on each side of her waist and whisper “hey princess” into her left ear. She’s startled, flushed, and giggling from the jolt I sent creeping up her spine.

She begins asking me all of these questions about my life and from the glint in her eyes I can tell that she’s just happy to be around me. We continue to talk with just a few 2-3 second ” awkward pauses” and before you know it we’re making out one the plush sofas on the second floor.

I’d kiss her, she would pull away and talk. She would kiss me, I would pull away and talk. Then she suggested we head to the top floor so she could show me the view of the city from the patio. We walk on up there and I’m just on a natural high from all of the visuals. My gut then says to me ” Alright, now go home.. Be the one to end the date”. I ignore it. My mind takes over and wants to enjoy the view just a little more. Just moments after the alert from my gut, she suggest I get going so she could prepare herself for bed.


I grab her, make out with her passionately once more, and look deep into her eyes as I say my good byes. She walks me all the way outside, hails me a yellow taxi, stands there waving and smiling as the cab pulls off.

I lean back in the cab, throw my hands behind my head and merely thankful for having had that experience.

Lets see where this leads…

Eddie Fews

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Women Are Watching You

The Camera Is Always On And Women Are Always Watching

If you had been informed that there is an invisible camera following your every move, that would be linked to the television screen of the woman of your dreams; how much different would you live your life?

Would you continue to spend unnecessary hours in front of the television watching the same reruns over and over again? Would you get lazy and decide that you’re going to slack off and not go to the gym today? Would you walk out of the bathroom without washing your hands? We believe the majority of men out there in the world would instantly shift and begin living their lives more efficiently. Why? Because they have been made aware that they are being watched by someone they’ve been longing for and want to impress.

Now which do you want first? The Good News or The Good News?

Well, Congratulations Players!

It is your luck day, because you are being watched. You have been watched since the moment you have been able to make conscious decisions on your own. We say this because every choice you make not only effects you but its effects the way you will be seen by the people around you.

It has been said that women are 10x more intuitive than men are; meaning, they are capable of detecting bullshit on levels that men wouldn’t begin to comprehend.

So you aren’t going to learn a few pick up lines, read a few articles, and instantly have what it takes to be seen as attractive by beautiful women. You’ll be viewed as the most attractive version of yourself when you develop a lifestyle that you would feel comfortable living if you were being followed by a camera 24/7 and when you develop a reel of thoughts that you would feel comfortable being listened to by women everywhere.

I can tell you from personal experience that all my relationships with special women that I connect with on multiple levels came at a point where I was investing most of my energy into my dreams and aspirations. And they all began to deteriorate when I slacked off and invested a little too much of my energy into my partner. Now, none of my former partners were aware that I hadn’t been giving my greatest effort in other areas of my life but, they were able to intuitively sense and feel it. And as a result they began to nag me more and challenge my position in the relationship a lot more than usual.

Who do you want to be when you grow up?

As children we are always asked ” What do you want to be when you grow up “; as if that’s the end all, be all. ” We’re kids now, once we grow up, we’ll be this and that’s that. ” Do you ever want to settle? Do you ever want your life to just “stop”. I believe a more effective question to ask both children and adults is ” Who Do You Want To Be?” Because the feeling of success in life period whether it be success with attractive women, success in friendship, or success in a career comes from embodying the figure that you are happy to be in every aspect of your life.

Who are you to your friends? Who are you to your family? Who are you to the world? Now who do you want to be? It is time to start making choices and putting yourself in situations that you are proud of because the world is watching. There is no getting one over on life; anyone that’s ever cheated to win at something as simple as a board game knows that no satisfaction follows, only guilt. And guilt is unattractive.

I have a friend that had recently been accepted into of some sort of secret fraternity like group, when I went to visit him not to long ago he couldn’t wait to let me know that he made it in. He showed me the cover of this mysterious looking book he had received upon entry and I reached for it curious as to what was inside. His words exactly ” No, I’m not allowed to show anyone”. I tried to persuade him to let me see it a few times but he was serious, he couldn’t show me.

He placed the book down on his bed and shortly after this my buddy let me know that he was going out, but I should kick it around his place for an hour until he came back. Once he left my curiosity instantly arouse, I knew where he left the book and I would finally get to see what was inside.

As I began to walk to go grab the book I stopped; am I really going to sneak behind my friends back? Am I going to ruin our trust and potentially ruin the trust he has within the group? I turned back and felt ashamed for even thinking about doing such a thing. If he did show me the book or even irresponsibly placed it somewhere where anyone could get to it, he would be breaking his groups rule and although they wouldn’t know, he would feel guilt and they would feel it, which would affect his future within the group. In the same respect, If I read the book I would feel guilt which would affect the feelings and future of our friendship.

The invisible camera is always on players; which is why they say character is what you do when no one is watching. If you live your life consciously believing that there is a camera following you and a screen linked to everyone around that can watch what you do, not only will you live more genuinely, you will reach heights you never knew imaginable.

The Camera is on..

Women Are Watching

By WOTP Coach Eddie Fews

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Cold Showers Will Increase Your Success

Attract Beautiful Women By Taking Cold Showers

Cold showers have been scientifically proven to improve multiple aspects of our physical and mental health. The ancient samurai warriors used to pour buckets of cold river water on their heads every morning in a Shinto practice called Misogi. This was a purification ritual on a spiritual level. They believed that it cleansed their spirit and helped them start a new day & new adventure fresh. The Spartans You know those Ripped up scarlet cape wearing soldiers from the movie 300) felt warm water was for the weak and unmasculine. The original James Bond stories noted that he would begin his showers warm and end them with a few minutes of cold water.

In the 1820s, a German farmer named Vincenz Priessnitz started touting a new medical treatment called “hydrotherapy,” which used cold water to cure everything from broken bones to erectile dysfunction. He turned his family’s homestead into a sanitarium, and patients flocked to it in the hope that his cold water cure could help them. Among his clientele were dukes, duchesses, counts, countesses, and a few princesses to boot.

Many cultures throughout history have used cold showers to improve multiple aspects of their lives. Here in this new aged lifestyle, we’ve become to comfortable with the luxury of Hot Showers that we have forgot some of our ancient practices that have provided great overall benefits to our well-being.

Benefits of Cold Showers

Weight Loss/ Brown Fat:

People who take cold showers experience an increase in brown fat cells, which protect from aging; fight obesity, diabetes, and heart disease

Brown fat = special fat cells that have, unlike white fat cells, high concentrations of mitochondria and, therefore, are able to generate heat without any muscular activity. Brown fat concentrations are very high in new borns and infants, but gradually decline with age due to an absence of cold stimulation in the general population.

Brown fat cells burn glucose in an attempt to create as much heat energy as possible. A higher ammount of these cells within the body will lead to more energy being burned per second, meaning more unnecessary weight being released from the body. Many people within our culture today have been seeking to improve that rate of their metabolism because it means that every process within the body will become more efficient  causing more weight to be released and more growth/restoration of muscle tissue to occur.

Strengthens Immunity

Cold showers are sometimes touted as a preventative tonic for colds, flu, and infections. An experiment in Prague studied the effect of cold water immersions on athletic young men. They immersed themselves in water at 14°C (57°F), three times a week for six weeks. Among many changes, they saw increased levels of two types of white blood cells: monocytes and lymphocytes. While certain lymphocytes are instrumental in eliminating bacteria, viruses, and toxins; monocytes are indirectly responsible for the engulfing and consuming of pathogens and foreign materials. Researchers believe that the increased metabolic rate, which results from the body’s attempt to warm itself up, activates the immune system and releases more white blood cells in response. Therefore, it is reasonable to assume that people who take regular cold showers are less likely to develop colds, flu’s, and even some forms of cancer.

Clear Radiant Skin

When you shower with warm water, it opens up your pores. Then you wash and this cleans up your pores. That’s all good. When you end, it would be best to close your pores and cold water does just that. It’s good to close your pores after you are all cleaned up because it will prevent the pores from being easily clogged by dirt and oil, which causes skin imperfections such as acne for example. Another benefit is that cold water makes your blood vessels constrict which reduces swelling and the appearance of dark circles under your eyes (where skin is at its thinnest). This provides you with a young, healthy glow.

Shiny healthy Hair

Cold water makes your hair look healthier and shinier. As a matter of fact, cool air makes your hair shinier too (that’s why there is a cool air button on your hair dryer). What the cold water does is that it closes the cuticle which makes the hair stronger and prevents dirt from easily accumulating within your scalp. Basically, the same principle with how it closes the pores of your skin as mentioned above. Stronger hair, of course, prevents hair from being easily pulled out when you are combing, and it helps in slowing down overall hair loss.

Kills Depression

Cold showers release chemicals into the body to decrease stress, anxiety, and genuinely just make you feel happier. A cold shower will wake up the body, mind, spirit, and you will be fully prepared to take on whatever challenges the day will set before you.

Increase Of Testosterone

With male testosterone at an all time low (which could be due to all the soy intake that’s going today. Soy turns male testosterone into estrogen; which is why many men who drink and eat soy often experience a flabby woman like chest. Check underneath the ingredients label on your favorite foods, you’ll be surprised how many of them say Contains: Soy Ingredients) cold showers are a great way to give your body a natural boost of testosterone without using those new testosterone injects and creams. Cold water will increase testosterone and the libido; not only does one’s sex increase, but so does one’s overall strength and energy levels.

Save You Time/Money

As we are all aware of, the price of oil is on the rise and by taking cold showers you are not only saving yourself money but you are preserving one of the earths most valuable resources. Also if you take a cold shower you won’t be spending unnecessary time standing under warm water in comfort, inhaling toxic fumes from the evaporated chlorine and fluoride in the water. So if you won’t take colder showers for yourself, at least do it for humanitarian reasons.

More Benefits

Cure For Insomnia.

Cold showers calm the mind and body so intensely that one will often find himself sleeping like a baby after taking a cold shower at night.

Regulates temperature (Meaning there will be no more chronically cold hands or feet, or excessive sweating).

Improves kidney function.

Strengthens the parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous systems.

Contracts the muscles to eliminate toxins and poisonous wastes.

Strengthens the mucous membranes, which help resist hay fever, allergies, colds, coughs.

Brings blood to the capillaries, therefore increasing circulation throughout the body.

Improves hormonal activity.

I have personally been taking cold showers for a little over a year now and I honestly have to say I’ve never looked or felt better in my entire life. I have this theory that if I can wake up every morning and jump into a cold shower, the toughest part of my day will already be out of the way – the rest is a breeze. Cold showers have also effected the way I deal with my nerves; being able to ignore all the mental resistance/anxiety about jumping into a cold shower is not very different to ignoring the anxiety you feel before approaching a woman. Which is why I want to invite all of you Players and Playerettes to be out there to take on the 21 Day Cold Shower Challenge  You can even track your progress and relate to others who are during the same challenge within the Player Chronicle section of the forums. I would also advise taking before and after pictures so you can see the significant changes within your hair, skin and body; not to mention you will feel absolutely amazing.

The 21 Day Cold Shower Challenge invites you on a course that can permanently change your life for the better. All that is required is for you to take two cold showers a day – One in the morning and one before bed. The first three days are always the toughest, but after that you’ll be singing tunes and dancing around in the cold water like a true champ.

I’m looking forward to reading about your results…Peace & Love

By Eddie Fews

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Women Love A Strong Spirit

Understanding what women really want.

I once heard a quote that went ” The condition of the spirit is a reflection of the mind and the condition of the mind is a reflection of the body”. Now although I decided to keep my body and mind healthy to maintain a healthy spirit I never had a real example of how a healthy spirit would benefit me until recently.

I had been going through a lot of things that I choose not to talk to anyone about; this resulted in a few ruined friendships and a huge falling out with my family. I felt as if I hit rock bottom and there was only one way to go from there. I began being more conscious of how I was using my time, the choices I was making unconsciously and what I was putting into my body. I started exercising daily, eating more whole foods, and centering my life around my purpose.

As a result of this I began to grow strong internally; I developed a new found confidence in myself and I felt untouchable. I also noticed that the people around me believed in me and my abilities more than ever. When I would go play a team sport the entire team looked at me to be the leader and make decisions; it was as if the people around me could feel like I was on the right path. I also took more risk and felt immune to negative emotions.

My good friend has a dog that’s really aggressive, he bites everyone. Because of its aggressive nature I’m usually really tense around the dog. However once I began to correct my bad habits which built my spirit I felt absolutely no fear around the dog. The dog then actually had a new found respect for me, I was able to play with it and give it orders with ease, all because I made my growth and development a priority.

And of course women were throwing themselves at me like never before.

Make your health mentally and physically the number one priority in your life.

Eat better, by better I mean eat more whole foods(preferably organic whole foods); foods that only contain one ingredient( Brown Rice, Steak, Spinach, Eggs etc). Have you ever checked the label of some of the stuff we’re eating? I bet you can barely pronounce it, let alone know what it is. The more ingredients on the label the less healthy the food is on the body(mind, and spirit).

Refrain from masturbation, shortly after masturbation many men feel sluggish and lazy about life. Most can evil feel something missing on the inside; which is semen, the most vital fluid in the male body. Lack of semen in the body is also a contributed to depression, which seems to be the number one mental issue people are dealing with today. Its funny how congruent this is with the increase of internet porn. Think of it like a car; when you have a full tank, you’ll go anywhere and drive any distance, and when left with a quarter tank you try and conserve gas and only make trips when necessary. Masturbation makes you appear less attractive to women, it removes the natural glow we each have about us. Refrain from masturbating for 3 weeks and see if you don’t notice a significant difference in the way your skin looks and the way women respond to you.

Think positive, A primary contributor to stress and depression is negative self talk; therefore if you begin practising positive self talk and positive thinking you are on the path of redemption.

Along with positive thinking comes a positive attitude, which means seeing everything that comes into your life as something that will benefit you and help you succeed. Fired from your job? Great! Now you can pursuer brighter and more self fulfilling careers that will add to your happiness. Rejected after an approach? Awesome, now you get on with finding the girl for you. Imagine if she talked you to death, a took your number just to flake on the date, she just saved you a lot of time.

When you are on the road to pursuing things you are passionate about and serving your life purpose very little will be able to get you down. You begin to plow through the world easier, men will admire you, and women will find you ten times more attractive than ever before. So what are you waiting for? Get started on improving the quality of your life now!

By Eddie Fews

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Women Aren’t The Answer

It appears that in this modern day society of romance movies and love stories we get caught up in the idea that there is someone out there that is meant to “complete” us.

We all seem to be in search for “the one”, a savior, our very own personal Jesus that is going to take us from the bottom to the top by simply being in our lives. In no way am I saying that this is completely impossible, however it is highly unlikely that you are going to have a successful relationship if you first don’t know how to be without one. Women aren’t the answer to all of your problems, they aren’t the cure for your depression, and they aren’t the reason you have yet find contentment with your life.

You see long ago, before mass media has taken over and become the primary influence on all of our lives, men weren’t dependent on women for happiness. Marriage for many was just something people did. Of course there were the rare cases of finding true love, but the majority of people were forced to succumb to arranged marriages, and marriages based on exchanges for wealth. (i’ll give you my daughter for ex amount of this and that).

Men have to first become “Men” before they were even considered ready to be with someone. And now we have entered a world where people attempt to find love before they even bother finding themselves.

The most attractive thing to a woman is a man that knows who he is, has an understanding of where he is going in his life and a man that is already “happy”.

Not only does this understanding give you an air of noticeable confidence, it also creates a magnetic aura about you. People want to be around you more because they will want to be just like you. They want to know who they are, they want to have a direction in life, and these men become your followers.

This type of man doesn’t need the approval of others because he understands that his value cannot be sought out in anyone other than himself.

The truth is, if you aren’t already happy, you aren’t ready for a relationship. This is what’s causing the 55% divorce rate we are dealing with today. Every other couple is getting divorced and no one is stopping to ask why.

Before I became an active pursuer of my purpose and identity, I dealt with many troubled relationships. I would constantly start something and never bother finishing it. I used to begin searching for myself intensely, and women would find this extremely attractive.

I would then end up in a relationship with who I would think was “the one” countless amounts of times. The only issue was, the moment I landed the girl, my search for my purpose and identity had ended. I no longer continued to make time to grow alone, I began giving all of my time to my girlfriends.

Slowly they would lose attraction and respect for me which would land us in a ton of senseless petty arguments, resulting in the end of a relationship time and time again. I repeated this cycle over and over until I realized that I thought the woman was my identity. I thought she was my purpose; so I gave up everything, thinking she was what I was looking for all along.

I am here to tell you today that until you know “you” you are not going to be able to properly get to know anyone else. Make time for your own life, search for your own identity and the women will flock to you. Happiness is found on inside of you, not in between ladies legs.

If you want to get good with women because you think this is the reason you aren’t happy you better think again. Follow your heart and find your happiness eternally and you want have to approach a girl, they will be approaching you.

If you have been looking for yourself for a long time and have no idea where to start contact me at for Consultation through Instant Messenger, Skype, or In Person One on One Coaching. We all need somebody, don’t let your pride stand in the way of your happiness.

Eddie Fews

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Text Message Like A Player

Text messages can be a fun and discrete way to contact people during any time period of the day.

Whether you’re in an important business meeting or viewing a movie at a local cinema; it only takes seconds to type up a message and contact anyone you choose. And because of this it is the most popular form of communication used by the new generation of the twenty first century.

It is also becoming the form of communication women are relying on today to speak with the men they are involved with. Although, men often express to me that they are unsure of how come across as attractive in their text messages.

This seems to be a common issue many men are running into with women. Men say to me ” Hey Eddie, I can do the approach and get the number but, i seem to lose the girl when its time to initiate contact.” I personally encourage guys to dial women up and talk to them on the phone one on one, but with the increasing popularity of text messaging you can’t help but text message occasionally.

If You Are Going To Text Message Then Get It Right

Here are some of the tips I give guys that have spiced up their dating life.

K.I.S.S (Keep. It. Simple. Stupid)

Usually when sending text messages we are only given 160 characters to use per message. Rarely, if ever, is it a good idea to exceed this limit. Hell, rarely if ever is it a good idea to use even half of that 160.

Make sure your text messages are fun, concise, and to the point.

Too many guys are writing women these essays filled with complicated jokes and metaphors that no one would even understand in person.

So what makes you think that anyone is going to understand them in a text message lacking body language and tonality. If you want to be “kissed” always remember to keep it simple.

Fun And Compelling

Remember the old classic melodic hit by Cyndi Lauper ” Girls Just Wanna Have Fun”.

It is as true then as it is today; when texting a woman make sure what you are saying is emotionally stirring and compelling a exciting response.

Women are inspired by emotions. They enjoy being taken on a roller ride emotionally and if you can manage to do this through texting; women will begin texting you with delight throughout the day.

Are your text messages compelling a response? A lady texted a friend of mine ” Hey whats up?” in returned he replied ” Just got out of work” and he couldn’t figure out why the girl didn’t bother responding to his reply.

Nothing about that text message showed any signs of interest or inspired any emotions that would make someone want to reply. When texting remember to be inspiring; for practice you can even ask yourself “Is this text message fun or emotionally stirring?” and if the answer is ” No” then its probably better if you send something that is.

Assume Attraction

Assuming attraction refers back to a simple rule we as players use while out meeting women.

We say its best to also assume a girl is interested in you even if she isn’t. Now this isn’t always a true assumption but it is a pleasant one and so its the way we choose to live our lives.

How does this refer to text messaging?

Always interpret anything a woman sends you in text messages as something positive. Not only does this make you think of her in a good light but it keeps you in the right frame of mind to text her something light, fun, and flirty.

For example.

If a woman sends me a one word response to a text message, I think ” Oh she’s just trying to make me work for it”

So I’ll reply with something emotionally stirring. Mainly because I allowed myself to be emotionally stirred by her message. Get in the game guys. No matter what she is saying, she is only doing it to seduce you into liking her more.

With the growing of modern technology, text messaging is prevalent in the world today. It’s something we can all selectively use to be a bit more seductive. Keep it simple, make sure your text messages are fun-flirty and never text a woman unless you have the balls to call her in the first place.

Text messaging is just another tool which can be used for seduction but it can never replace a seductive telephone conversation or a real-life encounter.

If you can get this through your head then you will be well on your way to improving your success with the women of today.

Eddie Fews

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Players Conquer Micro Avoidance

Humans with fully functioning minds make thousands of small decisions every day; some that happen on the subconscious level and others that we decisively have to make. Have you ever been on public transportation and wanted to sit down but the only empty seats were being either guarded or directly in between two other people?

Many people would rather stand up regardless of how tired they are than make someone else uncomfortable by asking them to make room. Small decisions like this fall under the category of Micro-Avoidance and every time you let micro avoidance conquer you, your self-esteem lowers a bit.

What about that paper clip that has been sitting on the floor in your house for God knows how long, that you just don’t pick up? Something in you is nudging you to take a ten second break from the television or the internet and tidy up the place a bit, but you forget about it and carry on with your life. All of these small and almost insignificant choices we avoid every day add small bits of stress into our lives; and as you know, any added stress adds to the brain fog, and depression that seems to be plaguing the world today.

Mirco-avoidance even ties in to meeting, dating and approaching beautiful women. How often have you been standing in line behind an attractive girl in Starbucks that you would say hello to if you could just muster up the courage?

Maybe you figured you waited too long, and she would think you were weird for opening her after all this time. A pick up artist would tell you that you only have “3 seconds” upon seeing a girl to open her or else its too late. We at Way Of The Player personally find it hard to believe that every guy that has ever gotten laid opened the girl within the first three seconds. Sure it may optimize you chances of over thinking and saying something stupid but when you have enough value, there is always a window of opportunity.

Players are natural masters at conquering micro-avoidance; if there is something we want to say we say it; if there is something we want to do we do it. We live on the edge and following our hunches because we believe it will add to our character and grow our self-esteem. If we like a guys shirt, shoes, or tie, we don’t mind tapping him on the shoulder to let him know how awesome his sense of style is. This keeps us in the habit of becoming doers more so than being thinkers. If our buddy tells us he has this new wacky opener that girls have been going crazy for, we don’t analyze why or why not it may work, we walk up to the next attractive girl we see and try it out for ourselves.

Conquering micro-avoidance will pumps up your self esteem, builds your social momentum, and adds to your character. Right now; is there something you have been meaning to do that your avoiding? Maybe its to call your grandmother or father just to say hello; pick up the phone and do it now. You’ll feel a lot better. Have you been thinking about signing up for a gym to get in shape? Shut down your computer and go take a few tours of the gyms in your area. Conquering micro avoidance is a key element in becoming a player; you’ll be happier and feel more liberated that you ever have your entire life.

By Eddie Fews

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