The Player’s Guide To Going Out Alone

The Players Guide To Going Out Alone
What’s up guys?
This article is for the players out there who aren’t afraid to wear the title. It seems every guy wants to be a player but they fear the label. Thats a little backwards in my arrogant opinion. But anyway, I think it’s important that as players that we challenge ourselves and always take the next step into becoming better at what we do. If there is an area that we can improve, we improve it. Players aren’t settling for “good enough”, that’s for normal guys. As I began having this revelation I noticed an area in my own life I could improve; I rarely if ever went to a bar or night club alone. So it was time to make a change..
I’ve started  going out alone  mainly because I’ve taken sometime away from friends to continue on my journey of self. I’ve noticed that the initial idea of going to a nightclub alone caused me to feel “fear”, but fear is not something I choose to live with. So I have made it my mission to go out alone at least three times a weak to rid myself of that emotion.
There were a few times when I showered, dressed up, sprayed on cologne and then gave into “not feeling up to it”. It’s a silly thing the subconscious does to put obstacles in the way of us and are goals. Sometimes its random excuses, others is just lethargic energy intruding on our system. I choose to give into it on four occasions actually;  two of which were after I had already went out alone a few night proior. I’d lay in my bed in the darkness staring at the ceiling in apathy. What is it I’m actually afraid of I’d wonder? A answer logical enough never arrived so I promised myself that I wouldn’t let this happen again.
I woke up the next morning and neglected many of my responsibilities, because all I could focus on was destroying the mental blocks that were between me and goals. One by one I shot them down with ambitious self talk and visualization. This went on for a some hours and before I knew it it was 8:30 PM, so I anxiously began getting ready. I threw on my best suit and made to my way of one of the more exclusive clubs in the meat packing district of New York City.
When I arrived there was a long line behind a red velvet rope. I choose to go straight for the door, I had worked my mind up so I was feeling important. Once in front I was greeted by an over weight Asian woman with a list in her hand. She looked me up and down waiting for me to give her the name of whoever made me feel like I could just enter this place like this. I had googled the name of the DJ before I got there so I just threw his name around and attempted to walk right pass her. I was greeted by a bouncer who I thought was going to call my bluff, but he just patted me down and I was in.
I wanted to smile but I decided to keep that one on the inside; the night was just getting started and it’s not time to get my boxers in a bunch.
I looked up, looked down, looked left and looked right. The guy to girl ratio was about 2 to 1 so that was perfect. I always say ” If there’s only one girl in the whole club that’s enough for me”. I then made my way around the place just to check out the venue. In the back there was a smoke room with no ceiling, the music was low so I instantly knew this was the place for conversation.
After a cigarette that was offered to me and some small talk with the guys and gals outside I headed back into the dance floor/bar area. The moment I got in I spotted this blonde sitting at a VIP table with only two others; a guy and a girl who happned to be making out. The blonde was “fake texting” on her phone and looking around the room so I knew it was time for a hero to come save the day.
I walked on over and said ” Hey I came over to even the ratio a bit. ” then ” should we do what they’re doing( pointing at the two friends kissing) or head outside for a cig. ” she smiled, told me her name and I led her by the hand to “conversation room”
I grabbed two cigarettes from the guy passing out napkins in the bathroom and we took a seat outside.
“Yea.. I knew you liked black guys ” I said with a smirk, she laughed and said something to the extent of ” doesn’t everyone” ( don’t quote me on that though). She then went into some rant about how exotic she finds black guys. I stopped listening halfway through and just tried to kiss her after a min or so. She turned her head and motioned for me to kiss her on her cheek. I declined of course(players don’t settle for second best) and just went into a new topic of conversation. After another few minutes I caught her gazing at me for extended moments so I tried to kiss her again. She moved again and began to complain about how fast I was moving. She wanted to talk more first but I stopped showing interest so she returned to her group.
I talked to a few more girls and guys outside, grabbed a couple numbers then went back in to see who was on the dance floor. I knew I wouldn’t be dancing too much; the music wasn’t really my thing, so I just tried dancing for a min or so and grabbing the numbers of the girls I found attractive on the floor. I didn’t have much success with that but after two or three attempts I spoted this attractive girl standing around on the outskirts of the dance floor.
I tapped her on the shoulder ” hey, it’s rough out there” she replied ” I saw you getting crazy out there. How are the girls treating you?”
I followed up with ” not bad, but I planting my flag here with you for tonight”
She then began to tell me how she also came out alone and she’s recently out of a divorce so she’s out trying to meet new people. We had a lot in common and next thing you know, it’s 45 mins later and we’re still talking. She was dope, but I had to pee and she wanted to go grab a drink. I told her I’d find her when I got back from the bathroom, but I never did. I actually caught myself looking for her for longer than I should have, but I snapped out of it. It’s important that I learn to have things and let them go, no matter how great they are.
After a few more light approaches I decided to just call it a night and head on home. I made my way to the exit and on the way out I spotted the blonde from eariler making out with some guy at her group table. I just laughed to myself and built a little rapport with the bouncer before I went home. Just make them feel important and remember their names (important), it’ll help you out in the long run. I repeated the bouncers name to myself over and over until I got home.
In conclusion
Going out alone is one of the most self-revealing activities that you can perform. There is no leaning on your buddies for support and energy; you’re cast into the lions pit and have to make it out alive. Going out alone shows you how skilled you are with women. I recommend it to all who are serious about developing into true seducers.
If you have any stories; email them to me. I’m interested in reading them.

Disrupting Her Reality

Have you ever wondered how you can get beautiful women to chase you? 

How you can get the attention of beautiful women women without doing much of anything? 

No matter what method you use, the key element to every method involves disrupting the reality of a woman. I have learned how to get a beautiful woman to come after me and chase me down. 

Now, there is more than one way to do this; you could throw your shot glass at her from across the bar and hit her square in the face… Don’t do that. 

Or my preferred method. 

You could simply change you way that you look at all the beautiful women you desire. 

When I do this, she now becomes the girl that I “wanted” (past tense). 

Do you ever wonder why it is always the unattractive girls that are seeking out your attention? Why can’t it be the supermodels and strippers that are drooling all over you? It certainly can be, but you must first take them off of that psychological pedestal you have placed them on. 

Many men have made a commitment to themselves to no longer drool over beautiful women and many have given up buying them drinks etc. But few have managed to discontinue idolizing these women in there minds. Some guys can handle not even staring at them anymore, but how many of you feel absolutely nothing on the inside when a 10 out of 10 hottie walks by you on the street? 

For you to understand this concept you must first understand that humans emit energy from their bodies every second of every day. Whatever it is you are thinking and feeling at the moment, that is the energy other people around you are feeling from you. 

Have you ever had one of those days when you are feeling on top of the world, like no one can touch you and everyone just seems to be responding to you positively? 

That is because your thoughts revolve around positivity and you are sending that positive energy into everyone around you. Wouldn’t you like to have that feeling a lot more often…? Don’t you want to Feel Like “The Man” More Often? 

There are a few things that help with this; the most important thing is what you are eating and drinking. What you put into your body is a direct reflection what’s on the inside; Mentality physically and spiritually. Hence the reason for the expression ” you are what you eat”. 

It’s simple logic that if you eat good you will feel good. I challenge you to begin checking the ingredients labels on the food you’re consuming and research exactly what some of that stuff does to your bodies, your mind, your spirit; you will be surprised. 

Another important thing is your breathing; when the brain is properly oxygenated it creates endorphin and endorphins are the same chemicals that make you feel good after a long work out. Pay attention to your breathing when you are feeling anxiety or fear; the breathing is likely to be shallow and rapid. On the other hand, when you are feeling good the breaths becomes deep and long. Train your self to take deep long breaths while in the face of any situation and your body will begin to repeat this habit on its own. 

How does this tie into beautiful women you ask? When you feel good, you have a higher sex drive, emit positive energy and people will just want to be around you. Simple as that.. 

Back To Disrupting Her Reality 

To disrupt her reality you have to give a woman a reaction energetically that is the complete opposite of everything you feel from other people everyday. 

You need to emit an energy that causes an alarm in her current reality; in order to bring peace back into her world she must do everything it takes to shut that alarm off( making you see her as a goddess like everyone else does). Everyone else becomes irrelevant and you become the only thing that matters. 

Just imagine if we managed to achieve world peace and in the hearts of every man they vowed to never kill or harm another; and then all of a sudden one guy started killing and hurting people. He could kill whoever he wanted and be untouchable because no one else would do harm. 

He would cause a disruption in the accepted reality and everyone else would have to abide by his rules in order to get him to stop. He becomes the most important person in the world because he is the only one rebelling. This man can then become king of the world as long as he vowed to never kill another. 

This is what you must do with the beautiful women that men so desperately want. Shake up their world; every other guy sees them as some super goddess and emits that energy into them. You must emit the opposite, when you do they will do anything at any cost to get you to stop. So they can resume their world of peace where everyone sees them as beautiful. 

You have to turn up the violence(metaphorically) and disrupt her world and she will do anything to bring back the world peace. Even if that means, making you king over her world. 

How do you do this you ask? 

Instead of turning you energy to the beautiful women when you see them you turn you energy to inward( I go deeper into this in my boot camp). She is no longer some super goddess, she is just a woman. No different from the over weight girl that passed by right before her. 

They both have two arms two legs, tits and a vagina. Disrupt her reality guys, all women are equal, the hot one is nothing special. Ask yourself when you see any women you want, “how can I disrupt her reality?”… And then she is yours. 

Game and seduction is 99% mental guys… Every memorable experience you have ever has is because the experience disrupted your reality. This is why this is so important.. You can do this guys! 

By Eddie Fews 

I run a boot camp that goes into a lot more depth on this subject. You will learn how to effectively turn all of you attention inward and truly disrupt her reality. For more details on my “Disrupt her reality Boot Camp” email me at 
Also for dating, seduction and relationship consultation via Skype, phone or instant messenger email me as well. 

Need help getting you ex back? I’ll show you how. 

For 1 on 1 face to face personal coaching email me as well.

Become King Of The Seduction Jungle

From the Discovery channel to many peoples favorite Disney film, we’ve all heard it before; lions are the “king of the jungle”.

Now I’m no zoologist but as we all know, lions eat, sh!t, and sleep all day long and barely have to lift a finger. Male lions have on average four to five Lioness(Female Lions) at their disposal that both bring them food, has sex with them, and looks after the children while the lion relaxes in front of the Sahara sun licking his fur. But the best part is, the Male lion gets to eat first; he gorges himself in meat and blood, leaving the scraps and remains for his five mistresses to contend for.

Ever wonder how they do it? Today’s Feminist Western women probably vomit in their mouths at the thought of a lifestyle like this but it is very well possible in today’s society. In fact, a perfect example of a of lions spirit reincarnated is the ” P.I.M.P.” ; a pimp sends women to sleep with men for money and keeps the larger percent of the cash. The prostitute takes all of the risk and does all of the work but still manages to make sure the Pimp “eats first.” Now in no way do I support what pimps do but there is always much to be learned from anyone achieving success at high levels, and if you are seeking to improve your seduction skills, there is much to be learned from the lion.


Think about it, lions are the most selfish creatures on earth, What does the lion do? He sits around while the Lioness’ go out and capture HIM food, and once they return he eats FIRST. Does that sound selfish to you? The lion doesn’t help raise the baby lions and he doesn’t let any other lions have sex with any of his women. And because of this, the Lioness continue to do anything that is going to make him happy. I know a lot of readers are probably thinking, ” That’s a really misogynistic thing to say” to which my only reply is, “Have fun your internet porn.” Oddly enough, women go nuts for selfish men; how many girls do you know who can’t seem to let go of some selfish asshole right now? Its a sad thing that society is this way but if this is what works, why must we reinvent the wheel? If the majority of attractive women already go for selfish men, you’re simply giving them what they want anyway. You’re not an asshole, you are actually doing them a favor by making it easy for them to want you.

In fact, women are most happy when they are making men happy. Think about the smile shines across a girls face and the joy that fills her eyes when you tell her how awesome the meal was that she just cooked. What about how deeply she embraces you when you compliment her on how great she was in bed. Have you ever seen her happier than that?

Set Boundaries

Women in relationships with men who know how to draw boundary lines are a lot happier than women with pussy men who let them walk all over them. The woman is unhappy because not only does she have to be a woman, she has to take on the role of the man when he’s too weak to make a decision. She also has to listen to him whining and complaining all day long; and that must be stressful to deal with. A woman with a strong man that can put her in her place is happy because all she has to do now is relax in the comfort of being a woman.

Have you ever heard this before?

” What on earth does she see in that guy!? What an asshole! She can do way better! If she was with me I’d treat her like a Goddess”

That mentality is the very reason why the attractive women you want don’t want to be with you. She wants a selfish man, she’s disgusted at the idea of someone wanting to treat her like a Goddess and groveling for her attention. The guys who she wants to be with simply demand her attention, and if she refuses he understands that there are a lot more women who won’t. Just think about what would happen if a Lioness refused to give the alpha lion attention. Would he put up with it? No, he would easily just walk over to the next Lioness who will give him what he wants.

No More Mr.Nice Guy/Stand Up For Yourself

If your brain works half as well as the rest of ours, it is pretty obvious that the women who are head over in heels in love with a guy are rarely if ever in relationships with an ” extremely nice guy”. So what do you have to do to get with women?

Drop the Mr.Nice guy act and begin to do what you want to do. No more compromising and accompanying her to see the latest movie in the twilight series because you “think” it is going to make her happy. If you are doing something that you don’t not want to do, she will be unhappy to know that her boyfriend is too much of a Sissy to stand up for himself.

Lets say you are out walking with your woman and some teenage kids come up behind you, aggressively bump you and your girlfriend, and laugh and keep walking. Now she may not want you to beat up a bunch of little kids but how disappointed in you do you think she would be if you didn’t say anything? What if it was a more harmful situation? How can she ever feel safe when she goes out with you? The lion would never let a stray lion coming into his territory and do the slightest bit of harm to him or anyone of his Lioness. He defends them and as a result they do anything to make him happy, but if he loses the fight he must give up everything he owns.

Being attractive to women involves you taking an alpha lion stance toward them and the rest of the world. If you remember to refuse to comprise, set boundaries and stand up for yourself you’ll enjoy the luxury of loving, serving women just as the lion does.

By Eddie Fews


I’m Dating & Seduction Coach Eddie Fews- I work with men on various things from improving their text messaging to approaching and meeting women on the sidewalks, stores and coffee shops all over the world. Although we have shortcomings, we should constantly be working on improving and building ourselves into better more efficient people.

If you need that extra push and motivation to get out there to meet and date more women and want to expand upon your seduction skills Email me: to check my availability ,rates, and you will be contacted by me or one of my representatives within 48 hours . I do in person one on one coaching along with consultation through Skype, Instant Messenger and phone calls.

The 48 Laws Of Player

The 48 Laws Of Player


1) Lead: Whether you are in an intimate relationship, a social circle, or among colleagues you have one main priority as a player and that is to LEAD. Indecision is lower than the ground we walk on as players. A Player knows what he wants and he gets exactly what he wants. ” Hey guys, lets all go grab some sushi ” followed by grabbing his jacket, making his way to the door, expecting others to follow is a normal action taken by a player. A player goes after what he wants because he expects all(even the universe) to be receptive to what he wants. The player is ALWAYS the leader.

2) Be Your Own Best Friend – A Players understands that for people to love him and desire to be around him he must first be his own best friend. Humanity is attracted to the people who appear the happiest despite what there situation may be. We’re are born alone and we will die alone so it is imperative that you learn to love being with yourself. Boring people are the only ones that are ever bored, they attract boring people and live generally boring lives. Players live fun fueled exciting lives and can be often happily spotted at bars, clubs, restaurants etc. completely alone. No one completes a player, a player is already complete.


3) Fill Your Heart With Optimism – Players are more often than the most optimistic people that you will ever come across. If a girl ignores a players phone call or text he thinks ” Oh, she must be busy or I’m sure the call didn’t get through, I’ll just try again later”. If a woman rejects a player he understands because after all she must have a valid reason for telling him no, but there is still a chance she will rethink her decision and change her mind, so he prys for acceptance just a bit more than the average joe. Players can do all things and it is because of that we keep optimism in our hearts. time but who wants to be filled with negative emotions like grief


4) Make Others Feel Loved – Players have a way of looking at life that means everyone around them feel loved whenever they’re hanging out. Players are giving – both physically and emotionally. They want everyone around them smiling and having a good time. It pains the player to see anyone in his group not enjoying themselves and he makes it his mission to fill his circle with this same joy that he has for life itself. As a player people will be happy when you’re around and when you’re not around that will be talking about you wishing you could be there.


5) Tell The Truth: We have all lied at one point of our lives and a tiny white lie here and there will do us or others no direct harm, but lying as a whole is for the normal. Players have made the decision to be honest always and to accept all the consequences that follow. Everyone may not like you for it, but they will have no choice but to respect you.

6) Take Cold Showers – You’ll look better, you’ll feel better, and you will be in a better state if you add colder showers into your arsenal. The Spartans did it, the samurai’s did it, hell even James Bond did it. Cold Showers will instantly separate you from the pack, there will be a different feel about you and you will be stronger mentally. For more on this go back an read ” Cold Shower Your Way To Beautiful Women ”

7) Share Women With Your Friends – No one likes the selfish guy who tries to keep everything for himself. If you won a billion dollars would you keep it all to yourself or would you share it with your friends and love ones? An abundance mentality is what creates abundance, if you act as if you have many girls at your disposal, eventually you will. And the best way to do this is to take action to represent it.You can’t bang them all; introduce and hook up friends with some of the girls you’re after.

8) Dress to Impress – We all know the feeling when we put on a nice suit and look at the demi god in the mirror. Dressing good is an instant way to feel good and when you feel good, people feel good being around you. Take pride in what you wear, iron your shirts, and properly tie the bow on your shoes.

9) Eat Healthy – I have two words for you… ” One Ingredient “. If you look at the labels of all of the processed foods we eat today many of them are filled with ingredients that we can barely even pronounce. Nine times out of ten these things are unhealthy additives that we all should steer away from. Unhealthy food has been scientifically proven to cause anxiety, aggravation and confusion. If you’re not eating properly, your brain isn’t functioning properly.

10) Stay In Shape – I remember listening to an interview a while back with a guy speaking on health that changed my life. He said something like ” We you’re heart is healthy, every breath you take is like a shot of F1 fuel into your Ferrari going directly into the brain. When you’re unhealthy every breath is like pouring vegetable oil into your broke down beat up car. Now don’t you want to drive a Ferrari? ” Its safe to say that when we’re healthy we just function better as people over all. You don’t need to be in shape to get women, trust me. But you will feel better as a whole and thats all anyone could ask for.

11) Develop A Circle of Female Friends – Once you get off your ass and start to meet more women you are going to understand that its not smart to try and fuck every attractive girl that comes your way. Its important to have your own social circles and women do bring a lot of credibility into the circle. Not to mention, Hot girls have hot friends and when you build a strong enough rapport with them they won’t mind hooking you up with a few of there friends.

12) Online Dating is for the normal Men – Online dating is awesome, we’ve had our fun with it. Its amazing to be able to access thousands of women at the click of a button. But we realized that we are being selfish because we are stealing women away from the men who don’t yet have to confidence to meet women any other way. Save online dating for the men who can not and will not become players.

13) To Fuck Her You Must Touch her – Those PUA guys call this ” Kino “. Well yea, they aren’t completely clueless. Breaking the touch barrier allows a woman to know that you are confident, badass, and you don’t play by the rules. Try your best to always go for the handshake, hug, or kiss if you’re brave upon first approaching a woman.

14) Keep Two Condoms At All Times – If you read the material on this site, you’re going to need them. Always be prepared and keep a spare or two incase one breaks. And besides, its better to have them and not need them than to need them and not have them.

15) Initiate Contact Twice for ever Three Times She Does – We know you probably want to play by your own rules but its important that the woman is always giving slightly more into the relationship than you are. It sets the tone that she is the one chasing you, because afterall she should be. You’re the baddass playboy that no woman can’t quite get to settle down. Once strong rapport and flow of conversation has been established make let her initiate contact three times because you follow up by initiating twice. This will keep her chasing you forever.

16) No matter How You feel, get up, get dressed and go out. – You’re not always going to feel your best. Sometimes you may even be a little depressed but despite how you feel, always get up, get dressed and hit the scene. Staying in the house doing nothing but watching television while shoving ice cream down your throat is not going to do anything positive for you. Man up, be a player and get on out there house. There are guys out there depending on you.

17) She Cares more about your thoughts of her than she does her thoughts of you – Stop worrying about what anyone thinks about you because we can guarantee you that people are more concerned with their own-selves than they are with you. Women you approach are wondering if you think they’re attractive, if there is food in there teeth, or if there makeup is smudging. The second thing on their minds maybe what they think about you and your approach but it is definitely not the first. Use this to your advantage, she’d rather she make a strong impression on you than you make one on her.

18) Hold eye contact until she breaks it first – There is one thing players know for certain about women in relationships. They want to know that the man in there lives is strong enough to deal with more tension than they can. You know that feeling you get when you are making eye contact with women and it becomes a game of who is going to look away first ? ALWAYS.. I REPEAT ALWAYS win this battle. Show her who the man is, show her you can deal with more tension than she can. This goes for a the handshake aswell. When you shake a womans hand let her be the first to pull away. Players are unmoved by the tension, we are strong and steady.

19) Grow To love rejection – When you learn to enjoy different variation of reject the same way you enjoy acceptance you will be unstoppable. Players laugh when a girl rejects us because she has no idea what she is missing out on. Its humorous really, imagine if you had a ten million dollar check hidden in a envelope and you walked around seeking to give it to someone worthy. Wouldn’t you snicker to yourself at all the people who rejected the envelope without taking the time to see whats it? If they only knew.. If she only knew.

20) Trust In Your Player Instincts – Pay close attention to your hunches and follow them like they’re a treasure map leading you to a fortune. As long as you aren’t purposely effecting anyone else in a negative way do whatever the **** you want! Your hunches are your subconscious speaking to you, leading you to fulfill your purpose. And before you fulfill your purpose, you must first be free. You’re hunches will lead you to freedom.

21) Walk Away, Even When She’s Hot – The willingness to walk away from anyone woman is what will cause you to radiate a presence that will make you desirable to all women. Practice walking away from the hot women who don’t quite live up to the High standards you set for yourself. Practice saying ” No ” to offers of attractive women who want to have sex with you. Its tough a first but a little pain now will pay off later.

22) Keep A Clean Home – They say cleanliness is next to godliness and it is always a reflection of your state of mind. People who’s homes are never clean tend to be filled with some much clutter mentally. The outside is always a reflection of your inside. Not to mention, as a player your are going to be having a lot of women over and no one wants to walk into a dirty home. And after you bring enough women into your home, you won’t have to do much cleaning on your own.

23) Define Your Purpose and The Women Will Follow – Figure out what your purpose is in life and follow it at all cost. Women are attracted to a man with drive and ambition. Follow your purpose and women will follow you everywhere you go. You can lose yourself chasing after women but your you’ll never lose women chasing after yourself

24) Never Kiss and Tell- Don’t dare speak Of who you sleep with to anyone – No one needs to know. Who you sleep with is your business and women are more attracted to a man that knows how to keep a secret. Its subconscious but they can always feel the difference between a man that yaps his gums about every new girl he bangs and one who doesn’t. When a woman knows you’re lips are sealed she will open up to you sexually in ways she hasn’t with no man before. Besides, if you’re talking about it. it probably doesn’t happen often.

25) Stop Keeping Score -Stop keeping score of amount of women you’ve slept with. Who are you trying to impress by keeping a tally of the number of women you have sex with? Does it make you feel validated? Do you feel like more of a man? Players aren’t validated through sex, players validate women through our own sex. The sooner you forget, the higher the forgotten number will be.

26) Keep your emotions in check – As a player it is your job to remain as stable and strong as a ox. A woman wants a man that won’t be reactive to her ever changing moods and emotions. She wants a man who is solid, someone she can lean on and rely on when things get tough. If your woman ran into your arms crying about something thats going on in her life how foolish would you look if you broke down crying right with her? Thats what her girlfriends are for, she doesn’t count on her man to mirror her femininity.

27)Be Reckless with Your Sexuality – Telling a woman she looks ” Sexy ” is 10x better than tell her she looks ” Cute “. Little puppies are cute, babies are cute, she didn’t put on that tight dress and heels to be called cute. Be sexual and be confident about your sexuality. After all, its her fault she looks so damn attractive, we didn’t ask her to come to the same venue we are in looking so hot did we? 😉

28)Use The Smile – A smiling man is the sign of a happy man, peoples guards instantly come down, and it inspires them to smile as well. Smiling – even if its a forced smile released endorphins into the blood stream which make us feel better. A smiling man also looks confident and attractive in the moment. A smile is the greatest accessory a player can wear.
29) She Can Never Be Number 1 – No woman will respect a man that put her completely first in his life. Every man should have a life mission of his own that comes before his woman. We all have a duty that we must attend to whether our woman is around or not. Nelson Mandela is an example of a man who stayed in prison, allowing his kids to be and wife raised without a father/Husband to watch the world be raised by a hero. Figure out whats number one if your life and put nothing above it and you will always have a womans respect.

30) Call Before You Text – Far too often men complain that they just don’t know what to say when texting a girl. That is usually a result of not building a firm enough connect the first time you guys spoke. If you guys want to win at this whole dating and seduction thing you are going to have to learn how to pick up the phone and physically talk to women on the phone. One solid 30-45 min phone call will have a woman after you for weeks. Players aren’t pussies, we don’t have to hide a emotional word message, we pick up the phone and call our girls.

31) Be Upfront About You Intentions – I know players get a bad rep for breaking hearts and hurting women’s feelings but thats not what we’re hear to do. If a woman likes you enough, she will still sleep with you when you tell her ” That you’re not looking for a relationship, just something casual”. Lying only puts someone else’s emotions in danger and adds guilt to your own conscious. So be up front with the women you meet before things get serious.

32) Entertain – Players are awesome story tellings, they’re the guy in the group telling jokes and making everyone laugh. It would honestly be tough for anyone pursuing there dreams, seducing women, and making friend to be anything but entertaining. This one is a giving, but as a player you are the voice and entertainer of the social circle you’re in.

33) Moderate Your Alcohol Intake – We know you wanna have fun and get drunk when you go out but we have to be mindful of the choices me make. We’ll all made terrible decisions with the Mrs.wrong after ingesting too much alcohol and as a Player you can’t afford too many slip ups. Drink if you wanna loosen up a bit, but don’t drink to get shit faced wasted. Players are leaders, no one should have to carry you home because you lack self control.

34) Go Hard Or Go Home – What separates players from the rest of the guys out there is players actually go in for the kill. Players understand that the higher our goals the easier everything lower our goals become accessible. If you have sex with a girl, kissing her won’t be an issue. Unlocking the higher of things automatically unlocks whats lower. When we’re out, are aim upon approach is to take the girl we’re after home, we only settle for the number if logistics don’t allow the extraction to take place.
35) Befriend The Bouncers/Doormans/Bartenders – Bouncers are usually perceived as assholes, but they can be your bestfriends if you show them a little extra attention. Every night guys are walking on past them without giving them a second glance. Show them a little love and all the perks of knowing the bouncer will be at your disposal.
36) You’re a Player, Embrace it. – Once it becomes obvious that you are good with women, people are going to call you out on it. ” You’re a player aren’t you? “. Don’t wuss out and pretend you aren’t – hold eye contact with them and say ” So “. Being called a player is a compliment if you think about it. Technically all they’re is saying is ‘ Wow, you’re really good with women.”

37) Never Show Shame – Whether its premature ejaculation or getting blatantly rejected in front of everyone; a player never shows nor feels any shame. A player has fully accepted himself and his imperfections so there is never a need to feel shame about any action he’s taken. The player simple smiles, and figures out a way to improve.
38) Every Stranger Is A Friend – A player perceives everyone he sees as a potential friend until they show him otherwise. He knows everyone isn’t going to like him, but his respect and love for all people forces him to be kind anyone that crosses his path.

39) Ignore The Short Cuts – Anyone that has ever done anything for themselves understands that the satisfaction felt from taking a short cut is temporary. Hard work pays off and the player knows this; he makes it his priority to do things the right way and he encourages others to do the same.
40) Count Your Blessings – Although a player may be one of the more ambitious types of people on the planet, he never forgets what he has while in pursuit of he wants. A Player is always grateful for what comes into his life; he understands that everyone won’t survive this today so he cherishes every moment that he has. When we are thankful for what we already have, life finds a way of giving us more.

41) Arguments Are For Politicians – How many times can you honestly say you’ve won an argument? What do you gain for proving another man wrong and winning an argument? An Inflation of your ego is all and pride certainly comes before the fall. A Player sees no reason to enter endless rants on how much he disagrees with another. The player is too busy, smiling, making people feel good and having a fun time. When we take the time to argue with others what we are projecting to them is that we’re on the same level as they are, but a player is on a level of his own.

42) Make Peace With Your Past – Most peoples 30’s are spent making up for all the wrong things they did in their 20’s. Life has a way of coming back to meet us full circle so its important that we leave no stone unturned. A player takes out the time to make peace with the people and choices he’s made in his past so it doesn’t screw up his present. He understand he must make room for his future because the best is yet to come.

43) Today is Special – There is no time as special as this time you are in right now – make the most of it. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, drink from the fancy wine glasses etc. A player lives a life of abundance, he doesn’t have to save materialistic items for some “perfect day” because to him no moment is as perfect as the moment he is in right now.

44) Believe In Miracles – The people that believe in miracles not only have a brighter, more fulfilling few on life, but they tend to get “lucky” more so than others. Why be concerned with whether or not miracles actually exists? Believing in miracles give humanity hope. A Player believes in miracles because to him the life he lives would be a miracle to someone less fortunate. What he’s learned over this course of his life is ‘everything can change in the blink of an eye’.
45) Build Your Character While Your Alone – The decisions we make when no one we know is their to encourage and support us are the choices that contribute the most to who we become as people. Its easy to go out and make that approach when you have a group of friends to turn to for comfort after your done. A Player lives to push his comfort zones and boundaries far beyond what anyone else expects from him, and he does so even more when there is no one watching.
46) Raise Your Standards and Expectations – The more you expect out of life the more you will get out of life; refuse to accept anything that is less than what you know you are deserving of. Life challenges all players so its important that we remain strong and remember to say NO to anything that isn’t quite up to our standards.
47) Go Outside Everyday – In this age of technology fewer and fewer people are spending as much time outside as they use to. We never know who we will meet at the park, mall, or local grocery story. Make a point everyday to put the electronics down, get some fresh air, and meet a few new people while you’re at it. Its as good for the body and mind as it is for the soul.
48) Break The Rules – These laws are here to give you a fundamental foundation to live by as a player. However, there always comes a time when a man most break a law in pursuit of his purpose. This player is your lifestyle it isn’t your purpose and these rules are all meant to be broken if it means meant your destiny.
Eddie Fews

The Most Seductive Emotion A Man Can Prey Upon – Desire

I had just got through watching a Stand-up comedy performance by the great Patrice O’Neal(R.I.P) in which he reminded me of something I’ve been doing subconsciously with women that has allowed me to become this successful as a seducer. He had gotten to a point in the show in which he asked the women in the audience how they would keep their boyfriends/husbands happy if suddenly they woke up without a pussy. The women from the audience screamed ” Anal, Blow jobs, handjobs etc.” all actions related to sexual pleasure. He then made a point that this is the reason men view women as sexual objects; because thats the only effort they take in relating to men. He goes ” None of the women said they’d learn to play video games, tell better stories, bring another woman into the bed etc. ” He goes on to say women have bored him so much that he only has sex with them to have a memory to masturbate to later – ” I’ve been jerking off in the shower so long I’m surprised a baby hasn’t crawled out the drain yet.. But after all women just want to be desired but they just don’t know how to make men desire them. And most men lose the desire they once had after 6 months in a relationship. I instantly went into my mental file cabinet and began reliving all of the moments in which I preyed upon a weak spot located within the feminine nature of almost every woman on the planet. Awareness of this weakspot could completely revolutionize the dating and seduction game; but I trust our readers at Way Of The Player and I trust that you will use what I am about to reveal to you with extreme caution.

I had left this part out of the story I told in my last article ( Stop Lying To Women) for personal reasons, but I figured what the hell;

I’ll do this for the readers.
So once I revealed the truth to my last girlfriend in my bedroom, we talked for a bit, but she had grew incredibly distance toward me. At her request I called her a taxi and she began walking toward the door. As I watched her walk down my hallway, the visual of her amazing ass and sexy legs walking away had turned me on immensely. I caught up with her at my living room where I sat on the sofa staring at her with sexuality and a bit of lust lingering in my eyes, as she stood up waiting for the cab to beep its horn to call her outside. I threw my hands around her waist, looked her in the eyes, and began expressing to her how badly looking at her was turning me on. I said something like ” You have no idea how bad I want to have sex with you right now” all while caressing her around the waist. I followed up with mores statements of desire as I watched a woman who was once disappointed and angry with turn into an helpless female begging me to tear her clothes off of her body.

And this is exactly what Patrice O’Neal was talking about toward the end up his performance. ” Women just want to be DESIRED”. Women do their hair, paint there nails, wear make up etc. because they WANT TO BE DESIRED.
All over the world there are men and women living together who are supposed to be in relationships. The only issue is, married couples have become more like roommates than actual lovers. The wife spends her time her one room and the husband spends his time in another. They just can’t seem to get it to work which is why the western society divorce rate is at an all time high of 55%. Women want to be desired and a man wants to desire his woman. But there seems to be a gap between actually making this thing work.
If you are going to succeed at using a woman’s need to be desired to be more seductive it first has to come from an authentic place. If you still see women as innocent, delicate creatures who don’t have wild sexual fantasies this isn’t going to work. The majority of women aren’t innocent and they aren’t pure, they just pretend they are because our culture judges them for anything else.

Women have an undying need to want to be desired. When you learn to have a genuine sexual desire for the women you want to seduce you’ll have more women than you can count.

Eddie Fews


Stop Lying To Women


This is one of those articles that is therapeutic for me because not only am I reaching out and teaching our readers but I am teaching and reminding myself of what it is I need to do in my own life. Sit back and enjoy.
I have always enforced being honest about who you are to women; and for most of my life I held true to this value. I could careless about the people who walked out of my life because they couldn’t handle the truth. But this particular time I had run into something a little different.

I had begun doing some personal research with online dating to prepare a online dating workshop and a few articles for way of the player. In this study I had made multiple online dating profiles, all of myself on multiple online dating websites. I used the exact same pictures on each profile; but I would change up the content on the writing portions. On some profiles I presented myself as grad school graduation, others I presented myself as a high school dropout turned entrepreneur , etc.

I would send out the same exact online openers that I developed to attractive and unattractive women all over the dating sites and the results were astonishing – I’ll get more into that on the actual Online Dating article. Long story short, as I was doing my normal routine research I came across this one profile that amazed me. It had nothing to do with the content of the profile in particular; but just the beauty, energy and the presence of the woman in photos. I refused my instant urge to send her one of my “Canned Openers” and sent her the first thing that came into my mind. A couple minutes later and BAM – she wrote back to me with energy and excitement. I responded back to her upping the intensity of the interaction just one notch. She returned my second message with a little more fire power than the first and I knew at this moment the only way to take things a step further would be to get her on the phone. I messaged her on the third message telling her we best get to yapping on the phone while there is this much fuel being thrown into the fire. She complied, I picked up the phone and called right away.

It was like I had known her my entire life the moment we got onto the phone, no awkward silences, no pauses, and no thinking about what I would say next. The conversation just sort of flowed effortlessly, but there was still one little problem; she still didn’t know who I was. I was so enticed by her femininity that I didn’t have the courage to tell her the content on my profile wasn’t the guy that I truly was. I would be risking this new rush and feeling, I’d be risking a potential love. So like a great actor would, I remained in character and became the very guy I detailed in my profile. After an hour on the phone that felt like ten minutes to us, she invited me to her concert on that very night. She warned me that she wouldn’t be able to see me much when I got there because she would be singing and playing instruments until 3:30AM. Although she would get a ten minute break in the middle of the show so I agreed to go because ten minutes was all I needed.
This was one of those “Special” girls, I knew it and I was thrilled.

I arrived at the venue, at around 12:30Am, fitted in my best clothes, and nervous. When I had entered the place, I looked on the stage and saw her singing her heart out; my pupils widened, my heart rate sped up about to about 140 BPM and I instantly felt what many would call love at first site. I wanted to run up on stage, pick her up, spin her around, and kiss her at that moment, but the security guards were looking awfully strong. I could probably take one of them, but the other would certainly roll me into a ball and shoot my into a shot glass. So I waited patiently and enjoyed the show.

40 Minutes later it was time for the 10 minutes interlude and here was my chance to get a one on one with the future superstar. By time I found her she was surrounded by a crowd of people; all praising her work and telling her how amazing of a performer she was. I reached through the crowd, pinched her on her waist, and smiled at her. She slipped out of the huddle and jumped into my arms as if I was her hero, there to save the day. I took her out back for a walk, where I instantly told her that she would be my new girlfriend. She jumped out at the idea with enthusiasm. At that very moment we were together, and we didn’t care who knew and how they felt about us.

We remained together in harmony until just last night; the tension had built up within our relationship. I grew tired of playing this character; I knew that eventually I would have to give it up but I had fell so in love that I became a victim of fear. We sat in my bedroom where I reluctantly revealed to her that I haven’t been the guy she thought I was. I told her about the real me, and she sat there heartbroken. Torn apart that I had led her to believe a lie for as long as I did. She didn’t necessarily care that I wasn’t the guy she thought, she was more hurt over the fact that I lied to her. I felt ashamed and guilty, but I kept my cool, made a few jokes and we talked about the issue at hand like adults.

Before she left I could see in her eyes that she had discovered a new found respect for not only me, but the male species as a whole. Who knows what will become of our relationship now but I’m hella excited to find out. Either way I am certain there will be more of these “special” girls that will enter my life. There have been many in the past and there will be many more in the future. This was just a lesson that needed to be learned at this particular point of my life.

I say all this to say, be honest about who you always. Whoever doesn’t accept you for who you are doesn’t deserve a place in your life. As Bernard Baruch once said “those who matter won’t mind, and those who mind don’t matter”.

Peace & Love



Women Love A Strong Spirit

Understanding what women really want.

I once heard a quote that went ” The condition of the spirit is a reflection of the mind and the condition of the mind is a reflection of the body”. Now although I decided to keep my body and mind healthy to maintain a healthy spirit I never had a real example of how a healthy spirit would benefit me until recently.

I had been going through a lot of things that I choose not to talk to anyone about; this resulted in a few ruined friendships and a huge falling out with my family. I felt as if I hit rock bottom and there was only one way to go from there. I began being more conscious of how I was using my time, the choices I was making unconsciously and what I was putting into my body. I started exercising daily, eating more whole foods, and centering my life around my purpose.

As a result of this I began to grow strong internally; I developed a new found confidence in myself and I felt untouchable. I also noticed that the people around me believed in me and my abilities more than ever. When I would go play a team sport the entire team looked at me to be the leader and make decisions; it was as if the people around me could feel like I was on the right path. I also took more risk and felt immune to negative emotions.

My good friend has a dog that’s really aggressive, he bites everyone. Because of its aggressive nature I’m usually really tense around the dog. However once I began to correct my bad habits which built my spirit I felt absolutely no fear around the dog. The dog then actually had a new found respect for me, I was able to play with it and give it orders with ease, all because I made my growth and development a priority.

And of course women were throwing themselves at me like never before.

Make your health mentally and physically the number one priority in your life.

Eat better, by better I mean eat more whole foods(preferably organic whole foods); foods that only contain one ingredient( Brown Rice, Steak, Spinach, Eggs etc). Have you ever checked the label of some of the stuff we’re eating? I bet you can barely pronounce it, let alone know what it is. The more ingredients on the label the less healthy the food is on the body(mind, and spirit).

Refrain from masturbation, shortly after masturbation many men feel sluggish and lazy about life. Most can evil feel something missing on the inside; which is semen, the most vital fluid in the male body. Lack of semen in the body is also a contributed to depression, which seems to be the number one mental issue people are dealing with today. Its funny how congruent this is with the increase of internet porn. Think of it like a car; when you have a full tank, you’ll go anywhere and drive any distance, and when left with a quarter tank you try and conserve gas and only make trips when necessary. Masturbation makes you appear less attractive to women, it removes the natural glow we each have about us. Refrain from masturbating for 3 weeks and see if you don’t notice a significant difference in the way your skin looks and the way women respond to you.

Think positive, A primary contributor to stress and depression is negative self talk; therefore if you begin practising positive self talk and positive thinking you are on the path of redemption.

Along with positive thinking comes a positive attitude, which means seeing everything that comes into your life as something that will benefit you and help you succeed. Fired from your job? Great! Now you can pursuer brighter and more self fulfilling careers that will add to your happiness. Rejected after an approach? Awesome, now you get on with finding the girl for you. Imagine if she talked you to death, a took your number just to flake on the date, she just saved you a lot of time.

When you are on the road to pursuing things you are passionate about and serving your life purpose very little will be able to get you down. You begin to plow through the world easier, men will admire you, and women will find you ten times more attractive than ever before. So what are you waiting for? Get started on improving the quality of your life now!

By Eddie Fews
Dating & Seduction Coach