She Will Follow So Long As You Lead

I woke up to an epiphany this morning that will probably stick with me for the rest of my life. I intend to share it here in hopes that it can have at least some of that effect on anyone that reads this.

So I’ll just get into it..

I have been dating this woman for the past month and a half and she’s been great. Now of course no one is perfect, she just encompasses all the positives I could say I wanted before I met her. I remember saying to myself after the first few weeks of knowing her that “ I don’t know if there is somebody out there for everybody, but there was somebody out there for me. “ She’s that.  So anyway, like many of us do while going into a relationship that seems promising from the start my naivety led me to the assumption that things we going to be easy. I assumed that because we were so well matched that any conflicts that we could have would be minor and insignificant. And boy was I wrong. I’ve always known that women test us as men. The test aren’t intended to be malicious; their test are carried out simply because they want us to become better than we are. A woman needs to be able to feel her mans strength; she needs to know that her man can handle her in her wildest moments so that she can be secure in being with him. A woman wants to feel safe with her man, she wants to know that she’ll never be left out to dry, and the more you ensure her that she won’t be, the more she must test you to see whether or not she can trust your word.

So I always tell guys to encourage there woman to be strong; compliment her and help her become a greater version of herself that she can be so that the test she throws your way are more intense.  Their test can only make us stronger and as long as a man is rooted in his masculinity he never need worry about passing a test thrown at him by his woman. As a young guy I would worry about boosting my woman confidence  because I would be in fear of her getting out control. I liked her how she was – easy to handle, and so I tried my best to keep her that way, because she was at a level that I felt comfortable handling the things she threw at me. And so I would begin to resent the women I was with; they weren’t pushing me to grow and so I lost attraction for them. I wouldn’t stay with them all while being too immature to understand what was happening and so I would repeat this cycle over and over again. Eventually I understood what was going on and began to do the opposite. I began to compliment my woman more, telling her what she meant to me, and how important I believe what we have is. And what I found is a woman doesn’t take this new found self esteem to use it to lift her head above the world. She takes that energy and uses it to give it right back to me. I discovered that women were saving accounts with interest rates beyond my wildest explanations. They give us back everything we give them with a lot more behind it. I’m almost certain that old expression “ Hell hath no fury like a woman scorn” had its inception in a case in which a man wronged his woman deeply and so she gave it back to him with the interest I spoke of. And so if a man understands this, he understands that he can never out give his woman whether for the good or for the bad. Show her strength and she will be weak around you so that you can feel stronger; show her weakness and she will be strong around you in attempt to make you strong. Become weaker in this face of her strength and she will become even stronger and eventually devour the man that doesn’t rise up and claim what is his masculine right. Black women tend to get the reputation for being “Strong” and hard to deal with, and I believe that is due to the men not being able to rise in the face of their strength so the woman can feel comfortable being weak around him. A woman is a mans polar opposite and if he won’t rise to the plate and display his strength she will have to reflect it in hopes that he will recognize her for this and pick up the slack. A strong woman will always make a strong man.  And it is through her releasing of that strength by being weak around the man that she can trust to be responsible with her, that he will rise up in both his strength and power. And in this they become one flesh.

So I had to relearn what I stated above over this past week. The time had called for me to deal with the imbalance being reflected to me by my partner. She was calling for more strength and I wasn’t centered in my masculinity enough to give it to her; so as she once would shrink in the face of my strength so that i become stronger; she grew stronger in the face of my weakness. She had began to take notice of my controlling nature and she was calling for me to be better than this. I couldn’t see it at the time; all I could wonder is why on earth my woman was all off a sudden such a challenge to deal with. She wanted more, because I was asking her for more.  She wanted me to be greater than the selfishness within me that lead me to wanting things exactly how I wanted them and when I wanted them.

At first I was struggling with the imbalance because I was consciously trying to assert myself over her in order to get respect. And it is through that situation that I understood that instead of asserting myself, all I need do is relax back into the masculinity that I have been given that I  will prevail and my woman will trust me once again. It is nature and it is natural to a woman rooted in her femininity to want her man to be strong so that she can feel comfortable with surrendering herself to him. Women want to surrender, they just mean a man strong enough to handle them when they decide to give themselves.

After the night of conflict I had woke up to the answer; it was streaming through my mind clearly. It said “ You don’t have to give your woman instruction. Let her be who she is and have patience. If you’re practicing what you preach she’ll follow “. And so that was it. I had spent so much energy in relationships trying to assert my authority over my woman and giving them instruction that I didn’t understand that the women in my life weren’t listening to what I said as much as they were listening to what I do. Through the showing of a mans strength his woman naturally begins to pick up on his behaviors (both bad and good). So if a man can remain patient and remain strong in the face of his woman doing things that are unpleasing, she will eventually alter her behavior to reflect a behavior that will cause her man to feel more love for her. And the stronger a man in his what he is asking his woman to do the quicker she will begin to do as he would like. I had been telling women in my life to do things that I wasn’t full committed to doing myself and I had to understand that  as the leader in the relationship I can not expect something out of someone before I was fully giving that myself.

So this is my calling to all men to lead more so by action and less so by word. As Ive stated many times “ Your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, become your habits, your habits become your character, and your character becomes your destiny. Lead your women first by your destiny, then your character, following your habits, your actions, and then your words/thoughts.

Now it is okay for a man to give instruction to his woman; in fact most women like and appreciate this, just be sure to do so from a place of understanding. From a place in which you are sure that the things you have asked have made it all the way to your destiny before you put it upon others. Because the more you ask of her, the more that she will ask of you so that she can be compliant. Rise into your strength and relax into the man that you were called to be and all imbalances experienced with your woman will quickly dissolve.

Peace & Love to all the readers.

Eddie Fews

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Become King Of The Seduction Jungle

From the Discovery channel to many peoples favorite Disney film, we’ve all heard it before; lions are the “king of the jungle”.

Now I’m no zoologist but as we all know, lions eat, sh!t, and sleep all day long and barely have to lift a finger. Male lions have on average four to five Lioness(Female Lions) at their disposal that both bring them food, has sex with them, and looks after the children while the lion relaxes in front of the Sahara sun licking his fur. But the best part is, the Male lion gets to eat first; he gorges himself in meat and blood, leaving the scraps and remains for his five mistresses to contend for.

Ever wonder how they do it? Today’s Feminist Western women probably vomit in their mouths at the thought of a lifestyle like this but it is very well possible in today’s society. In fact, a perfect example of a of lions spirit reincarnated is the ” P.I.M.P.” ; a pimp sends women to sleep with men for money and keeps the larger percent of the cash. The prostitute takes all of the risk and does all of the work but still manages to make sure the Pimp “eats first.” Now in no way do I support what pimps do but there is always much to be learned from anyone achieving success at high levels, and if you are seeking to improve your seduction skills, there is much to be learned from the lion.

Selfishness

Think about it, lions are the most selfish creatures on earth, What does the lion do? He sits around while the Lioness’ go out and capture HIM food, and once they return he eats FIRST. Does that sound selfish to you? The lion doesn’t help raise the baby lions and he doesn’t let any other lions have sex with any of his women. And because of this, the Lioness continue to do anything that is going to make him happy. I know a lot of readers are probably thinking, ” That’s a really misogynistic thing to say” to which my only reply is, “Have fun your internet porn.” Oddly enough, women go nuts for selfish men; how many girls do you know who can’t seem to let go of some selfish asshole right now? Its a sad thing that society is this way but if this is what works, why must we reinvent the wheel? If the majority of attractive women already go for selfish men, you’re simply giving them what they want anyway. You’re not an asshole, you are actually doing them a favor by making it easy for them to want you.

In fact, women are most happy when they are making men happy. Think about the smile shines across a girls face and the joy that fills her eyes when you tell her how awesome the meal was that she just cooked. What about how deeply she embraces you when you compliment her on how great she was in bed. Have you ever seen her happier than that?

Set Boundaries

Women in relationships with men who know how to draw boundary lines are a lot happier than women with pussy men who let them walk all over them. The woman is unhappy because not only does she have to be a woman, she has to take on the role of the man when he’s too weak to make a decision. She also has to listen to him whining and complaining all day long; and that must be stressful to deal with. A woman with a strong man that can put her in her place is happy because all she has to do now is relax in the comfort of being a woman.

Have you ever heard this before?

” What on earth does she see in that guy!? What an asshole! She can do way better! If she was with me I’d treat her like a Goddess”

That mentality is the very reason why the attractive women you want don’t want to be with you. She wants a selfish man, she’s disgusted at the idea of someone wanting to treat her like a Goddess and groveling for her attention. The guys who she wants to be with simply demand her attention, and if she refuses he understands that there are a lot more women who won’t. Just think about what would happen if a Lioness refused to give the alpha lion attention. Would he put up with it? No, he would easily just walk over to the next Lioness who will give him what he wants.

No More Mr.Nice Guy/Stand Up For Yourself

If your brain works half as well as the rest of ours, it is pretty obvious that the women who are head over in heels in love with a guy are rarely if ever in relationships with an ” extremely nice guy”. So what do you have to do to get with women?

Drop the Mr.Nice guy act and begin to do what you want to do. No more compromising and accompanying her to see the latest movie in the twilight series because you “think” it is going to make her happy. If you are doing something that you don’t not want to do, she will be unhappy to know that her boyfriend is too much of a Sissy to stand up for himself.

Lets say you are out walking with your woman and some teenage kids come up behind you, aggressively bump you and your girlfriend, and laugh and keep walking. Now she may not want you to beat up a bunch of little kids but how disappointed in you do you think she would be if you didn’t say anything? What if it was a more harmful situation? How can she ever feel safe when she goes out with you? The lion would never let a stray lion coming into his territory and do the slightest bit of harm to him or anyone of his Lioness. He defends them and as a result they do anything to make him happy, but if he loses the fight he must give up everything he owns.

Being attractive to women involves you taking an alpha lion stance toward them and the rest of the world. If you remember to refuse to comprise, set boundaries and stand up for yourself you’ll enjoy the luxury of loving, serving women just as the lion does.

By Eddie Fews

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I’m Dating & Seduction Coach Eddie Fews- I work with men on various things from improving their text messaging to approaching and meeting women on the sidewalks, stores and coffee shops all over the world. Although we have shortcomings, we should constantly be working on improving and building ourselves into better more efficient people.

If you need that extra push and motivation to get out there to meet and date more women and want to expand upon your seduction skills Email me: EddieFews@wayoftheplayer.com to check my availability ,rates, and you will be contacted by me or one of my representatives within 48 hours . I do in person one on one coaching along with consultation through Skype, Instant Messenger and phone calls.

Women Are Watching You

The Camera Is Always On And Women Are Always Watching

If you had been informed that there is an invisible camera following your every move, that would be linked to the television screen of the woman of your dreams; how much different would you live your life?

Would you continue to spend unnecessary hours in front of the television watching the same reruns over and over again? Would you get lazy and decide that you’re going to slack off and not go to the gym today? Would you walk out of the bathroom without washing your hands? We believe the majority of men out there in the world would instantly shift and begin living their lives more efficiently. Why? Because they have been made aware that they are being watched by someone they’ve been longing for and want to impress.

Now which do you want first? The Good News or The Good News?

Well, Congratulations Players!

It is your luck day, because you are being watched. You have been watched since the moment you have been able to make conscious decisions on your own. We say this because every choice you make not only effects you but its effects the way you will be seen by the people around you.

It has been said that women are 10x more intuitive than men are; meaning, they are capable of detecting bullshit on levels that men wouldn’t begin to comprehend.

So you aren’t going to learn a few pick up lines, read a few articles, and instantly have what it takes to be seen as attractive by beautiful women. You’ll be viewed as the most attractive version of yourself when you develop a lifestyle that you would feel comfortable living if you were being followed by a camera 24/7 and when you develop a reel of thoughts that you would feel comfortable being listened to by women everywhere.

I can tell you from personal experience that all my relationships with special women that I connect with on multiple levels came at a point where I was investing most of my energy into my dreams and aspirations. And they all began to deteriorate when I slacked off and invested a little too much of my energy into my partner. Now, none of my former partners were aware that I hadn’t been giving my greatest effort in other areas of my life but, they were able to intuitively sense and feel it. And as a result they began to nag me more and challenge my position in the relationship a lot more than usual.

Who do you want to be when you grow up?

As children we are always asked ” What do you want to be when you grow up “; as if that’s the end all, be all. ” We’re kids now, once we grow up, we’ll be this and that’s that. ” Do you ever want to settle? Do you ever want your life to just “stop”. I believe a more effective question to ask both children and adults is ” Who Do You Want To Be?” Because the feeling of success in life period whether it be success with attractive women, success in friendship, or success in a career comes from embodying the figure that you are happy to be in every aspect of your life.

Who are you to your friends? Who are you to your family? Who are you to the world? Now who do you want to be? It is time to start making choices and putting yourself in situations that you are proud of because the world is watching. There is no getting one over on life; anyone that’s ever cheated to win at something as simple as a board game knows that no satisfaction follows, only guilt. And guilt is unattractive.

I have a friend that had recently been accepted into of some sort of secret fraternity like group, when I went to visit him not to long ago he couldn’t wait to let me know that he made it in. He showed me the cover of this mysterious looking book he had received upon entry and I reached for it curious as to what was inside. His words exactly ” No, I’m not allowed to show anyone”. I tried to persuade him to let me see it a few times but he was serious, he couldn’t show me.

He placed the book down on his bed and shortly after this my buddy let me know that he was going out, but I should kick it around his place for an hour until he came back. Once he left my curiosity instantly arouse, I knew where he left the book and I would finally get to see what was inside.

As I began to walk to go grab the book I stopped; am I really going to sneak behind my friends back? Am I going to ruin our trust and potentially ruin the trust he has within the group? I turned back and felt ashamed for even thinking about doing such a thing. If he did show me the book or even irresponsibly placed it somewhere where anyone could get to it, he would be breaking his groups rule and although they wouldn’t know, he would feel guilt and they would feel it, which would affect his future within the group. In the same respect, If I read the book I would feel guilt which would affect the feelings and future of our friendship.

The invisible camera is always on players; which is why they say character is what you do when no one is watching. If you live your life consciously believing that there is a camera following you and a screen linked to everyone around that can watch what you do, not only will you live more genuinely, you will reach heights you never knew imaginable.

The Camera is on..

Women Are Watching

By WOTP Coach Eddie Fews