Should Men Be Allowed A Cheat Day In Relationships?

This one will probably be met with several screw faces from the female supporters, but I’m going to be optimistic and offer a perspective that should speak to a few of you. The few with a mind that is open to at least discussing masculine ideas without becoming angry. The few who’ll find it easiest to get a man to want to commit to them long term in the first place. I’ve found in my personal life that the most attractive and confident women have a spirit of seeking to understand. They may not agree right away, but they don’t go touting their opinion easily. They understand that there is a difference within the psychology of a man and a woman and thus, they seek to understand the males way of thinking to better help them function in a union with one. The majority of these women just so happen to be in functional relationships, but perhaps that’s just a coincidence.

Today it’s very easy for a woman to say, “Well this is what I want and if he doesn’t like it then its on to the next one”, but how long does this mentality survive until you’ve worn yourself out through failed relationship after failed relationship and one finds themselves alone? It is the very “on to the next one” mentality that results in a man not feeling attracted to a woman anyway. I’ve wrote about this before. A man thrives off of feeling needed, so if you’re mentality is “On to the next one, I can do fine without a man, My feelings or the highway etc…” you will produce a vibe that  will subconsciously be a repellent to the opposite sex. He may stick around to enjoy the sex, the affection, and good times, but his eyes will continue to wander to a place in which he can feel that he is “needed”.

Women want to feel “wanted” and men want to feel “needed”. It is a thin line, but there is a difference between the two. Before I get into the topic let me also say that there are always exceptions to every rule. Every time I write something like this I get an email from a woman saying,“ Well I knew this guy that this didn’t apply to”. Of course you do. I’m speaking to the majority. If I wrote an article saying, “Men have ten toes” would you email me saying, “ Well I disagree. I knew someone who had 11 toes?”.

No.

So lets not do that here.

It is also true that men are being emasculated today. We’re dealing with some of the most emotional, not knowing what they want, tipping toeing men of all time. This is happening for several reasons that I will be tackling in my next article,“Why Have Men Become So Effeminate?”. Women are also being a lot more masculine, and consequently we’re dealing with some of the most aggressive, detached, and combative women of all time. So I understand that these two types will be the first to write this content off before they even try comprehend it. But my intent is only to speak to the true nature of masculinity, and not what masculinity has been marginalized into during the 21st century.

Now with that being said, this article is not written to encourage women to give their man a cheat day, its more so written to get women to understand a male’s way of thinking, his nature, and his emotions more than anything. You can do whatever you want with the information after that, but understanding one another should be pivotal. So I’m going to go into several aspects arguing my case, and if you can keep an open mind and put away what YOU think, and your opinions for a moment please continue. If you’re already turning up your nose and waiting to disagree, you can stop here and leave a comment disagreeing as if you read the entire thing and understand what I’m trying to say.

I’ll start by presenting this one fact: ‘A single human male produces enough sperm in two weeks to impregnate every fertile woman on the planet.

Would you or would you not agree that a creatures genetic make up has some impact an influence on what that creature does and that creature’s way of thinking? Surely a lion being born with claws and sharp teeth feels compelled to hunt animals for meat. Its teeth and digestive system aren’t made to digest grass, and so it hunts because of its biological make up . This isn’t some social construct. No one has to tell the lion that it’s suppose to hunt other animals. The lion knows instinctively that its job is to hunt because of the cards that it has been dealt. So, what would possessing enough sperm cells to impregnate every fertile woman on the planet every two weeks do to a man on an instinctual level when our bodies naturally  produce hormones that trigger us to want to reproduce? Nothing happens for no reason in nature. It is our hormones and our emotions that trigger our actions.

For example, when a man or woman becomes angry it is because their bodies are producing a chemical called catecholamine, and it is this chemical that triggers the motivation to act out in anger. Its not just a mental thing.  It’s a hormonal cause for the emotion that proceeds before the action. So in that same light, how does a woman only being able to have one child a year influence her instinctual behavior? Her traditional nature would encourage her to find one suitable partner with strong genes so that she could give birth and maintain the population of the planet. Nature didn’t create sex so that we could have pleasure, nature made sex pleasurable so that we would reproduce. If sex were painful our subconscious would instinctively shy us away from the act.

So what does a man and woman’s biological nature tell you about the way that we feel compelled to act instinctively? A man’s nature – producing enough sperm to impregnate every female on the planet; a woman’s nature – only being able to produce one child per year? Which would be the one that would be more concerned with finding a commitment with one person? And before anyone says humans have free will… sure we do, but nature still plays its role. This is why you consistently hear women saying, “All men are the same” and men saying ,“ All women are the same”. Surely we each have our own personality and things that makes us unique, but we all possess the same nature. Just as all lions are the same, and all dolphins are the same. They each have unique attributes, but when you boil them down to their nature they each do the same exact things.

And this brings me to my next point:

When a male and female copulate,hug, kiss or touch, a chemical called oxytocin is produced. Oxytocin is a bonding chemical, and this is what creates the romantic feelings we feel for one another. The body begins to crave the feel good chemical oxytocin and this creates the emotion which is responsible for attachment. The most oxytocin is produce when a woman breast is being sucked on, so if any ladies out there are with a no good man that you can’t seem to get away from; keep the guy away from your breast. This is the same chemical produced when a woman is breast feeding that intensifies the bond and connection between a mother and her child. Now, did you that know oxytocin is produced by both man and woman, but testosterone nullifies oxytocin? And the more testosterone a man has the more difficult it will be for him to be attached to any one person. The chemical responsible for attachments begins to be nullified within him. You don’t just love someone dearly because you love them, you love them because they’ve succeeded at producing a sufficient amount of feel good chemicals in your body that created the attachment. This can’t be forced and/or manufactured. A man can’t just love you the way you love him because you want him to. You have to succeed at producing high enough levels of oxytocin within him that can’t be all nullified because of his testosterone. And the more testosterone he has, the more difficult this will be. Which is why the most alpha males(men with the highest testosterone counts) sleep with the most women and have the most difficult time with commitment. He just doesn’t feel it the way that you do. So a mans ability to want to stick around with you after sex isn’t just based on how soon or how late you have sex with him. It is based on how much oxytocin you’ve succeeded at getting him to produce before, and during the act. You wait too long and see him too infrequently, and he will have produced enough testosterone to get rid of it- and the attachment. Too soon, and there simply just isn’t enough yet.

Now let me just say that it is possible to make a man produce enough oxytocin in one day if you’re skilled, and if things line up with the other factors in play, but that’s another article altogether. I will elaborate more on this in my book for woman on how to successful seduce the man they want, but what I will say is that the less sperm a man is carrying over an extended period of time the less testosterone he will have. So if he has masturbated or had sex several days before meeting you and you’re skilled, he won’t have the testosterone available to nullify the oxytocin. Hence why older men are more willing to enter a commitment because a mans testosterone count lowers as he gets older. This is not something men are aware of. For the most part we’re just on autopilot responding to our nature. So my question is, why must men be held to the same commitment standards as women when we’re not even capable of feeling the same things that women are feeling for us biologically? Should a man born without sight  be forced to pass an eye exam lest he be cast away?

Why is it that the majority of mammals on the planet exist within a system that contains few males and many females? In a cow pen there is one bull, and a bunch of cows. Lion prides contain one lion and several lioness. In a herd of deer there is usually one alpha male deer that is responsible for impregnating 90% of the females in the herd. Even in a chicken coop there is usually one or two roosters( if the coop is big enough) and a bunch of hens and the one rooster is responsible for fertilizing all the eggs. What is that telling us about the nature of male creatures? Perhaps just more coincidences.

Lets dive into commitment from a male point of view:

When a woman meets a confidant alpha male who naturally attracts a lot of women what is the usual dynamic? Typically the Alpha male will not be looking to settle down with any one particular girl in the early years of his life, and so he will be developing  non-exclusive relationships with multiple women. Because the women like him, they will put up with it for a short time before pressuring him to commit to them exclusively over all of the other girls that he’s seeing. He’ll do one of two things: If he likes her he’ll do his best to comfort her and assure her that he does have feelings for her but he’s still not ready. In other words, he hasn’t been worn down enough.  Now if he doesn’t like her, he’ll just cut her off and/or make it clear to her that it’s not going to happen and she’ll walk away or stay until she finds someone willing.

All men who have high levels of success with women have been confronted with this dynamic multiple times. Often from two or three women all at once. We know that we chase women initially to lock in their interest and to win their compliance, and then she chases us after that to maintain our investment in her and to win our commitment. Commitment is almost never actually something that WE as alpha males want. Its something that we give to our women if we value them enough over time. If we had it our way, we would have several women who commit to us that we don’t actually commit to. And this is usually what’s going on. The majority of quality women that I know tell me they don’t feel comfortable sleeping with more than one man at a time. And so they’ll be committing to men in non- committed relationships anyway. This is all just due to their nature if their nature is intact; since a woman  can only carry the child of one man at a time. Men on the other hand are able to create thousands of children a year if we have the availability. And so a man’s natural and biological feelings will be in alignment with what his biological potential is. Because most women don’t feel this desire to their core, they can’t accept the fact that we legitimately do. The majority of quality men I know are all sleeping with multiple women until they find one suitable enough to build something with.

Ask a woman why hasn’t she had sex with a thousand attractive men yet? And she’ll say something like “  That’s gross, or I respect myself and I won’t just sleep with anyone”. Ask a guy why he hasn’t had sex with a thousand women yet and he’ll tell you that he just hasn’t had the time to, or hasn’t found  that amount of attractive women willing to sleep with him.

So if commitment to monogamy is something that we didn’t even want, but we gave to the woman we love as a reward for putting up with enough of our nonsense, should we not be allowed a cheat day as a reward to us for going against our nature by entering a committed relationship once every blue moon?

What women have to understand is that entering a committed relationship is a lot more simple for them. Women are turning down dozens of men every single day that are trying to sleep with them. So once they enter a relationship they don’t have to do anything new. They only have to continue turning down men same way they were doing before entering the commitment. Every day of a man’s life he is trying to get women to sleep with him either directly or indirectly. That’s our life. So once we enter a commitment we have to perform an action that is the complete opposite of the reality that we live every single day. We’re the only ones that have to struggle with taking up a new practice and a new behavior. The women, for the most part, get to remain the same, because after all, the commitment was something that she wanted. So she’s getting something that she wants, that is congruent with her daily behavior anyway. Its like getting paid to brush your teeth, take a shower, and then commute to work. You’ll do it whether you get paid or not, so to get paid for it is a double and unrealistic bonus. Imagine your boss saying “I’ll give you a two hundred dollar bonus on every check if you eat dinner when you get off work.”. Now of course you don’t have to, but you’re likely to do it anyway, so its easy money.

When people go on a diet, they reward themselves with a cheat day because they’ve successfully been able to commit to a new lifestyle that went against what they were used to every day of there life prior. So in that same light, why shouldn’t men be allowed a cheat day because we’ve successfully been able to commit to a new lifestyle that went against what we were used to everyday of our life prior? Why can’t our women say “ Wow.. You’ve successfully went against your biological nature and motivation to populate the earth and remained with one woman for a year. Go have a cheat day baby. “  Hell, if a woman would do something as simple as saying, ” Thank you for being faithful” it would make a world of difference in how her man felt about staying strong and honoring the commitment.

The modern day, new age feminist will tell you that monogamy is a social construct, and that is a lie. Monogamy for women is a biological construct. It’s embedded in their nature and their biological potential. Once again, sex wasn’t created for us to have pleasure, pleasure is just the emotional impetus so that we will have sex and procreate. Third wave feminism is atheism. You can’t believe in a higher power and think that our biological natures weren’t created with a purpose. But shout out to all of my feminists. Pardon me. This article isn’t for you.

So I want to wrap this up by reiterating that I am not encouraging women to run and tell their boyfriend “ go have a cheat day”, your feelings should matter as well. But what we’re not going to do is coddle childish emotions that aren’t validated by anything other than more emotion, and make decisions based off of that. The discussion can be had, perhaps your man is over that stage of his life, perhaps his T count isn’t where it used to be, and he’s had his fun already. I just think that we should all strive to understand one another a lot more.

In the eleventh chapter of Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill said “ The woman who understand a man’s nature and tactfully caters to it, need have no fear of competition from other women. Men may be “giants” with indomitable will-power when dealing with other men, but they are easily managed by the women of their choice.” And I completely agree with this statement. Its easy to say “only an insecure woman would go for something like this” and while an insecure woman may go for this out of necessity, a woman with the ultimate confidence may be willing to allow it because she understands.

I always tell women that men rule on the front end, we are the conscious mind and women are the subconscious mind. The subconscious is responsible for 80% of our thoughts and activity, but the thing is, the conscious mind doesn’t even know the subconscious mind is operating. A woman that understands her man and seeks to provide him with what he needs will rule her man. And the beauty of it all is, he won’t even have the slightest idea of whats going on. The insecure woman is controlled by her man, because she is trying to control him on the front end. The conscious end. Leave that to him, let him think he’s ruling.  He will feel a lot more comfortable with opening up and revealing his true feelings to you that way. The truly confident woman allows her man to have that 20% front end; the small battle, because she knows that ultimately she is ruling from behind the scenes; responsible for 80% of his activity. The women that get a thorough grasp on this, will never be short on a man that’s willing to commit to her and give her his everything.

For anyone further interested in an example of this topic you can check out this couple from Brooklyn, New York who have allowed two additional women into the relationship and are sharing one man between them three. The man and his first wife have been together for 17 years, the two other women have been with him and his wife for 11 years. How many of you have been with one person consistently for 5 years? And i’m not talking about breaking up and getting back together years later. I’m talking about a strong consistent five years. They’re all attractive women who could easily have a man to themselves if they truly wanted to. The women don’t sleep with each other, they don’t do threesomes, and there is not a sign of low self esteem insight. You can check that out here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9XaRjpjdui8

Thanks for reading.

Eddie Fews


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The Power In A Proper Compliment

There has been a myth going around the seduction community for some time that you should never compliment a woman on her looks. That instead you should point out something unique that a guy doesn’t usually compliment her on to get her attention. While I agree that an indirect compliment will definitely lift a woman’s spirits, I can’t help but laugh at the guys who are afraid to acknowledge a woman’s beauty. And I won’t even bother addressing the men who think they have to NEG – say something negative to knock an attractive woman off her high horse just to get her attention. I would only advise the men on that level of social immaturity to get a horse of their own before they even think about connecting with the opposite sex. But back to the subject at hand..

I believe that a proper compliment based solely off of a woman’s looks is the best way to connect with her. Women carry purses that are usually filled with items to touch up their appearance( make up, mirrors, etc.) which only suggest that they worry about what they look like a lot more than men do. What better way to ease the mind of a woman than to let her know that she doesn’t have to worry about how she is begin perceived at that moment. Having put her mind at ease, she can now contemplate other matters.. perhaps even.. YOU?

Now there is a catch..

The compliment certainly has to be unique and more than unique it has to be genuine. A compliment such as “ You’re beautiful/sexy/hot/cute/pretty” is unreacted to for several reasons.

Reason #1

It’s obvious-She hears this ALL the time.

Reason #2

When you say “ You’re beautiful” you are stating it as if it is a fact. While YOU may perceive her as beautiful she may be the complete opposite to someone else. Now although she may hear the word beautiful all the time; changing “ You’re beautiful “ to “ I THINK you are beautiful “ will get you a completely different reaction – I guarantee it.

Reason #3

There is no YOU in this compliment. What more is she supposed to say other than “ Thank You ” while walking away. Exactly how do the men that walk around calling women “hot” expect them to respond? Did you think they will lean into you and start making out with you? Grab your hand, take out a pen, and write their phone number on it? In what reality does this happen and why is it that the urban man sits around waiting for miracles instead of making them happen. This is your life; waiting will only get you what waiting has already gotten you.. Which is what?

Women wear tight dresses, high heels, and even walk the way they do because they WANT to be viewed as attractive. They want some guy to be confident enough in both himself and her to compliment her beauty without fear. So compliment her beauty relentlessly, do so with passion, high energy and she’ll love for you it.

The trick to successfully complimenting a woman’s looks is to state how the way she looks is making YOU feel. She doesn’t want to know she is attractive as much as she wants to know how much her attractiveness is affecting YOU. This is about YOU, this isn’t about her looking a certain way; it’s about her beauty filling YOU with fire and desire from the inside out. No woman can resist a man confident enough to express how tempted he is to give into weakness because of her beauty.

I’ll give you an example..

Back when I experimented with the online dating thing, I realized that all men would do is compliment a woman on her looks and the women hated it. Why? Because they weren’t doing it the proper way. They would all say “ Hey Beautiful, Hey sexy, you’re hot etc. “. Now as you stated before, they could of received more responses if they said “ I think you’re sexy, I think you’re hot etc “, but I decided to take a different approach. I was going to describe in one or two lines how the way a woman looked was making me feel. I never had to read profiles.. I would just monitor my emotions while looking at their pictures and just describe this to them.

One of my favorite lines was “ Oh Wow!.. you don’t even need a second photo.“

I could send that to ten girls and get seven responses, because I was stating how the way she looked was making me FEEL.

A proper compliment tailored to a woman’s looks also does something powerful for your benefit. Not only will paying a woman a proper compliment heighten the way she perceives herself, but it will also heighten the way she perceives you. We’ve all heard the expression “ It takes one to know one “ and people are only mirrors of ourselves after all. When you comment to a person on anything they subconsciously think it must have something to do with you. So by validating her attractiveness you are also validating your own.

I used to date this girl named Natalia, and boy was she BEAUTIFUL… But she wasn’t always that way. Natalia was my next door neighbor when I lived in the suburbs. And before we were together I would see her from time to time, but I never really thought anything of her. Then one day I had a friend over who came into my house excited saying he had no idea I had such a sexy neighbor. He was also wondering why I had never made a move on her. I told him I didn’t think she was all that cute, and he told me I was crazy. So immaturely I said to myself “ Fine, I’m just going to sleep with her to score some cool points with my boy; not to mention, the idea of sleeping with a next door neighbor is a bit exciting.”

The next day I looked her up on facebook ( we went to high school together, she was three years older) and sent her a message:

Me: Hey, there’s this cute girl that lives in my neighbor hood.. You know her?

Her: (I don’t remember what she said but it was something like..) Haha yeah that’s me 🙂

Me: Dope.. So can I borrow some sugar?

Her: Sure 😉

I think she thought I was joking, but I went right on over, knocked on her door and asked for sugar. She laughed, we talked for a bit and then we exchanged phone numbers. The whole time I am thinking “ This girl is not all that attractive -I’m not even sure I want to go through with this “. But I was on a mission and I was going to complete it. I called her a couple days later, chatted with her for 20 minutes and then invited her over for a back yard picnic. So there we were, hanging out in my backyard, me still thinking she’s not that cute, and then it all started… She went into a mind state where she began describing to me how attractive I was for about fifteen minutes. She had been in a metaphorical cocoon and once the compliments began to rain, she broke out and emerged as a butterfly. My eyes glazed over and I was hers. I ate it up and for the first time since I had seen her I began to view her as all of the things she was telling me I was.

“ Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” – General Lew Wallace

“ A pimple turns to a dimple when you’re in love” – Japanese Proverb

Long story short

I fell more in love with Natalia that I’ve ever fallen for any woman in my entire life, all because she made a habit of constantly telling me how amazing I was. And as I stated above; subconsciously I would associate all of these great things with her even though my original opinions of her were negative. Her opinions of me, became my opinions of her and she knew this. I had fallen for her, I became emotional over her, and she began looking for a new male the conquer with her silver forked tongue.

There is a lot of power in the compliment and we must also realize that the more compliments we give out to others the more compliments we get in return. Compliments boost both someone else’s confidence and our own so it’s a win-win situation. Just make sure they’re genuine, original and tailed directly to the person. “I like your dress” doesn’t cut it; it’s cliche and heard by someone somewhere every single day. Try “ That dress goes great with the tone of your skin, how did you know to pick that color? “ That’ll open up the person and get the conversation flowing, but just remember that it has to be honest and genuine. If you love women enough, this will all be easy for you. Just begin expressing to them how much you really do LOVE specific things about them and how these things are making you FEEL.

Eddie Fews


 

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The 48 Laws Of Player

The 48 Laws Of Player

 

1) Lead: Whether you are in an intimate relationship, a social circle, or among colleagues you have one main priority as a player and that is to LEAD. Indecision is lower than the ground we walk on as players. A Player knows what he wants and he gets exactly what he wants. ” Hey guys, lets all go grab some sushi ” followed by grabbing his jacket, making his way to the door, expecting others to follow is a normal action taken by a player. A player goes after what he wants because he expects all(even the universe) to be receptive to what he wants. The player is ALWAYS the leader.

2) Be Your Own Best Friend – A Players understands that for people to love him and desire to be around him he must first be his own best friend. Humanity is attracted to the people who appear the happiest despite what there situation may be. We’re are born alone and we will die alone so it is imperative that you learn to love being with yourself. Boring people are the only ones that are ever bored, they attract boring people and live generally boring lives. Players live fun fueled exciting lives and can be often happily spotted at bars, clubs, restaurants etc. completely alone. No one completes a player, a player is already complete.

 

3) Fill Your Heart With Optimism – Players are more often than the most optimistic people that you will ever come across. If a girl ignores a players phone call or text he thinks ” Oh, she must be busy or I’m sure the call didn’t get through, I’ll just try again later”. If a woman rejects a player he understands because after all she must have a valid reason for telling him no, but there is still a chance she will rethink her decision and change her mind, so he prys for acceptance just a bit more than the average joe. Players can do all things and it is because of that we keep optimism in our hearts. time but who wants to be filled with negative emotions like grief

 

4) Make Others Feel Loved – Players have a way of looking at life that means everyone around them feel loved whenever they’re hanging out. Players are giving – both physically and emotionally. They want everyone around them smiling and having a good time. It pains the player to see anyone in his group not enjoying themselves and he makes it his mission to fill his circle with this same joy that he has for life itself. As a player people will be happy when you’re around and when you’re not around that will be talking about you wishing you could be there.

 

5) Tell The Truth: We have all lied at one point of our lives and a tiny white lie here and there will do us or others no direct harm, but lying as a whole is for the normal. Players have made the decision to be honest always and to accept all the consequences that follow. Everyone may not like you for it, but they will have no choice but to respect you.

6) Take Cold Showers – You’ll look better, you’ll feel better, and you will be in a better state if you add colder showers into your arsenal. The Spartans did it, the samurai’s did it, hell even James Bond did it. Cold Showers will instantly separate you from the pack, there will be a different feel about you and you will be stronger mentally. For more on this go back an read ” Cold Shower Your Way To Beautiful Women ”

7) Share Women With Your Friends – No one likes the selfish guy who tries to keep everything for himself. If you won a billion dollars would you keep it all to yourself or would you share it with your friends and love ones? An abundance mentality is what creates abundance, if you act as if you have many girls at your disposal, eventually you will. And the best way to do this is to take action to represent it.You can’t bang them all; introduce and hook up friends with some of the girls you’re after.

8) Dress to Impress – We all know the feeling when we put on a nice suit and look at the demi god in the mirror. Dressing good is an instant way to feel good and when you feel good, people feel good being around you. Take pride in what you wear, iron your shirts, and properly tie the bow on your shoes.

9) Eat Healthy – I have two words for you… ” One Ingredient “. If you look at the labels of all of the processed foods we eat today many of them are filled with ingredients that we can barely even pronounce. Nine times out of ten these things are unhealthy additives that we all should steer away from. Unhealthy food has been scientifically proven to cause anxiety, aggravation and confusion. If you’re not eating properly, your brain isn’t functioning properly.

10) Stay In Shape – I remember listening to an interview a while back with a guy speaking on health that changed my life. He said something like ” We you’re heart is healthy, every breath you take is like a shot of F1 fuel into your Ferrari going directly into the brain. When you’re unhealthy every breath is like pouring vegetable oil into your broke down beat up car. Now don’t you want to drive a Ferrari? ” Its safe to say that when we’re healthy we just function better as people over all. You don’t need to be in shape to get women, trust me. But you will feel better as a whole and thats all anyone could ask for.

11) Develop A Circle of Female Friends – Once you get off your ass and start to meet more women you are going to understand that its not smart to try and fuck every attractive girl that comes your way. Its important to have your own social circles and women do bring a lot of credibility into the circle. Not to mention, Hot girls have hot friends and when you build a strong enough rapport with them they won’t mind hooking you up with a few of there friends.

12) Online Dating is for the normal Men – Online dating is awesome, we’ve had our fun with it. Its amazing to be able to access thousands of women at the click of a button. But we realized that we are being selfish because we are stealing women away from the men who don’t yet have to confidence to meet women any other way. Save online dating for the men who can not and will not become players.

13) To Fuck Her You Must Touch her – Those PUA guys call this ” Kino “. Well yea, they aren’t completely clueless. Breaking the touch barrier allows a woman to know that you are confident, badass, and you don’t play by the rules. Try your best to always go for the handshake, hug, or kiss if you’re brave upon first approaching a woman.

14) Keep Two Condoms At All Times – If you read the material on this site, you’re going to need them. Always be prepared and keep a spare or two incase one breaks. And besides, its better to have them and not need them than to need them and not have them.

15) Initiate Contact Twice for ever Three Times She Does – We know you probably want to play by your own rules but its important that the woman is always giving slightly more into the relationship than you are. It sets the tone that she is the one chasing you, because afterall she should be. You’re the baddass playboy that no woman can’t quite get to settle down. Once strong rapport and flow of conversation has been established make let her initiate contact three times because you follow up by initiating twice. This will keep her chasing you forever.

16) No matter How You feel, get up, get dressed and go out. – You’re not always going to feel your best. Sometimes you may even be a little depressed but despite how you feel, always get up, get dressed and hit the scene. Staying in the house doing nothing but watching television while shoving ice cream down your throat is not going to do anything positive for you. Man up, be a player and get on out there house. There are guys out there depending on you.

17) She Cares more about your thoughts of her than she does her thoughts of you – Stop worrying about what anyone thinks about you because we can guarantee you that people are more concerned with their own-selves than they are with you. Women you approach are wondering if you think they’re attractive, if there is food in there teeth, or if there makeup is smudging. The second thing on their minds maybe what they think about you and your approach but it is definitely not the first. Use this to your advantage, she’d rather she make a strong impression on you than you make one on her.

18) Hold eye contact until she breaks it first – There is one thing players know for certain about women in relationships. They want to know that the man in there lives is strong enough to deal with more tension than they can. You know that feeling you get when you are making eye contact with women and it becomes a game of who is going to look away first ? ALWAYS.. I REPEAT ALWAYS win this battle. Show her who the man is, show her you can deal with more tension than she can. This goes for a the handshake aswell. When you shake a womans hand let her be the first to pull away. Players are unmoved by the tension, we are strong and steady.

19) Grow To love rejection – When you learn to enjoy different variation of reject the same way you enjoy acceptance you will be unstoppable. Players laugh when a girl rejects us because she has no idea what she is missing out on. Its humorous really, imagine if you had a ten million dollar check hidden in a envelope and you walked around seeking to give it to someone worthy. Wouldn’t you snicker to yourself at all the people who rejected the envelope without taking the time to see whats it? If they only knew.. If she only knew.

20) Trust In Your Player Instincts – Pay close attention to your hunches and follow them like they’re a treasure map leading you to a fortune. As long as you aren’t purposely effecting anyone else in a negative way do whatever the **** you want! Your hunches are your subconscious speaking to you, leading you to fulfill your purpose. And before you fulfill your purpose, you must first be free. You’re hunches will lead you to freedom.

21) Walk Away, Even When She’s Hot – The willingness to walk away from anyone woman is what will cause you to radiate a presence that will make you desirable to all women. Practice walking away from the hot women who don’t quite live up to the High standards you set for yourself. Practice saying ” No ” to offers of attractive women who want to have sex with you. Its tough a first but a little pain now will pay off later.

22) Keep A Clean Home – They say cleanliness is next to godliness and it is always a reflection of your state of mind. People who’s homes are never clean tend to be filled with some much clutter mentally. The outside is always a reflection of your inside. Not to mention, as a player your are going to be having a lot of women over and no one wants to walk into a dirty home. And after you bring enough women into your home, you won’t have to do much cleaning on your own.

23) Define Your Purpose and The Women Will Follow – Figure out what your purpose is in life and follow it at all cost. Women are attracted to a man with drive and ambition. Follow your purpose and women will follow you everywhere you go. You can lose yourself chasing after women but your you’ll never lose women chasing after yourself

24) Never Kiss and Tell- Don’t dare speak Of who you sleep with to anyone – No one needs to know. Who you sleep with is your business and women are more attracted to a man that knows how to keep a secret. Its subconscious but they can always feel the difference between a man that yaps his gums about every new girl he bangs and one who doesn’t. When a woman knows you’re lips are sealed she will open up to you sexually in ways she hasn’t with no man before. Besides, if you’re talking about it. it probably doesn’t happen often.

25) Stop Keeping Score -Stop keeping score of amount of women you’ve slept with. Who are you trying to impress by keeping a tally of the number of women you have sex with? Does it make you feel validated? Do you feel like more of a man? Players aren’t validated through sex, players validate women through our own sex. The sooner you forget, the higher the forgotten number will be.

26) Keep your emotions in check – As a player it is your job to remain as stable and strong as a ox. A woman wants a man that won’t be reactive to her ever changing moods and emotions. She wants a man who is solid, someone she can lean on and rely on when things get tough. If your woman ran into your arms crying about something thats going on in her life how foolish would you look if you broke down crying right with her? Thats what her girlfriends are for, she doesn’t count on her man to mirror her femininity.

27)Be Reckless with Your Sexuality – Telling a woman she looks ” Sexy ” is 10x better than tell her she looks ” Cute “. Little puppies are cute, babies are cute, she didn’t put on that tight dress and heels to be called cute. Be sexual and be confident about your sexuality. After all, its her fault she looks so damn attractive, we didn’t ask her to come to the same venue we are in looking so hot did we? 😉

28)Use The Smile – A smiling man is the sign of a happy man, peoples guards instantly come down, and it inspires them to smile as well. Smiling – even if its a forced smile released endorphins into the blood stream which make us feel better. A smiling man also looks confident and attractive in the moment. A smile is the greatest accessory a player can wear.
29) She Can Never Be Number 1 – No woman will respect a man that put her completely first in his life. Every man should have a life mission of his own that comes before his woman. We all have a duty that we must attend to whether our woman is around or not. Nelson Mandela is an example of a man who stayed in prison, allowing his kids to be and wife raised without a father/Husband to watch the world be raised by a hero. Figure out whats number one if your life and put nothing above it and you will always have a womans respect.

30) Call Before You Text – Far too often men complain that they just don’t know what to say when texting a girl. That is usually a result of not building a firm enough connect the first time you guys spoke. If you guys want to win at this whole dating and seduction thing you are going to have to learn how to pick up the phone and physically talk to women on the phone. One solid 30-45 min phone call will have a woman after you for weeks. Players aren’t pussies, we don’t have to hide a emotional word message, we pick up the phone and call our girls.

31) Be Upfront About You Intentions – I know players get a bad rep for breaking hearts and hurting women’s feelings but thats not what we’re hear to do. If a woman likes you enough, she will still sleep with you when you tell her ” That you’re not looking for a relationship, just something casual”. Lying only puts someone else’s emotions in danger and adds guilt to your own conscious. So be up front with the women you meet before things get serious.

32) Entertain – Players are awesome story tellings, they’re the guy in the group telling jokes and making everyone laugh. It would honestly be tough for anyone pursuing there dreams, seducing women, and making friend to be anything but entertaining. This one is a giving, but as a player you are the voice and entertainer of the social circle you’re in.

33) Moderate Your Alcohol Intake – We know you wanna have fun and get drunk when you go out but we have to be mindful of the choices me make. We’ll all made terrible decisions with the Mrs.wrong after ingesting too much alcohol and as a Player you can’t afford too many slip ups. Drink if you wanna loosen up a bit, but don’t drink to get shit faced wasted. Players are leaders, no one should have to carry you home because you lack self control.

34) Go Hard Or Go Home – What separates players from the rest of the guys out there is players actually go in for the kill. Players understand that the higher our goals the easier everything lower our goals become accessible. If you have sex with a girl, kissing her won’t be an issue. Unlocking the higher of things automatically unlocks whats lower. When we’re out, are aim upon approach is to take the girl we’re after home, we only settle for the number if logistics don’t allow the extraction to take place.
35) Befriend The Bouncers/Doormans/Bartenders – Bouncers are usually perceived as assholes, but they can be your bestfriends if you show them a little extra attention. Every night guys are walking on past them without giving them a second glance. Show them a little love and all the perks of knowing the bouncer will be at your disposal.
36) You’re a Player, Embrace it. – Once it becomes obvious that you are good with women, people are going to call you out on it. ” You’re a player aren’t you? “. Don’t wuss out and pretend you aren’t – hold eye contact with them and say ” So “. Being called a player is a compliment if you think about it. Technically all they’re is saying is ‘ Wow, you’re really good with women.”

37) Never Show Shame – Whether its premature ejaculation or getting blatantly rejected in front of everyone; a player never shows nor feels any shame. A player has fully accepted himself and his imperfections so there is never a need to feel shame about any action he’s taken. The player simple smiles, and figures out a way to improve.
38) Every Stranger Is A Friend – A player perceives everyone he sees as a potential friend until they show him otherwise. He knows everyone isn’t going to like him, but his respect and love for all people forces him to be kind anyone that crosses his path.

39) Ignore The Short Cuts – Anyone that has ever done anything for themselves understands that the satisfaction felt from taking a short cut is temporary. Hard work pays off and the player knows this; he makes it his priority to do things the right way and he encourages others to do the same.
40) Count Your Blessings – Although a player may be one of the more ambitious types of people on the planet, he never forgets what he has while in pursuit of he wants. A Player is always grateful for what comes into his life; he understands that everyone won’t survive this today so he cherishes every moment that he has. When we are thankful for what we already have, life finds a way of giving us more.

41) Arguments Are For Politicians – How many times can you honestly say you’ve won an argument? What do you gain for proving another man wrong and winning an argument? An Inflation of your ego is all and pride certainly comes before the fall. A Player sees no reason to enter endless rants on how much he disagrees with another. The player is too busy, smiling, making people feel good and having a fun time. When we take the time to argue with others what we are projecting to them is that we’re on the same level as they are, but a player is on a level of his own.

42) Make Peace With Your Past – Most peoples 30’s are spent making up for all the wrong things they did in their 20’s. Life has a way of coming back to meet us full circle so its important that we leave no stone unturned. A player takes out the time to make peace with the people and choices he’s made in his past so it doesn’t screw up his present. He understand he must make room for his future because the best is yet to come.

43) Today is Special – There is no time as special as this time you are in right now – make the most of it. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, drink from the fancy wine glasses etc. A player lives a life of abundance, he doesn’t have to save materialistic items for some “perfect day” because to him no moment is as perfect as the moment he is in right now.

44) Believe In Miracles – The people that believe in miracles not only have a brighter, more fulfilling few on life, but they tend to get “lucky” more so than others. Why be concerned with whether or not miracles actually exists? Believing in miracles give humanity hope. A Player believes in miracles because to him the life he lives would be a miracle to someone less fortunate. What he’s learned over this course of his life is ‘everything can change in the blink of an eye’.
45) Build Your Character While Your Alone – The decisions we make when no one we know is their to encourage and support us are the choices that contribute the most to who we become as people. Its easy to go out and make that approach when you have a group of friends to turn to for comfort after your done. A Player lives to push his comfort zones and boundaries far beyond what anyone else expects from him, and he does so even more when there is no one watching.
46) Raise Your Standards and Expectations – The more you expect out of life the more you will get out of life; refuse to accept anything that is less than what you know you are deserving of. Life challenges all players so its important that we remain strong and remember to say NO to anything that isn’t quite up to our standards.
47) Go Outside Everyday – In this age of technology fewer and fewer people are spending as much time outside as they use to. We never know who we will meet at the park, mall, or local grocery story. Make a point everyday to put the electronics down, get some fresh air, and meet a few new people while you’re at it. Its as good for the body and mind as it is for the soul.
48) Break The Rules – These laws are here to give you a fundamental foundation to live by as a player. However, there always comes a time when a man most break a law in pursuit of his purpose. This player is your lifestyle it isn’t your purpose and these rules are all meant to be broken if it means meant your destiny.
Eddie Fews

Text Message Like A Player

Text messages can be a fun and discrete way to contact people during any time period of the day.

Whether you’re in an important business meeting or viewing a movie at a local cinema; it only takes seconds to type up a message and contact anyone you choose. And because of this it is the most popular form of communication used by the new generation of the twenty first century.

It is also becoming the form of communication women are relying on today to speak with the men they are involved with. Although, men often express to me that they are unsure of how come across as attractive in their text messages.

This seems to be a common issue many men are running into with women. Men say to me ” Hey Eddie, I can do the approach and get the number but, i seem to lose the girl when its time to initiate contact.” I personally encourage guys to dial women up and talk to them on the phone one on one, but with the increasing popularity of text messaging you can’t help but text message occasionally.

If You Are Going To Text Message Then Get It Right

Here are some of the tips I give guys that have spiced up their dating life.

K.I.S.S (Keep. It. Simple. Stupid)

Usually when sending text messages we are only given 160 characters to use per message. Rarely, if ever, is it a good idea to exceed this limit. Hell, rarely if ever is it a good idea to use even half of that 160.

Make sure your text messages are fun, concise, and to the point.

Too many guys are writing women these essays filled with complicated jokes and metaphors that no one would even understand in person.

So what makes you think that anyone is going to understand them in a text message lacking body language and tonality. If you want to be “kissed” always remember to keep it simple.

Fun And Compelling

Remember the old classic melodic hit by Cyndi Lauper ” Girls Just Wanna Have Fun”.

It is as true then as it is today; when texting a woman make sure what you are saying is emotionally stirring and compelling a exciting response.

Women are inspired by emotions. They enjoy being taken on a roller ride emotionally and if you can manage to do this through texting; women will begin texting you with delight throughout the day.

Are your text messages compelling a response? A lady texted a friend of mine ” Hey whats up?” in returned he replied ” Just got out of work” and he couldn’t figure out why the girl didn’t bother responding to his reply.

Nothing about that text message showed any signs of interest or inspired any emotions that would make someone want to reply. When texting remember to be inspiring; for practice you can even ask yourself “Is this text message fun or emotionally stirring?” and if the answer is ” No” then its probably better if you send something that is.

Assume Attraction

Assuming attraction refers back to a simple rule we as players use while out meeting women.

We say its best to also assume a girl is interested in you even if she isn’t. Now this isn’t always a true assumption but it is a pleasant one and so its the way we choose to live our lives.

How does this refer to text messaging?

Always interpret anything a woman sends you in text messages as something positive. Not only does this make you think of her in a good light but it keeps you in the right frame of mind to text her something light, fun, and flirty.

For example.

If a woman sends me a one word response to a text message, I think ” Oh she’s just trying to make me work for it”

So I’ll reply with something emotionally stirring. Mainly because I allowed myself to be emotionally stirred by her message. Get in the game guys. No matter what she is saying, she is only doing it to seduce you into liking her more.

With the growing of modern technology, text messaging is prevalent in the world today. It’s something we can all selectively use to be a bit more seductive. Keep it simple, make sure your text messages are fun-flirty and never text a woman unless you have the balls to call her in the first place.

Text messaging is just another tool which can be used for seduction but it can never replace a seductive telephone conversation or a real-life encounter.

If you can get this through your head then you will be well on your way to improving your success with the women of today.