5 Quick Tips For A Great First Date

This is a response to the emailer John11236, who asked me for a couple quick tips to ensure that he had a more successful first date while out a coffee this evening. Check out these 5 quick tips.

Tip #1 – If you’ve spoken to her enough to know something small that she likes, under $5 bucks, pick it up on the way tot he date  and wait for the proper moment to reveal it and give it to her.

For example: On my first date with a girl I was talking to in the past, she had texted me an hour before the date ” I’m so excited for our first date. This is a date right? :) – To which I responded something like ” Nope. Its our one year anniversary. We’re going to grab some drinks an celebrate. ” she’s like ” haha okay, see you there”

So on the way, I stopped by a stationary store and picked up a “Happy Anniversary card” – I didn’t write anything in it, but it was a small comical gift and she melted when I gave it to her. (later on in the night she revealed that had baked me some fresh cookies and pulled them out in wrapped ‘happy anniversary’ paper, but thats a story within itself…)

Second example: A woman would tell me how much she loves chocolate chip cookies. So i’d stop by a bakery on my way to meet her and pick up a chocolate chip cookie for her.

And its also very important WHEN you give the gift. Just chill and wait for the moment. This tip can also only be applied if you take the time out to have a conversation with the girl before going out with her. Something I would suggest that all men do. If you can’t last at least thirty minutes on the phone with a woman, then how do you expect to have a steady flow of conversation while on a date. Too many men are trying to rush to waste time on a date with someone they could find out they aren’t compatible with after five minutes on the phone – or video chat.  The technology is here, lets respect our time and use it to our advantage.

Tip #2 – If you feel like conversation is getting stale and/boring instantly suggest that you guys take your coffee and tea in hand and go for a walk. The association with boredom and staleness is tied to everything in that room at that point. A new scenery will almost be wiping the slate clean; opening up new avenues for conversation. I’ve even seen this work inside of my home. If a girl starts to get closed off at the thought of me making advancements, I’d suggest we move to another room in the house. The prior rejections on my escalation are almost forgotten about at that point. Its almost as if it didn’t happen. For whatever reason all the negativity was tied into everything within the room that it was taking place in.

I could go deeper and say that the term en-TRANCE, would suggest that the entering of every new room puts one under a new trance, but thats another topic for another time lol.

Tip #3 – How you start is usually how you finish. So you want to make sure that the initial HELLO is warm, lively and bright. Thats what will initially get the ball rolling. Its always good to get off to a great first start if you can help it. Its like a little snow ball being pushed down a hill. It begins to pick up steam the further and further it gets down the hill. And the bigger it gets, the more force and energy it will take to stop it and push it in the opposite direction. And that goes for a negative start or a positive start. Start off good, and it’ll be tough to stop the ball from rolling in a good way; start off bad and the same happens.

Tip #4 – Physical contact is very important.. Ask to see her hands, hold them in your hands, so you can look at her lines. I’m not expert at palm reading nor do I pretend to be on dates, but its a great way to introduce physical contact. Women love finding out new things about themselves, so even if a date is going bad, she will be open to letting you see her hands at the thought of learning something new about herself. You can even see this at how often women read their horoscopes and take those internet personality test.

Also, the sooner you break the touch barrier the better. Hand holding is an instant signal of romance. When you see two people holding hands its an instant indicator that they are together. Whether that be two girls, two guys, or a guy and a girl. So holding her hand to look at the inside of the palm is still in some way connected to romantic hand holding. The same action and amount of effort is needed to do both.

The top deep line is the love line. And they say that the further this lines curves up to the middle finger, the deeper a persons capacity to love. Look it up if you need to for accuracy, but what’s most important is that you have fun with it. Too much reality can ruin the ‘fantasy’.

Tip #5 – When all else fails, if the conversation just isn’t flowing like you want it to I’m going to give you a quick cold reading technique thats simple and easy to remember. This will at least buy you 5-10 mins to get it together while also honoring part of tip 4 by allowing you to teach her something new. She’ll subconsciously connect you with this new found realization about herself.

You can introduce it as ” Hey lets play this game, it’ll teach you somethings about yourself and allow me to get to know you better. ”

4 Questions and Four Simple Interpretations – Wait until the end to reveal what they mean.

1) You’re in an all white room without windows or doors, give me three separate adjectives to describe how you would feel? ( Most will say: Alone, Scared, Afraid)

2) Whats Your Favorite Color? And three separate adjectives to describe it? (Blue: Calm, Beautiful, Pure)

3) Whats Your Favorite Animal? And three separate adjectives to describe it (Cat: Sexy, Independent, Fun)

4) You’re before and ocean shore, whats the first thing you do? ( Take off my clothes and dive right in)

The first question is a reflection of how you see death..

The second question is a reflection of how you see yourself.. As being.. calm, beautiful, pure.

The third question is a reflection of how others see you.. As being sexy, independent, and fun

And the third is how you go about sex..

Depending on how elaborate her answer is for number four, you can get really in depth about your interpretation. Just make it up and have fun with it.

Apply those 5 quick tips and you’ll be on your way to having a great first date.

Eddie Fews


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My First Date With A Self Made Millionaire

So I had started a conversation with this lady that was sitting next to me on the train. At that moment she appeared to be in her early thirties, but what really got my attention was her big curly hair – I’ve always had a thing for curls. We get to chatting about god knows what and to my surprise, her dialect isn’t matching her age. She speaks like a young girl in her early twenties, but I ignore my urge to call her out on it for trying to relate to me; we exchange numbers, and I exit at my stop shortly after.

A day later she began texting me asking, me when we would be meeting up for a “first date”. I politely decline her offer because I wasn’t all that into her aesthetically. Besides, I had a few other girls that I can hang out with if I wanted to so she wasn’t the primary thing on my mind. Although she did follow up; she would send me a text every other day asking if I wanted to hang out. This carried on for about two weeks, and I’d politely decline all her offers.

Then one evening a girl who I had scheduled to hang out with cancelled on me at the last minute. I began going through my contacts searching for alternatives and she popped up in my mind. ” The Lady From The Train ” – I knew she was into me and would gladly hang out with me any chance she had gotten. So I text her ” Hey, if you’re free come join me at my place for a few glasses of wine. What time can you get here? “. I’m thinking I would just hang with her at home, get laid and call it a day.

She replies that she would rather not travel, but that I could come meet her at her apartment for the same experience. I ignored it and just reached out to a few other women to see if they would want to hang out.

It was getting late and after no one I knew was available I picked up my cell to give her a call. I figured I could charm her into coming on over to mine in a couple minutes on the phone. She answered with that young girl voice vibrating with excitement. We talked a bit, but my charming efforts weren’t as successful as I had hoped. Turns out she has to wake up early, so leaving home is out of the question.  Although she still extended her offer to have me over. I was about to decline and then she said ” Come on over, I’ll pay someone to cook for us”. ” Pay someone to cook for us?” I said to myself. I then replied to her ” Ok I’ll come , give me a hour “.

She texts me her address, I get dressed, and jump on the train to head to the city. When I arrived I just couldn’t seem to find her building, I’m pacing up in down the block its said to be located on, but I just didn’t see it. I reach in my pocket for my phone, call her, and she instructs me to where her place is. Its this small door that looks like a fire exit door to a big building. I ring the door bell she , three bright lights instantly flash, one even appears to scan my face from the top to bottom before I could blink. After I am buzzed in, I hop into button-less elevator and it just begins taking me up to hers. When the elevator opens she’s standing there smiling, in a beautiful tortoise dress, and without any shoes on . She greets me with a warm hug, hands me a glass of wine, and tells me to make myself at home.

At this point my bloods rushing, I look around an notice that she is living in a luxury three story pent house apartment. There is a set of swivel stairs in the center of the pent house that takes you from one floor to the next. I instantly wipe the “Shock & Awed” look from my eyes and throw my game face on. I repeat to myself ” Millionaire shmillionaire.. she’s no different than any other”.

At this point she wandered off to I’m not sure where. So I begin giving myself a tour of the place. I grab ahold of this electronic record player on the second floor that appears to be playing music throughout the whole house, and put on one of my favorite songs. I hear her yell something out from downstairs, so I make my way to the bathroom, and head down to her to finally get to know her. When I get to the first floor I see her with her back turned, rinsing something in the sink. Now its time to bring her into the present moment – I slowly step up behind her, place one hand on each side of her waist and whisper “hey princess” into her left ear. She’s startled, flushed, and giggling from the jolt I sent creeping up her spine.

She begins asking me all of these questions about my life and from the glint in her eyes I can tell that she’s just happy to be around me. We continue to talk with just a few 2-3 second ” awkward pauses” and before you know it we’re making out one the plush sofas on the second floor.

I’d kiss her, she would pull away and talk. She would kiss me, I would pull away and talk. Then she suggested we head to the top floor so she could show me the view of the city from the patio. We walk on up there and I’m just on a natural high from all of the visuals. My gut then says to me ” Alright, now go home.. Be the one to end the date”. I ignore it. My mind takes over and wants to enjoy the view just a little more. Just moments after the alert from my gut, she suggest I get going so she could prepare herself for bed.

“Shit!”.

I grab her, make out with her passionately once more, and look deep into her eyes as I say my good byes. She walks me all the way outside, hails me a yellow taxi, stands there waving and smiling as the cab pulls off.

I lean back in the cab, throw my hands behind my head and merely thankful for having had that experience.

Lets see where this leads…

Eddie Fews