Attract Women With An Abundance Mentality

What’s up guys,

It’s been a while since I’ve made a blog post mainly due to all the writing I’ve been doing for my upcoming book titled ” The Worker Ant Syndrome” . That, combined with the answering emails, staying current with the forums, and the increase of clientele after the holiday season has left me with little time to contribute to my own blog. I had read a great article about the importance of waking up earlier recently and I decided to wake up two hours earlier than normal. This had allotted me additional time to contribute to areas of my life that I had recently been neglecting.

I want say thank you to all who are continuing to follow the blog and a big thank you to all who have sent me letters of appreciation for the content I’ve written here. Every “thank you” and every bit of recognition is more incentive for me to keep doing what I do. When you know someone is listening, you want to make sure you give them something worth listening to.

To continue, I want to discuss what I feel may be the most anti-seductive thing about the men in the culture of our society, and the men in many other developed nations today. And that happens to be : The Unwillingness To Make A Sacrifice. By choosing to understand that abundance does exist, abundance can very well be yours, especially when you consider the advantages of the society we are living in. We’re in this internet age where each and every day the speed at which we can acquire the tangibles we desire increases.

You want some food? Go to grubhub or seamless, click a couple buttons, and you can have a full cooked meal delivered to your front door in under an hour.

Feel like talking to a friend that lives halfway across the world? Not only can you call or text them in an instant, but you can even pull their face up in live time right on the monitor of your computer through Skype, Oovoo, or FaceTime .

Want some new clothes or some new shoes? Go to your favorite clothing websites, select the items you want, and they will have it personally shipped to your door. But not only that, most clothing stores and sites like eBay  will give you a a discount if you decide to order online in opposition to taking more time out of your day by going to the store to purchase the item in person.

We are being encouraged from every angle to take the instant way out. Our dating has even become instant. Why go out to bars and night clubs to meet women when you can download apps like Tinder, Okcupid, and POF and literally have women at your door step in a couple of hours if you’re skilled enough? Why make a relationship work? Just get a new one. All it takes is the click of a button…Right? This has become our society.

There are two kinds of situations that I deal with the most frequently when it comes to the mentality of the men I work with. There is the guy who is so rooted in this instant age that he has lost all appreciation for the opposite sex. As I said above, why stress over a girl when you can click a button and whip up another one? Especially when you consider that there are more quality women than there are quality men. Any man that’s good with women and/or is frequently around social settings can tell you this. It’s said that 20% of the men sleep with 80% of the women. Think about it… How many of your friends in high school and college were truly getting laid consistently? I’m not talking about that she- was- drunk-lay once or twice a month; I’m talking about those actually getting laid consistently when they wanted to…

I went on a three day dry fast a couple of weeks ago in which I couldn’t eat food or drink water for 72 hours. And never in my life up until around the 40th hour did I realize how truly unappreciative I was for water. Water was everywhere and everyone was practically giving it away for free. I can walk into any public bath room in New York City, turn on the faucet, and have water in an instant. Water has become so insignificant that we pollute it now without even considering what this means for the future. So over the course of the dry fast, the thirst and the desire for water over that 72 hours led me to even marvel at little puddles of unclean water on the streets of NYC. As the man above, its very difficult to value anything that comes so easily and cheaply. I won’t get into the specifics of the dry-fast  now, but just know that water literary shapes itself to the energy we are giving off to it at any giving moment. There’s a documentary called “Water” which breaks this down scientifically. The more you appreciate water the more the molecular  structure of the water bonds together, and the healthier the water becomes for your body. Say “I Love You” to the water, and the water molecules bond together to form a shape that resembles a perfect snow flake; say “I hate you”  and the molecules scatter and separate reducing the quality of the water. So the fast had many benefits physically, mentally, and spiritually, but the main one was that it had changed how valuable I perceived water to be; thus making all the water I put into my body from now on more beneficial.

I believe this happens with the people in our lives as well, and this is the problem all the men who lose appreciation for the opposite sex are having. Their lack of appreciation is causing the energy they give off to women to alter the emotional structure of the women in such a way that the women are becoming tasteless – reducing their quality. Women are becoming disposable, because like “water” they are seen everywhere and they are being accessed so easily. Remember when women were waiting until marriage to have sex? Nope. I’m guessing those were the days. Men were more likely to marry a woman because they knew there was no way she was going to sleep with them unless they did. Nowadays there are too many women that want commitment who don’t know of anything they can offer besides sex. And they even give that away before there is a commitment. So why would a man commit? Just so he can continuing getting what he was already getting without one? Give me a break.

Then there is the guy who understands the “instant” age but someway somehow he doesn’t believe he can get another girl better than the woman who is already in his life. And so they tolerate behavior from women that they shouldn’t; and if there is one thing a woman hates more than anything it is a man who is putting up with her shit. Men meet these women then lose their backbones and the woman’s respect for her man goes out the window. And once a woman loses respect for her man, the loves goes right on out the window with it. Even with all of the available dating websites, and beautiful single women all over the place in big cities, there are men that still hold on as if there isn’t another woman just like her a couple conversations away.

I’ve been a surviver of both situations  in my life at one time or another.  In my last relationship I had met a girl I had a lot in common with – we even had the same birthday. After the relationship ended I remember thinking ” I’ll probably never meet another women with the same birthday as me again”. I let that mentality cause me to internally hold on longer than I should have. And the moment I let that go and aligned myself back with the abundance mentality I had before the relationship, I met two attractive women over the course of the next three weeks who both shared the same birthday as me; and the woman I was with before. It was almost the universes way of saying, “Don’t you dare think I’m not capable of supplying you with abundance… Here’s goes two of them”.

I had always been lined up with an abundance mentality, but for whatever reason I had been led down this road once again to learn a few lessons I may of missed out on in the past.  And because of this, I now had more women of a higher quality who wanted to be in my life than I had previously.

I think it’s important that every man who wants to be skilled at attracting women learn to practice an abundance mentality by letting them go. I’m not encouraging you to go around sleeping with tons of women and then letting them go; I’m encouraging you to let them go before it even reaches that point. Practice walking away from the women that you truly like before it even gets that far. When you’re out at a club or a bar and you finally see a “ten” and you get her phone number; delete it, immediately after and move on with your life.

Know from deep within yourself that it is the willingness to make that sacrifice that will energetically make you more attractive to “ten’s” in the future. A woman needs to know that you can stand on your own two feet and be fine without her for her to continue to feel attraction for you.  And the best way to develop that in today’s society that i have found is to practice letting go of the women you truly want before you even dive all the way in. The universe will test you to make sure you are ready. You’ll meet some of the greatest women you’ll feel you’ve met ever, and if you pass the test when it does, a new world of abundance will open up for you. There are always higher levels.

For the guy who has lost appreciation for women I would encourage that you purge. Spend some time alone; spend some time in celibacy. When you go out to bars, don’t approach, just hang out with your friends and enjoy your drinks. Don’t answer any text from old girls, don’t masturbate, and definitely don’t watch any porn whether purging or not. I’ve had to do this several times in in my life. Ninety days of celibacy (no ejaculation) is said to rewire and reset the minds view on sexuality. Men who struggle to get an erection because of desensitization from over exposure to sex and/or the watching of pornography were said to correct their problem after ninety days without an ejaculation.

In closing, I think it’s important for men to find a healthy balance between the two men I described above. If you’re currently guy number one, spend some time purging, if you’re guy number two, practice getting the women you want and then letting them go until you find yourself within an emotional state and alignment that you’re comfortable with. Life is all about finding a healthy balance. Men too far in one direction shortly find themselves in the opposite direction because of the law of polarity – everything that goes up must come back down. Balance creates happiness and so balance is about hovering at a midway point so that one finds a healthy balance for themselves. Spend some time finding your own balance so that you can experience a higher level of emotional wellness and health within relationships. And let me also include that this is a male driven article; I think its important for men to learn how to attract and for women to learn how to be attracted. If a woman and a man both tried to adopt this same mentality they would naturally repel one another. Let one learn to attract and the other strengthen their ability to be attracted.  Men being hunters, and being more assertive about their approach to meeting and dating women are better off being the one to attract those who are most capable of being attracted. Any woman looking for tips on how to become more “attracted” feel free to email me at the contact us section of the website.

Thanks for Reading.

Peace & Love


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The Power In A Proper Compliment

There has been a myth going around the seduction community for some time that you should never compliment a woman on her looks. That instead you should point out something unique that a guy doesn’t usually compliment her on to get her attention. While I agree that an indirect compliment will definitely lift a woman’s spirits, I can’t help but laugh at the guys who are afraid to acknowledge a woman’s beauty. And I won’t even bother addressing the men who think they have to NEG – say something negative to knock an attractive woman off her high horse just to get her attention. I would only advise the men on that level of social immaturity to get a horse of their own before they even think about connecting with the opposite sex. But back to the subject at hand..

I believe that a proper compliment based solely off of a woman’s looks is the best way to connect with her. Women carry purses that are usually filled with items to touch up their appearance( make up, mirrors, etc.) which only suggest that they worry about what they look like a lot more than men do. What better way to ease the mind of a woman than to let her know that she doesn’t have to worry about how she is begin perceived at that moment. Having put her mind at ease, she can now contemplate other matters.. perhaps even.. YOU?

Now there is a catch..

The compliment certainly has to be unique and more than unique it has to be genuine. A compliment such as “ You’re beautiful/sexy/hot/cute/pretty” is unreacted to for several reasons.

Reason #1

It’s obvious-She hears this ALL the time.

Reason #2

When you say “ You’re beautiful” you are stating it as if it is a fact. While YOU may perceive her as beautiful she may be the complete opposite to someone else. Now although she may hear the word beautiful all the time; changing “ You’re beautiful “ to “ I THINK you are beautiful “ will get you a completely different reaction – I guarantee it.

Reason #3

There is no YOU in this compliment. What more is she supposed to say other than “ Thank You ” while walking away. Exactly how do the men that walk around calling women “hot” expect them to respond? Did you think they will lean into you and start making out with you? Grab your hand, take out a pen, and write their phone number on it? In what reality does this happen and why is it that the urban man sits around waiting for miracles instead of making them happen. This is your life; waiting will only get you what waiting has already gotten you.. Which is what?

Women wear tight dresses, high heels, and even walk the way they do because they WANT to be viewed as attractive. They want some guy to be confident enough in both himself and her to compliment her beauty without fear. So compliment her beauty relentlessly, do so with passion, high energy and she’ll love for you it.

The trick to successfully complimenting a woman’s looks is to state how the way she looks is making YOU feel. She doesn’t want to know she is attractive as much as she wants to know how much her attractiveness is affecting YOU. This is about YOU, this isn’t about her looking a certain way; it’s about her beauty filling YOU with fire and desire from the inside out. No woman can resist a man confident enough to express how tempted he is to give into weakness because of her beauty.

I’ll give you an example..

Back when I experimented with the online dating thing, I realized that all men would do is compliment a woman on her looks and the women hated it. Why? Because they weren’t doing it the proper way. They would all say “ Hey Beautiful, Hey sexy, you’re hot etc. “. Now as you stated before, they could of received more responses if they said “ I think you’re sexy, I think you’re hot etc “, but I decided to take a different approach. I was going to describe in one or two lines how the way a woman looked was making me feel. I never had to read profiles.. I would just monitor my emotions while looking at their pictures and just describe this to them.

One of my favorite lines was “ damn girl..you make me wanna knit the both of us matching sweaters.“

I could send that to ten girls and get seven responses, because I was stating how the way she looked was making me FEEL.

A proper compliment tailored to a woman’s looks also does something powerful for your benefit. Not only will paying a woman a proper compliment heighten the way she perceives herself, but it will also heighten the way she perceives you. We’ve all heard the expression “ It takes one to know one “ and people are only mirrors of ourselves after all. When you comment to a person on anything they subconsciously think it must have something to do with you. So by validating her attractiveness you are also validating your own.

I used to date this girl named Natalia, and boy was she BEAUTIFUL… But she wasn’t always that way. Natalia was my next door neighbor when I lived in the suburbs. And before we were together I would see her from time to time, but I never really thought anything of her. Then one day I had a friend over who came into my house excited saying he had no idea I had such a sexy neighbor. He was also wondering why I had never made a move on her. I told him I didn’t think she was all that cute, and he told me I was crazy. So immaturely I said to myself “ Fine, I’m just going to sleep with her to score some cool points with my boy; not to mention, the idea of sleeping with a next door neighbor is a bit exciting.”

The next day I looked her up on facebook ( we went to high school together, she was three years older) and sent her a message:

Me: Hey, there’s this cute girl that lives in my neighbor hood.. You know her?

Her: (I don’t remember what she said but it was something like..) Haha yeah that’s me 🙂

Me: Dope.. So can I borrow some sugar?

Her: Sure 😉

I think she thought I was joking, but I went right on over, knocked on her door and asked for sugar. She laughed, we talked for a bit and then we exchanged phone numbers. The whole time I am thinking “ This girl is not all that attractive -I’m not even sure I want to go through with this “. But I was on a mission and I was going to complete it. I called her a couple days later, chatted with her for 20 minutes and then invited her over for a back yard picnic. So there we were, hanging out in my backyard, me still thinking she’s not that cute, and then it all started… She went into a mind state where she began describing to me how attractive I was for about fifteen minutes. She had been in a metaphorical cocoon and once the compliments began to rain, she broke out and emerged as a butterfly. My eyes glazed over and I was hers. I ate it up and for the first time since I had seen her I began to view her as all of the things she was telling me I was.

“ Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” – General Lew Wallace

“ A pimple turns to a dimple when you’re in love” – Japanese Proverb

Long story short

I fell more in love with Natalia that I’ve ever fallen for any woman in my entire life, all because she made a habit of constantly telling me how amazing I was. And as I stated above; subconsciously I would associate all of these great things with her even though my original opinions of her were negative. Her opinions of me, became my opinions of her and she knew this. I had fallen for her, I became emotional over her, and she began looking for a new male the conquer with her silver forked tongue.

There is a lot of power in the compliment and we must also realize that the more compliments we give out to others the more compliments we get in return. Compliments boost both someone else’s confidence and our own so it’s a win-win situation. Just make sure they’re genuine, original and tailed directly to the person. “I like your dress” doesn’t cut it; it’s cliche and heard by someone somewhere every single day. Try “ That dress goes great with the tone of your skin, how did you know to pick that color? “ That’ll open up the person and get the conversation flowing, but just remember that it has to be honest and genuine. If you love women enough, this will all be easy for you. Just begin expressing to them how much you really do LOVE specific things about them and how these things are making you FEEL.

Eddie Fews


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Was Jesus Christ An Alpha Male?

What is An Alpha Male?

This is one of the most common topics within the Pick Up Artist community that I find when I’m on boards and forums dishing out advice. Every guy is trying to figure out how to behave like or how to become an alpha male. The latest post just happened to be “ Was Jesus Christ an Alpha Male ?”. I chuckled and began reading a few of the responses on the board. The poster that the majority of the board agreed with said something along the lines of “ Would an Alpha Male ‘Turn the other cheek?” which is a reference to – Mathew Chapter 5 Verse 39: but I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. I’m guessing the murderous action hero from the latest terminator film didn’t fit what was thought to be their ideal alpha male. And while I am not here to defend christianity, I will go in and bring further understanding into exactly what an alpha male is. But to answer to initial board question; yes, Jesus was most certainly an alpha male.

You see, an alpha male isn’t something anyone is ever going to read a book or article about and just become. You can buy a thousand books on how to ride a bike, but until you actually climb on one and try it out you won’t know how to ride a bike. The even bigger difference here is, being an alpha male isn’t something that is technical. It isn’t something thats going to be “learned”, its more so something one will naturally become upon engaging within the proper circumstance/s.

Some see it as Alpha males are born, not created, but I disagree with that theory. Sure a young child who has an alpha male role model for a father through imitation and practice can be stimulated into being an alpha male. But was he born that way or was he learned that way? It was learned and I also know that every man out there has the potential to become one upon being confronted with the right stimulus.There is an alpha male hidden inside every one of us, however most will never become it because they’ve chosen to be victims of fear.

An alpha male is not something that can be defined by a set of behaviors. There are too many articles encouraging men to sit with their legs wide-open, and to take up lots of space wherever they go, because “thats what alpha males naturally do”.  And while almost anything can have its own bit of truth, the taking up space theory and behaving like Don Draper in Californication is nonsense. If you think that sitting with your legs wide open is going to increase your chances of getting women enough to make a difference in your love life, you my friend are not in no way an alpha male. I can get a woman with my legs crossed and both of my hands in my pockets, just as effectively as I can get a woman with my legs and arms completely spaced out. It is not my body placement that a woman is attracted to, it is the spirit that is in me. It is the presence that emanates from that spirit. It is my life experiences and courage that have given me my aura. Its is the rough times, the poverty, the being made fun of, the being forced to be different that has created what has made me an alpha male.

As I said before, you’ll never read a book and learn how to be an alpha male. You either are it or you are not. You’re either going to toss yourself into the fire to become one or you’re going to ride out safely in the comfort zones given to you by society. You’ll either be the leader, or you’ll follow the guy who wasn’t as much of a wuss and did all he could to ensure that he possessed something that no one else did.

An Alpha male isn’t rich, and alpha male isn’t poor, and alpha male isn’t fat, and alpha male isn’t skinny, an alpha male isn’t handsome, and an alpha male isn’t ugly, an alpha male doesn’t take up large amounts of space, and a alph… yeah yeah I know. You get the point.

Alpha-ness is a spirit.  Alpha-ness is taking risk and getting uncomfortable. Not using google to become something that someone else has. Every alpha male has his own opinion and set of behaviors that what might compile into why he is an alpha male, but the one thing we all can agree on, is that an alpha male isn’t ever asking questions about what a alpha male is. An alpha male is too focused on being himself.

If you are an alpha male, salute to you and thanks for reading, but if you’re looking to become an alpha male, you need to stop reading and asking questions about alpha males. It’s time to start living. As Jay-z said about some of his peers in the corporate world that he’s surpassed; “they’ve read a lot of books, I’ve lived a lot of life”. When will you stop reading and start putting into action the material that you read?

If you want to become an alpha male you have to get up, get out, and go live. You have to be prepared to experience pain. Just as exercise is pain that causes one to build the body that they want; living life to your highest convictions despite how you feel in the moment will give you the emotional body(alpha-ness) you desire.  You’ll become one naturally after enough experience doing so. You won’t have to try to become it, you’ll just be it, and how to be it won’t even be something you think about.

So yeah, while I have my own reservations about the religion and some of the theologies, Jesus was an alpha male, because he understood that he was on a mission. He stood by his beliefs, did what he felt was best, and wasn’t going to let the opinions of anyone stop him from accomplishing that. He lived his truth, and in layman’s terms, he didn’t give a fuck what anyone in opposition thought about it.

Wanna be Alpha? Get up and go Live.

Peace & Love


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Take Control Over Your Emotion

After dealing with student after student who’s fallen in love and lost all connection with logic, it has come to my understanding that I need give my opinion on love and why its important to view it objectively. This so-called seduction community is full of men who want to get women, but what happens when they actually get with the women? They get over emotional, they ask for advice, and the men in the community tell them to just move onto another girl. So thats the advice? Get the girls and then just move on when you can no longer handle it? I’d like to meet the guru who first established this tactic.

Imagine you knew little to nothing about cars, but you bought a car anyway. The gas tank was on full when you bought it, so you go off driving. You’re having the time of your life and then all of a sudden the car slows down and eventually comes to a stop. At this point you have no idea whats going on – this was a perfectly good vehicle just moments ago. So you call the guy who sold you the car and you say “ Hey man, the car just stopped.. Its not working like it once was. What do I do? “ and he says “ Oh. This is when you just get a new car” . You reply “ I invested money into this car!” and all he can say is “ It didn’t work out with this one. You just have to get a new one “.

Thats is what is being taught in the seduction community. When things don’t work out with a girl; just move on and get a new one. No one is teaching us about gas and gas stations.  And like the car analogy, no matter what car you get; they’ll all eventually run out of gas. With the understanding of what gas is and how to refill the car with gas, you’ll be able to drive any quality car for as long as you please.

Welcome to exxon mobile.

So the question is “ What Is Love? “

The answers can always get deeper, but I think on a surface level we can all agree that love is an emotion. Right?

Love is an emotion just as fear is an emotion; like anger is an emotion etc.

So lets put love aside for a moment and discuss another emotion; one we can all relate to… Lets talk about fear.

I would go deep into what fear is, but I don’t feel a need to reinvent the wheel. This guy below pretty much nails it. Watch this and we’ll continue

 

F.E.A.R – False Evidence Appearing Real

“ Your fear is always about whats going to happen next. That means your fear is always about that which does not exist. If your fear is about the non existent, your fear is one hundred percent imaginary. If you’re suffering from the non existential, we call that insanity. “

Socially acceptable levels of insanity…

How many of us are constantly afraid of our own imagination?

How many of us are suffering from our own emotions?

So wouldn’t that mean that having a fear about approaching a woman is a mild form of insanity. What is it exactly that we’re afraid of? In what way does that fear serve us?

We have to begin to observe our fears and eliminate the ones that serve no purpose what so ever. Purposeless fear is true insanity. For example: a man that is afraid to stand on the edge of a rooftop certainly hasn’t lost his mind. He fears potentially slipping and ruining his life. So the fear of heights on a mild level is useful to protect whoever has that fear from danger – understandable; the fear serves a purpose. Now what if that fear got out of control. What if the fear of heights grew so big that one couldn’t even be on the inside of a tall building? We would then view that man as insane. So this brings me to the big question concerning fear(which is an emotion just as LOVE is an Emotion). Is this mans fear of being inside a tall building valid? Just because his emotion is telling him that it is dangerous to be inside the building, does that mean that it is in fact dangerous? Surely it doesn’t, it is just something his own subconscious created within him for one reason or another. You following?

Now what about the people lost in love? Sure love is great; falling in love feels great, I’m not talking about the people who are healthily in love. The emotion serves a purpose in healthy situations. It allows there to be a amorous bond between two people which allows them to come together and potentially build a family to further the human population. It affords them happiness, passion, meaning to life, and so many other things. But here I’m talking about the men and women who are in destructive relationships and assume that just because they FEEL an emotion; it means that they must follow that feeling. Its insanity, just like the example of the man above who is afraid to enter a tall building.

I believe all feelings have to be monitored. We have to begin to understand them for what they are. They are just FEELINGS, and only have purpose when we attribute it to them. A mans stage freight doesn’t mean that he doesn’t belong on stage, an angered man feeling like physically attacking the person in front of him does not mean he should, and just because you feel emotionally drawn to a woman or man that does not mean that you have to be with them.

Emotions help us interpret life; emotions are not interpretations of life.

I was once the guy that let his emotions get the best of him with women far too often. It was a routine for me; I was constantly falling in love and thinking that just because I felt the need to call a girl ten times back to back when she didn’t answer that I had to. I lacked self control; and because I let my emotions get the best of me. The women in my life lost respect for me and my emotional immaturity began to push them away. It wasn’t until enough trail and error that something finally clicked in my brain. I realized that the emotions that were occurring in my body were just FEELINGS, nothing more – JUST FEELINGS. I began to understand the importance of being objective about the meaning I would attribute to these emotions. I was then able to figure out which ones were healthy to act on, and which ones would be a burden to others to act on. This allowed me some level of mastery over myself and the women in my life all once began to develop a richer level of respect for me as a man. They viewed me as someone they could turn to when there emotions were on the rise. I was no longer a burden to them, I was one who could show them how to prevent themselves from being a burden to others.

If you take anything from this, understand that emotions are simply feelings to help us get through life. They are not the meaning of life. Lets begin to evaluate our emotions and figure out which ones have purpose and which ones do not. Not all feelings of love have purpose, just as not all feelings of fear, jealousy, and anger have purpose. Act on the feelings that  have been adding value to your life and find creative ways to channel the ones that do not. And just remember that your FEELING of emotions at times can mean absolutely nothing. Consciously control the subconscious; because it will try its best to subconsciously control you.

Peace & Love   


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The Secret Laws Of Social Wisdom

My new Ebook ” The Secret Laws Of Social Wisdom” is now available. Each has law been designed in such a way that when followed a man will add to his overall level of social intelligence,magnetism, and presence. Below is a sample of five of the fifty laws you will receive once you purchase the book. click here to go to LuLu and download your own personal copy and if you are currently not in position finically to purchase the book email me at EddieFews@WayOfThePlayer.com I will send you a copy of the book free of charge. 

Law 7

The World Is Always Watching

All things done in the dark eventually have to come to the light and a leader follows the mantra that, “character is what you do while no one is watching you”. And by “no one” the law means “no one”. While following the law it is important to understand that every single action taken by a man every single day has an effect on his aura, body language and presence. Therefore one is never able to hide anything; and the follower of the law must live his life with the understanding that this is true. Law number seven requires that the follower of the law lives their life as if there was a camera crew following them every step of the way and all of the footage was being sent to all the women and men one eventually wanted to have some level of opportunity with. Whether that be a business opportunity or a romantic type of opportunity. If a man sits in his house all day long doing nothing, when he knows that he has responsibilities to be taking care of, the people in his life will know it. It is likely that they will not know directly, but they will know on an energetic level. Women will feel less attracted to him that day, men will be less friendly with him that day, and if it perpetuates, so will the effects that follow. If a man wouldn’t sit on his sofa watching tell-lie-vision and eating potato chips all day long if the girl of his dreams was watching him he is not permitted to do it without her around. Because the fact of the matter is, when a man finally does run into that girl everything he has ever done will be attached to his body language, presence, and aura. We cannot hide anything; this world was not designed this way. We must own up to our words, actions and habits one way or another. Men will notice that they will attract a lot more women when they begin to live their life as if the women were already there. Follow the law and live a life filled with more integrity, because all will know on some level all of the things that every man has done.

“Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody’s going to know whether you did it or not.”

—Oprah Winfrey

Law 16 

The Pedestal Is For All Or None

A man’s status is never determined by how much money he has made or by the level of fame he has achieved. A man’s status is determined by the character he exhibits. There are bad people who are rich and famous, just as there are good people who are rich and famous. Any man that has ever spent personal time in a room with someone who is admired or of high levels of wealth becomes aware that this man or woman is just as flawed as themselves. Usually all the greatness they are said to have is reserved and just channeled in the moments that count. They are the same people,  with a different direction of focus. This comparison can also be applied to beautiful women. If one had the opportunity to follow a highly attractive women for a week and see all she thought, and did they will find that she isn’t nearly as beautiful as their minds made her out to be.  She’s flawed, and many times more flawed than oneself because the world has allowed her to live a lie most of her life. In many cases no one has rejected her, she’s constantly offered things for free, and no one has criticized her. So is it any surprise that the majority of beautiful women are lacking in personality? What did they need a personality for? They were already fully accepted into society for being beautiful; for being something that they didn’t even choose to be. Law number 16 requires that the follower of the law comes to an understanding that no one is above oneself; no one gets put on a pedestal, unless everyone is put on a pedestal. There is a very thin line between what separates the people we admire from ourselves. And often times we find that the things we wanted weren’t what we thought when we got them. The new car or house only made one feel differently momentarily;  the true peace is found within. And the rich and famous have usually figured that out because they have acquired the tangibles that people dream about and its done nothing for them internally. Follow the law and understand that the only people that can have power over us are the people we give it to.

“He thinks too highly of me, places me on a pedestal i’ve never deserved.” 

— Tahereh Mafi 

Law 19

Always Tell The Truth

Few men have the confidence to look a woman square in the eyes when he is tested by her and tell her the truth. And it is usually the women of the highest quality that are going to put forth the most challenging test because they are mastered at questioning a man on the things he may be insecure about. A woman isn’t concerned with what a man has or what a man does as much is she concerned with how he feels about what he has and what he does. She’s looking to the man to see how she should feel about him based SOLEY upon how he feels about himself. Now a low quality superficial woman may be looking toward a man for what he has acquired, but a high quality woman is only looking into the man. A quality woman doesn’t reject an impoverished man because he is in poverty; she is rejecting him because of how he feels about his poverty. A poor man with a dream that he is actively working toward has no problem getting a woman. There are men like this everywhere. This is why a man must always tell the truth and be confident about his truth. A truthful man is truthful because he has accepted himself for who he is and is confident that if is he is in an unfortunate situation he is capable enough to get himself out of the situation. He also believes that the people around him will be able to pick up that he can get himself out of anything he is in. So he is honest. And because he is confidently honest, people believe in him and his ability. Law number 19 requires that every man is honest with everyone that he comes across. A lie only makes one feel momentarily content with an unsatisfactory situation. It’s almost like taking a drug to escape from the current reality. Eventually one will have to confront reality, and the more it has been pushed to the side the more difficult it will be to live with when it is forced to the surface. Follow the law and always tell the truth. An honest man radiates with a light that draws people toward him.

“The secret of life is honesty and fair dealing. If you can fake that, you’ve got it made.” 

— Groucho Marx

 

Law 27

Rebalance Your Sensitivity 

To utilize the teachings of this book to their full potential; you must begin to fight against some of the numbing that is occurring to our generation. The greatest seducers are sensitive. They can feel what’s going on in their bodies, the person they’re withs body and what’s happening in the world around them. Increasing sensitivity is a challenging way to live, but once it’s mastered it allows the bearer of sensitivity to excel far beyond all who are desensitized. If you have ever increased your computer mouse sensitivity, you’ll notice that it is a lot more difficult to maneuver at first but when mastered it allows you to control your computer at speeds you couldn’t before. Below are a collective group of steps that can be taken to increase ones level of sensitivity.

The Numbing Of The Senses

Anyone that lives in a big city understand that they are constantly bombarded with loud noises from every angle. Whether it be from the music coming from the cars driving by or the screeching sounds coming from the steel train cars stopping along the tracks. Most will notice that the first few times they are confronted with these noises they’ll have to cover their ears because of the pain felt. After a while the loud noises no longer hurt the ears; one becomes used to them – one has become numb to them. This same process takes place with the blasting of music into the ears. The music goes from being too loud, to not being loud enough. We are living in a world that is constantly numbing us and that takes place with bright LED lights to the eyes – going from too bright to bearable. Foul smells coming from a polluted environment which go from being stinky to the point where one can no longer smell them. Chemical preservatives and salts on the food that go from being too salty to enjoyable. etc. etc.

The number of the senses causes one to be incapable of picking up on the subtle cues that would make a man an effective with social wisdom. If a man hearing has been so numbed that he isn’t able to pick up on the small little sounds  and tones generated from a women at different moments he won’t be aware of all he needs to know to effectively lead her.  Numbed eyes will prevent one from efficiently making eye contact, numbed touch prevents one from being able to feel oneself feeling another which is imperative for a seductive touch(Law 4), and so on.

Law number six requires that the follower of the law practices rebalancing their sensitivity. Stop taking in preservatives and harmful food additives that numb the senses. While listening to music keep the music volume lower than 75% and cover the ears when fronted with loud sounds. When met with a foul smell, focus on the smell and see it for what it is. No one should let oneself get so comfortable with a foul smell that they forget it’s there… and so on. Rebalance your sensitivity in every way possible so that you begin to embody the ability to deal with and pick up on needs for social wisdom faster than before.

“The most important innovators often don’t need any technologies – just imagination and acute sensitivity to people’s needs. “

Geoff Mulgan

 

Law 39

Never Be Ashamed

Women are likely to be more upset about your reaction to a performance problem than the problem itself. Women are always looking to us to validate how they should feel about a situation. So if a mans feelings are neutral showing that he is unaffected by his woman’s feelings she will then question whether the emotion she feels is valid in the first place. Lets say a woman does not feel content with her relationship and because of this she goes to her man attempting to break up with him. If the man reacts emotionally in an “ how could you do this? “ type of manner she will feel as if  she must have some validity behind her feelings because it was the source of her partners momentary passion. Now, if the man says “ No honey. Lets just talk later on when our feelings settle. I think we have something great here” from a neutral point of few, she will begin to wonder if she was making the right decision at all. Her decision didn’t bring about any emotion in her partner; and because he was unaffected she must wonder whether or not the things she said were even effective. And so it is the law to never show shame, because a woman will only respond negatively to mans short coming in any given situation if he first expresses a negative reaction to his own short coming. Men who learn this will find that women that attempt to reject them after an approach suddenly begin to be more receptive to the male if they see that he wasn’t swayed positively or negatively by her reaction. She must question whether or not she had any reason to reject the guy because it meant absolutely nothing to him. So does it mean anything at all? The first rejections are almost always a test of a mans character and strength – the two primary things a woman looks for in a man. Even if a man has a overly positive reaction she will question whether she made the right choice. She will begin to feel as if she did him a favor. And if she did him a favor, by natural law he owes her one. This will instantly put him in a subservient position. So Follow the law and embrace all aspects of who you are; the world must first need to see you ashamed before they can become ashamed of you.

“With integrity, you have nothing to fear, since you have nothing to hide. With integrity, you will do the right thing, so you will have no guilt.”<

— Zig Ziglar


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The Eleven Female Orgasms

Did you know that women have the ability to experience eleven different forms of an orgasm? Imagine being the type of sexual lover that knows more about a woman’s body than she does. How many women know about this intense and pleasurable subject? Not many.

And we have found hundreds of women asking this same exact question. The point is, you are not the only one who is clueless in bed, and greater communication and attention for your partner’s needs will only boost her endorphins.

Simply put: she will want to do more for you as well.

We have never entertained the idea of asking a man this question; most men are honored if they have the knowledge that a woman is capable of having a orgasm at all. But of course, there exists a modest group who can claim knowledge to these esoteric methods. We know because we have learned from them. The vast majority of the male species is ignorant about their feminine bed-lusts. And the sad fact is that they are okay with this.

So what is the origin of this issue? The answer is basic, and coincidentally unexpected: men harbor an intense fear of feminine sexuality in our society.

The majority of women are only aware of two orgasms that their bodies can encounter (whether or not they have ever experienced them is another thing), and, unfortunately, this even holds true in the post-Feminist community. Ladies, looks like you’ve been cheating yourselves.

I will explain to you how this came about. You have taken back many of your rights, but you have mixed liberation with hostility.

Metrosexuality has become a fashionable word. But in fact, there are not many men available to teach women about the miracle known as the female body. Tearing men away from their masculinity has been a great success – it is great for the economy. However, women are missing out on quite a lot.

A small portion of men are good sexual lovers. Ask any woman and she will confirm this. Becoming a sexpert starts from knowing how to please her, especially knowing how to give her an orgasm. This requires going a little deeper and finding out the different ways that a woman can orgasm.

Add some love and awareness to the world of relationships and sexuality. Love dissolves fear; awareness dissolves ignorance. Let’s start with the one orgasm you probably know:

1. The Clitoral Orgasm

This orgasm results from direct contact with the clitoris. Strong feelings stem from the clitoris and send pleasurable waves throughout a woman’s entire body. A woman’s clitoris is the most sensitive area on her body – with twice as many stimulatory nerve endings as the male penis. If you are a guy, picture all of the nerve endings in the penis compacted into an area as tiny as a marble. The clitoris is so important to receiving pleasure that feelings of arousal are always felt there on some degree. That is why the clitoris is so responsive to different kinds of touch.

Although, it’s not equal for all women. The clitoris’s sensitivity can be completely opposite from woman to woman. There are the women that may prefer a lighter touch. Other women get enjoyment from a more intense stimulation. And for a portion of women, the clitoris is so delicate that contacting the clit directly is often not comfortable and can sometimes be aggravating.

After an orgasm, the clit often becomes extremely sensitive, to the point where physical contact could be painful. As a good sexual partner, you must be aware of this and grant a woman some minutes of rest before going at it again.

This kind of female orgasm can be done in a few different variations: There is oral stimulation. Ladies, if your partner is not aware of how to perform oral sex on women, still let your partner do it for you. But guide him as you would guide Stevie Wonder driving an eighteen wheeler on a dark New York City street. When using your hand, be sure to use her own natural lubrication, or a water-based lubricant. With sex toys, use lubrication as well.

A clitoral orgasm can be very intense, but many women describe it as “less deep” than others. Nevertheless, it is extremely pleasurable, and good clitoral stimulation adds much to the stagnant sex life.

2. The Vaginal Orgasm

This kind of female orgasm concerns the vaginal walls, and remains focused in either the pelvic or lower stomach areas. It can also spread upward and out depending on the intensity of the experience. The uterus, pelvic muscles, and sometimes the anus will start to contract. These contractions are strong and may even push out anything stimulating the vagina.

This kind of orgasm takes a bit of time to reach, and rhythmic thrusting is often the best way to get there. A great sexual partner will communicate with their woman to figure out which position is best for her to achieve an orgasm. And a great will partner will also try not to ejaculate before she does: “Ladies always come first.”

A good deal of women describe it to be “less intense” than clitoral stimulation, however, they do feel it a bit more “deeply.” This orgasm is felt as a pressure that slowly grows and explodes from deep inside the vagina.

3. The G-Spot Orgasm

This orgasm starts in the G-Spot and can stay there while climaxing, or it will intensely rush throughout the entire female body. When a woman is sexually aroused, the tissue around her will urethra becomes filled with blood from her paraurethral glands that produce and fill with prostatic fluid. This area on the front wall of the vagina is that same mysterious and sensitive spot: the G-Spot.

The process is actually similar to a male erection. And, a result, the urethral sponge becomes “erect.” If you touch it, it feels firm. In other words, this is a female “boner.” The only thing separating the two is that, for women, it all happens on the inside of the vagina. There are a few ways to stimulate a woman’s G-Spot. Rhythmic pushing or circular friction motions are the best for reaching this type of orgasm. Try using a special Tantric sensual massage – it tends to stimulate this section of a female’s body. This orgasm will often lead to female ejaculation.

This kind of female orgasm takes a good amount time to build up to, and many women say that it is a special, deep, intense carnal pleasure, that builds up until their whole lower abdomen and pelvic area explodes. And they are often carried away for a decent amount of time by the strong rush of euphoric energy – often fully unconscious of where they are and what is happening around them.

4. Squirting Orgasm (Female Ejaculation)

In short, this powerful orgasm is achieved by using ancient Tantric techniques. It exercises unwanted emotions and fills a woman with light, delightful energy and a feeling of happiness and peace. Squirting makes other kinds of female orgasms look meek in comparison.

This type of orgasm causes a deep bond to form between a woman and her partner. This has to be the most sensual thing a woman can experience with you.

5. The A–Spot Orgasm (The Anterior Fornix Orgasm)

This kind orgasm is reached by stimulating an area far deep in the vagina (about 7-10 cm, or 3-4”) on the front wall – the same exact wall where the G-spot is located. In other words, this is a section of delicate tissue at the inner front end of the vaginal tube, in between the cervix and the bladder.

This orgasm is most easily achieved using your hand. Use the same technique you use to stimulate the G-Spot, but in this case, go as deep as your fingers can reach. You simply just try to “scoop it out” with your fingers – a “come hither” motion. In the basic missionary position, a man should be short-thrusting while deep inside a woman during sexual intercourse.

Many women find the feeling incredibly pleasurable while others do not like it at all, so be sure to keep this in mind.

After orgasming, the A-Spot does not become sensitive like the clitoris, and you can easily continue stimulation, bringing women to new levels of pleasure. Again, communication is the key here, so make sure to ask her if she is enjoying what you are doing.

This orgasm is described by women as a type of soft burst of electricity bringing them to a sharp, erotic climax. Some women find this orgasm similar to the G-spot, while some find it closer to an extremely strong vaginal orgasm. Either way, your partner will be excited about the fact that you even know about this.

6. The Deep Spot Orgasm (The Posterior Fornix Orgasm)

This king of orgasm is reached by stimulating the section of the vagina that is positioned at the deepest part of the back wall, right before the cervix.

Direct stimulation of the deep spot will cause intense orgasms. Some ladies compare it to having anal sex. When this orgasm is performed it gives off excited responses like: “This is the first time I have ever felt like this,” or, “Wow! What’s going on!” This particular section of the vagina is not well known, so not many women have not been able to experience it. This kind of female orgasm can also be performed by using the fingers, also using “come hither” motions. Use both deep and shallow strokes, and you can even use two fingers if you’d like.

Note: First ask the woman what she feels when you touch her cervix – some women love it and others completely hate it.

7. The U-Spot Orgasm

This type of female orgasm results from stimulation along a small area of erectile tissue located just above and on either side of the urethral opening – a small section of skin in between the urethra and the vagina. If this region is gently stroked with the finger, the tongue, or the tip of the penis, there will be a powerful erotic response.

Any woman can experience any of the above listed female orgasms. However, a few more orgasms are not so common. They are:

8. The Breast Orgasm

This type of orgasm happens during a peak of stimulation toward the breasts. A woman’s nipples are connected to nerve endings in the female genitals, and a large amount of women experience a direct connection with their clitoris when their nipples are stimulated.

Many women feel increased sexual excitement when their nipples are stimulated. However, not all women can experience the breast orgasm, so this mainly depends on the sensitivity of her nipples.

9. The Oral Orgasm

This orgasm can be experienced by women who are very sensitive orally. The mouth plays a huge role in a human’s sexual nervous system. This is the reason that kissing causes arousal in both men and women. The mouth orgasm can take place during any intimate activity done orally such as kissing, licking, sucking, or performing oral sex.

It has been described by women as a feeling beginning in their lips and then rushing from the mouth to the genitals, followed by the rest of her body.

10. The Skin Orgasm

This orgasm can come about by sensually rubbing certain areas of female body that are not directly in connection with the sexual nervous system. Examples include orgasms experienced by many women during the typical massage session, face treatments at the cosmetologist, and so on.

11. The Mental Orgasm

This kind of female orgasm can happen during visual and auditory stimulation. Examples of such stimulation are movies, videos, sexual behavior exhibited in front of others, and sexually-charged talk during foreplay. Women become so turned on that they can actually experience an orgasm from excitement alone.

Eddie Fews 


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Are You The Creator or The Consumer?

Peace guys,

I know its been a while, I’ve been too busy “consuming” which brought about the inspiration for this article. I had been asked a question through an email which brought about the epiphany that I’m about to elaborate on in a second. So pardon me while i shake the rust off in this first piece.

The question was: Is watching porn good or detrimental for my dealings with women?

The inquirer went on to say that he believes if someone is already a douche bag, then porn will make them more of a douche man; if someone is already insecure then porn will make them more insecure; but what if that person is strong willed and confident?

So I went on to address his logic first to help him answer his own question:

Cocky douche bag + porn = More of a cocky douche bag

Insecurity + Porn = More insecurity.

So..

Strong mind & Confidence + Porn = More confidence and a stronger mind?

I then went on to make him aware that we do enough watching other people live their lives with television and youtube; do we need to watch people have sex as well? I told him to be the content creator, not the content consumer; That if he must have porn, i’d advise him to go out and make his own.

And thats when I became aware of just how my consumption rate as of late, was far out weighing my creation rate.

I began to ask myself whether or not I was being a consumer or a creator, whether or not I was being a sheep or a shepherd. You see ,the leaders of the world are the creators, they make the material for the followers to indulge in. Its brings me back to and old drake line on his song “Light Up” that went “ And while most of my friends are out partying, I’m just hear making all the music that they party to. So party on, party on, all night..”. I even find it a bit ironic that someone could be at a club or social gathering listening to someone tell them why they aren’t as successful as they could be and its because they’re out listening to this song, and they just continue to dance and sing along. I’m just as guilty and thats sheep behavior at its finest. I’d like to think that line would wake the sleeping shepherds right up and they would exit the club immediately, but nah. We just keep on shaking it.

It brings me back to a conversation I was having with a group of women the led to why men don’t respect them… Every night women are out dancing to a song that was created to degrade and disrespect them. How is a man going to respect you if you’re out dancing to a song that disrespects you? None of our strong women of ancient time would be out jumping up and down and dancing to a song calling them hoes and disloyal. But its 2015, so I guess we just go with it? Cool.

Now while there is nothing completely wrong with consumption, if we’re going to be leaders in society it is imperative that the rate at which we consume is at least equal with the rate at which we create.

If you’re a musician, do you spend more time listening to music or creating music?

If you’re a chef, do you spend more time eating food, or cooking food?

If you’re a writer, do you spend more time reading books or writing books?

Most of us wake up, shower(consume water), brush our teeth(consume tooth paste), eat(consume food), drive to work (consume oil), and work at a job that is more than likely consuming more resources. We then get home, consume tell-lie-vision, eat, and the repeat the process all over again. Anyone with the slightest bit of foresight can see where this type of behavior is going to drive us as a society. So what do we do about it?

Now of course someone has to be a consumer, if we were all creators there would be no one around to enjoy the material that we create. This is just a direct shot to the core readers of my material. Those I’ve found to be the current shepherds and the shepherds at heart.

So I’d like encourage all of the readers to form a new habit. Let that habit be creation. I’m going to start a new consumption versus creation journal and I recommend everyone reading to do the same. Every night before bed write down everything you consumed on one side of the paper, and everything you created on another side of the paper and then see how much you’re really worth. See how much you are actually contributing to society. See whether or not you’re making the world a better place or whether or not you’re just taking up space.

If our planet continues at this rate of consumption, we won’t have one.

Be the creator.


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