5 Quick Tips For A Great First Date

This is a response to the emailer John11236, who asked me for a couple quick tips to ensure that he had a more successful first date while out a coffee this evening. Check out these 5 quick tips.

Tip #1 – If you’ve spoken to her enough to know something small that she likes, under $5 bucks, pick it up on the way tot he date  and wait for the proper moment to reveal it and give it to her.

For example: On my first date with a girl I was talking to in the past, she had texted me an hour before the date ” I’m so excited for our first date. This is a date right? :) – To which I responded something like ” Nope. Its our one year anniversary. We’re going to grab some drinks an celebrate. ” she’s like ” haha okay, see you there”

So on the way, I stopped by a stationary store and picked up a “Happy Anniversary card” – I didn’t write anything in it, but it was a small comical gift and she melted when I gave it to her. (later on in the night she revealed that had baked me some fresh cookies and pulled them out in wrapped ‘happy anniversary’ paper, but thats a story within itself…)

Second example: A woman would tell me how much she loves chocolate chip cookies. So i’d stop by a bakery on my way to meet her and pick up a chocolate chip cookie for her.

And its also very important WHEN you give the gift. Just chill and wait for the moment. This tip can also only be applied if you take the time out to have a conversation with the girl before going out with her. Something I would suggest that all men do. If you can’t last at least thirty minutes on the phone with a woman, then how do you expect to have a steady flow of conversation while on a date. Too many men are trying to rush to waste time on a date with someone they could find out they aren’t compatible with after five minutes on the phone – or video chat.  The technology is here, lets respect our time and use it to our advantage.

Tip #2 – If you feel like conversation is getting stale and/boring instantly suggest that you guys take your coffee and tea in hand and go for a walk. The association with boredom and staleness is tied to everything in that room at that point. A new scenery will almost be wiping the slate clean; opening up new avenues for conversation. I’ve even seen this work inside of my home. If a girl starts to get closed off at the thought of me making advancements, I’d suggest we move to another room in the house. The prior rejections on my escalation are almost forgotten about at that point. Its almost as if it didn’t happen. For whatever reason all the negativity was tied into everything within the room that it was taking place in.

I could go deeper and say that the term en-TRANCE, would suggest that the entering of every new room puts one under a new trance, but thats another topic for another time lol.

Tip #3 – How you start is usually how you finish. So you want to make sure that the initial HELLO is warm, lively and bright. Thats what will initially get the ball rolling. Its always good to get off to a great first start if you can help it. Its like a little snow ball being pushed down a hill. It begins to pick up steam the further and further it gets down the hill. And the bigger it gets, the more force and energy it will take to stop it and push it in the opposite direction. And that goes for a negative start or a positive start. Start off good, and it’ll be tough to stop the ball from rolling in a good way; start off bad and the same happens.

Tip #4 – Physical contact is very important.. Ask to see her hands, hold them in your hands, so you can look at her lines. I’m not expert at palm reading nor do I pretend to be on dates, but its a great way to introduce physical contact. Women love finding out new things about themselves, so even if a date is going bad, she will be open to letting you see her hands at the thought of learning something new about herself. You can even see this at how often women read their horoscopes and take those internet personality test.

Also, the sooner you break the touch barrier the better. Hand holding is an instant signal of romance. When you see two people holding hands its an instant indicator that they are together. Whether that be two girls, two guys, or a guy and a girl. So holding her hand to look at the inside of the palm is still in some way connected to romantic hand holding. The same action and amount of effort is needed to do both.

The top deep line is the love line. And they say that the further this lines curves up to the middle finger, the deeper a persons capacity to love. Look it up if you need to for accuracy, but what’s most important is that you have fun with it. Too much reality can ruin the ‘fantasy’.

Tip #5 – When all else fails, if the conversation just isn’t flowing like you want it to I’m going to give you a quick cold reading technique thats simple and easy to remember. This will at least buy you 5-10 mins to get it together while also honoring part of tip 4 by allowing you to teach her something new. She’ll subconsciously connect you with this new found realization about herself.

You can introduce it as ” Hey lets play this game, it’ll teach you somethings about yourself and allow me to get to know you better. ”

4 Questions and Four Simple Interpretations – Wait until the end to reveal what they mean.

1) You’re in an all white room without windows or doors, give me three separate adjectives to describe how you would feel? ( Most will say: Alone, Scared, Afraid)

2) Whats Your Favorite Color? And three separate adjectives to describe it? (Blue: Calm, Beautiful, Pure)

3) Whats Your Favorite Animal? And three separate adjectives to describe it (Cat: Sexy, Independent, Fun)

4) You’re before and ocean shore, whats the first thing you do? ( Take off my clothes and dive right in)

The first question is a reflection of how you see death..

The second question is a reflection of how you see yourself.. As being.. calm, beautiful, pure.

The third question is a reflection of how others see you.. As being sexy, independent, and fun

And the third is how you go about sex..

Depending on how elaborate her answer is for number four, you can get really in depth about your interpretation. Just make it up and have fun with it.

Apply those 5 quick tips and you’ll be on your way to having a great first date.

Eddie Fews


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4 thoughts on “5 Quick Tips For A Great First Date

  1. Great guide and 100% agree on the physical escalation it’s 90% to go physical when you do and 90% to not when you don’t.. At least that is my experience.. I always try to go for the hands even before getting to the table because then it doesn’t make it weird to do it when you are walking to your car.. (I recommend suggesting she leaves her car there and you will drive her back. Unless she wants to follow you.) Generally I try to steer first dates to places a lot closer to my house than hers so when the natural “where do you live?” type stuff comes up you get to say “oh just down the block and my awesome dog is there holding down the fort”.. Or whatever segways interest in your place. Then it is a 60/40% chance going to your place becomes her idea. Even higher in her subconscious mind.

    I really like the little gift trick. Usually it’s flowers and while most of the girls like that I brought them flowers and tell me how no one ever does it for them it’s not a personalized little meaning thing like what Eddie talks about. That has a lot more power. Unless of course she tells you her favorite kind of flowers or favorite color in general and you bring those.

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